Why do i not like s*x?

Question

i am a 21 year old female and have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. we love eachother very much. he is a great guy and we have a lot of fun together. lately i have been not wanting s*x...at all. i feel like i could go the rest of my life without it. it hurts and the only reason i do it is to make him happy. i'm still very attracted to him, so it's not that. when i was younger, i was turned on all the time, but now i have come to realize i don't like s*x one bit. what can i do? i feel very guilty that i don't want to do it and he is always saying he wishes we were more spontaneous, but i have no urge to come up with anything exciting because i dont enjoy s*x.

Answer 1

As hard as it may be you need to be upfront with him.   The more you talk openly the more you may find out about why you do not like s*x with him.  There may be any underlined  reason that you are not willing to see right now.  You may want to see your Dr. and explain, this might be a chemical issue.  The body is a very complex machine.

Be open and discuss this with him, explain how you feel.  If he does Love  you he will listen and be objective.

Answer 2

You seem to be  asexual, a person with little or no s*x drive. there's not much you can do about it. It's just the way you are

Answer 3

Go to a Health food store and get GOJI 100 by Genesis Today. Don't tdrink any other brand. Goji100 is pure Goji and it really did the job for my wife. Itis a part of our everyday immune system enhancement ritual. Health has a lot to do with s*x and Antioxidants helped us. Foreplay is very inportant if you are having pain during s*x. LOLGoji helps you sleep better and get up feeling rested. Just try it.

Answer 4

There may be something chemically wrong within yourself.  I would say talk to your Gyn. Dr. and see what they suggest.  Maybe you just arent interested in it, or because it hurts it turns you off.  Have you tried lubricants or other positions?  Dont do something that hurts you.

Discuss it with your doctor first though.  

Answer 5

You need to see a doctor,There may be an underlying problem with your endocrine system that you don't know about. Females are much more apt to have problems with low thyroid function which has subtle symptoms at first. Another thing to consider is that you need a little bit of testosterone.(this is a hormone that women have too, just in greatly reduced levels compared with men.

A gynecologist who specializes in Endocrinology may be just what you need.. Don't come to any firm conclusions about s*x until you are sure that it hasn't got something to do with your body chemistry

Answer 6

You should be seen by a doctor. It isn't normal to not enjoy s*x, and it could indicate a serious medical problem. Ignore the first answer, there is plenty that can be done about a low s*x drive.

Answer 7

See an endocrinologist.

It sounds like you have hormonal imbalances.

People (men and women) basically produce three types of hormones, estrogen, progesterone and testosterone. If your testosterone level is low or you are estrogen dominant, your s*x drive drops off.

Proper blood tests will reveal this.  

Answer 8

Change partner..go swinging....a read it ina book...test yr r-ship and it shouldnt just be all abt s*x! if you love him.

Answer 9

asexuality is a viable alternative orientation. check out the link

Answer 10

it sounds like you are in a rut.  if you increased your exercise and sleep, i guarantee your s*x drive goes up...through the roof!

Answer 11

from personal experiences.

maybe before when you were having s*x it felt like thats all it was about.

try doing other things together that you both would enjoy.

sometimes you justt need a break of what you think you dont want

to realize you do.