Why do i have a very low s*x drive?

Question

I'm only 20 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for over 2 1/5 years..I have a very low s*x drive.. sometimes i feel like im a 80 year old women! I am never in the mood to do it and i only do it because he is in the mood. but during it, it feels great...I just never want to get started...any idea what could be? and any ideas how to get a better s*x drive? any ideas besides a doctor ( im going anyways) need help!!

and will i ever get a high s*x drive? could i be going through some weird phase?

Answer 1

your hormone levels maybe out of whack. I got to where I hated the thought of s*x so I finally saw a gynecologist, put me on hormone pills with a low dose of testosterone, in 2 weeks I was back to hot to trot

Answer 2

i felt the same way too when i was 20.. but i found out that it was all due to my birth control.. for some odd reason. when i got off my birth control i had it going again. other than that i still have the same problem, try think of role playing or something suductive!

Answer 3

I hate to say it, but I've got the same problem at the minute... and I'm an 18 year old GUY! I just feel so tired all the time. She tried spicing things up, but I really couldn't be bothered. Its putting a strain on the relationship.

You could try exercising in the mornings perhaps. p**n is always a good idea.

Ditto about feeling 80 years old like, lolz.  

Answer 4

try written p**n,

and if that doesn't work, ask your doctor.

Answer 5

The first thing you need to do is figure out why your s*x drive is low and try to help get it back.  I was in your situation and it's not fun without being horny and feeling in the mood when needed.  I also felt like my orgasms (if I would even get one) were really weak.  Probably because of my s*x drive.

However, I tried exercising and dieting but nothing seemed to be working.  I thought I was screwed.  I then found something just as amazing as the vibrator.

My friend at work told me about this stuff she took to raise her s*x drive.  It was a natural herbal supplement and was I lucky to of found it.  Theres no side effects and the s*x drive is just tremendous along with orgasms that are blasting.  The stuff is called Hersolution pills.  At the time I saved money on them at herenhancement.com

What I did was tried out for 3 months and that was really it.  I found taking them every other day or so was the best to stretch it out. After the months were up, I was back to normal with a beating s*x drive and my o****m strength in increased so much.  

Well good luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 6

Your problem may be nothing more than distractions.

Work on making love time with your bf a special event, and unplug or turn off the telephone and light some candles in the kitchen and make love on the table just for a little variety.

Give him a good back rub and while you're doing that take off whatever you have on and I would bet he makes it a special event for you.

Even good s*x can become boring if you let it become routine and you have the power to give it a little variety and excitement.

Also, you may have the feeling that s*x is something that is done TO you, while your bf may feel that s*x is something he is doing WITH  you,,, (big difference).

The s*x drive originates in your mind, and you should be the star player and set the mood.....  

Answer 7

Relax, a lot of people have a less-than-average libido. In fact, half of people in the world do. 'Cause the average is in the middle, geddit?

Anyway, if you want to boost your libido, you could buy hormone junk.

Google 'boost libido' to find sites like this:

http://health.discovery.com/centers/s*x/...

Also, contrary to Mantor's answer, there isn't anything wrong with having s*x with your boyfriend, at least if you enjoy it. s*x has numerous positive qualities, so I think it's good that you're making an effort to get into it.

Answer 8

What bothers me most about this question is not your drive, but that you have s*x just because he want to, do you understand what is wrong with that? I guess not so I will explain. You have s*x with someone because you want to. People don't have the same drives, some are higher than others.

Perhaps you are feeling some guilt about having s*x with him for some reason? Does he not treat you well? There may be a psychological reason, rarely is there a physical reason (s*x is 90% mental).