Why do i keep wanting to cheat on my husband?

Question

what is wrong with me?? i love my husband and my family very much, but lately ive been REALLY craving s*x with other men. i am not a w***e, but i cannot shake these feelings. what the h**l is wrong with me?

Answer 1

You should ask my wife.  She did it and got caught.

Answer 2

They say these feelings are normal but its when you start to look for other men and act on it, that's when you have major problems.  

Answer 3

wow i really dont know

i dont get the whole concept of cheating

maybe you need something new and exciting

try to spice things up in the bedroom...

wow that sounds like a magazine

anywho its true...

get a kama sutra book

try new positions or something...

but if you still want to have s*x with other men...

i would split...

honestly... cheating is the last resort... it hurts everyone in the process.... and its not good...

its better to break the relationship then lead them on and what not

Answer 4

Are you bored with your s*x life with your husband?  If so and you love them like you say you do you can do either 2 things:  get professional help, or get a divorce and save your family from all the hurt and pain they will go thru when they find out.  Personally it sounds more like a disease, and you need help before you contact something that bleach wont get rid of.  take care of yourself and your family.  

Best of luck to you and your family.

Answer 5

Every thought we have comes from a belief. It is up to you to know why you have this belief that you should not have a happy marriage.  Some possible reasons are that you think you are worthless, S****y, incapable, dishonest, unlovable, undeserving.  Maybe you have a deep belief that you ARE a w***e, even though you know cognitively you are not, subconsciously you might feel guilt for a promiscuous past or even sleeping with just a couple guys because it was against your upbringing?

You have to get rid of the belief and you can do this by writing down as many things you can think of on a piece of paper about why you might feel this way.  Then sit in a chair close your eyes and take three deep breaths and breathe out hard trough your mouth, think of all the things you wrote. Ask yourself (after you are totally relaxed and in a sleepy, groggy state) are these things true? What is the truth?  What you are actually doing is having your conscious mind communicate with your sub-conscious mind to replace the old belief in your sub-conscious.  You see, the sub-conscious is like the 'driver' in a computer and it controls your behavior.  Your conscious mind thinks and knows and creates things, your sub-conscious controls what you do and how your feel.

Sit there quiet with your eyes closed for ten or twenty minutes until you can 'feel' the new truth.  Then open your eyes.

Answer 6

Because you are not happy with yourself!! By a toy and bring in your husband.

Answer 7

I guess variety is the spice of life.  I think we all become sexually attracted to others from time to time. But just because you are attracted to someone else of feel like you want to have s*x with someone else does not mean you should act on these feelings....don't do it....don't do it.  I would just took it as a sign I needed to focus more on my hubby.  Nothing is wrong with you....your completely normal.

EDIT- I think Elle has a point.  Sometimes we loose security with ourselves and just want to know we are attractive.  You have to be very careful here.  I was very attracted to another man.  I felt VERY VERY guilty because my husband and I have always had such a wonderful relationship, and to top it off this man seemed happily married with children.

My husband has always told me how attractive he thought I was and what not, but I think sometimes we feel we need reassurance from other men who's opinion we respect (not the guy hollering at us in the parking lot).  One day (about a couple of weeks into all of this) the other man told me I looked nice.  Just a very basic compliment.  And the feeling began to go away.  All I needed was that reassurance.

Like I said, be careful.  My situation was all pretty innocent, but I don't think this is always teh case.

Answer 8

I feel there are a few reasons behind this.  First, it seems that being with one person over and over and over... lends itself to a line of thinking that would suggest that something different would be exciting and fun.. just look at the Arbys commercial "same, same, same, now something different". Then there's the fact that the more you try not to think about something, the more you are forced to think about it by shear effort to avoid thinking about it.  

It's probably been romanticized in your mind at this point.. it would go smooth of course and be perfect.. you probably have convinced yourself that you deserve it or have a right to it.. after all, other people do it all the time or perhaps your husband has wronged you and you deserve a payback.  

At any rate, all these things amount to a big delusion.  The truth is, once it happens, you'll hate yourself, it wont be what you expected.. there's risk.. then there is the nasty fall out when the truth comes out, your husband and children will get hurt.  Things almost always have ripple effects or what they call in the military "blow back".  

Once someone has the opportunity and the thought is there, almost no one can talk you out of it.  Hopefully, if you haven't made up your mind already and you see reason in this..  then you'll take a step back.  

Does it seem your thoughts are out of your control?  Does it seem like someone else is driving your thoughts places you don't want to go?  That's because someone else is in control on a spiritual level  If your religious, call it the devil,  if not, call it your id and your ego.. whatever.. the point is.. the only way to get control back of your mind is to stage a revolution in your mind.. I"m not joking... revolt... when thoughts come about other men.. stop them right there.. refuse to think on those thoughts.  This is a biblical concept but you don't have to be religious to understand this.. the mind thinks of a deed and the body follows.... if you want to stop the deed.. then take control back of the mind.  

If you don't want to take back control.. make sure you have protection and get a divorce attorney.  

  

Answer 9

Perhaps you want a man to pay attention to you to prove that you are still attractive etc. Perhaps you crave excitement and attention. Woman are really bad at wanting male attention and being envied by other women -- I see it all the time. And it never ends well. If you really want to get to the bottom of it, see a counsellor; perhaps it will be helpful.

Seeing as you are worried, these thoughts must be extremely persistant. Don't give in. Even if you don't have the same feelings for your husband (which isn't necessarily true), I guarantee it will s***w up your life if you cheat on him. I don't think I need to mention how badly you will hurt him and your family.  

Answer 10

Maybe you just need to calm down and relax you haven't done anything to feel bad about.

Answer 11

I'm gonna be real honest with u here. You better shake them off. If you love ur husband you should not be thinking of anything other than him. Be creative with your husband, talk to him about the future etc. And soon those thoughts will go away. I mean just think about it once to go and do ur craving you'll only regret it afterwords. Good luck.

Answer 12

Inject that sexual energy and desire you're feeling into your intimate life with your husband. Have more s*x with him. Nothing is wrong with you....in all honesty, I think a lot of people go through stages like you describe. The crux is whether or not you act on the urges.  

Answer 13

Your not getting enough at home and better let your husband know this before you roam!