Why do i have to be so fake??

Question

Why do i feel so insecure in this world, like i dont belong and that nobody cares. I always feel i am faking who i am and that i have to hide away so that i am not noticed! I want to be me but i feel i am not allowed to be and so i just withdraw. I get really depressed but i am actually wanting to be positive and be me, but i pick up from others that i cant be myself and they dont like me!! I am really talented and i run my own business called Wellness Creator which is for Complementary Therapies such as Massage, Aromatherapy, Stress Management etc and i want more clients but i just cant bring myself to be happy and whenever i try and ask if ppl want to be a client they either say no or i just look at people and say to myself they wouldnt want to be clients, nobody would or nobody would come to me and start beating myself up, is it worth continuing, if i cant socialise, shud i give up or start trying to get clients for this business? Also wud it even matter as i just know nobody wud want or need these things anymore? I am also a really good singer and dancer but i will never get to use my talents or be myself and use them cos nobody will ever know the real me! What can i do i am so depressed and tearful??

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear that. What you need is to align "your value"  to some standard value, otherwise you always have a feeling that you are being pulled by other's value. Go to find some stnadard value. Value that will never change even thought the world is changing --- God's value!

Answer 2

Be yourself, f*ck what other people think, and eventually, things will work out because those who really care about you will accept you as you are. If people can't accept the real you, then they weren't worth your time in the first place.

Answer 3

It sounds like you're experiencing clinical depression. This can happen to many people that are otherwise viewed as successful. You have your own business, so you have the initiative and entreprenuerial spirit it takes to take on huge responsibilities.

If you feel you need to put up a front so others don't see the real you - then you really need to look at your life and A. find if all your posing is really necessary - are these people worth keeping around you anyway? or B. just TRUST that others are good and will accept your faults and frailties and love you for yourself.

No one is perfect. Let alone the people you are concerned with impressing.

I've been going through a tough situation with my significant other. I began to question whether he really loved me and if he was still attracted to me. This was after I miscarried. I really started feeling insecure, sad and angry all at once. I started to blame my unhappiness on him.

Then I realized that the real problem was my outlook on things. It's not that he was disappointed IN ME for the miscarriage or less attracted to me, it was that he was upset at himself all along. And because he was afraid that it may happen again (another miscarriage), he became distant. Not even wanting any physical contact at one point.

So, my point is - are you too focused on yourself? Or not enough? Are you placing the responsibility for your "bad" situation on yourself or on others?

I would stop concerning myself with what others might need and start really taking care of myself. The only reason why you secretly seek the attention of others, and yet don't really let them see you - is because you're not really paying attention to yourself right now.

Utilize your own services and RELAX a little willya?