Why do i put up with this bulls*it?

Question

My husband is a stupid, pathetic, drunk. Does not have a job. Sleeps all day. He is the most bitter, angry person I know. We have been married for 6 years. We have two children, 4 and 5 years old. Actually right now, he is bothering them when they should be sleeping, it's 3:24am. I hate him so much. He makes me tense up every time he gets near me. I would like to divorce him. I also don't have a job. And I have no money. I don't know how to get a divorce with no money. I also would not have anywhere to go. I know I can get a job. but I don't know what else to do.

Answer 1

Maybe he's going through a life crisis? Most of the people I know now are like that.

First of all, try marriage counseling.

If all else fails, go ahead with divorce.

Sucks for the kids though.

I seriously hate divorce though, it's like, what happened to all those vows?

What's the whole point of getting married if there's a way out?

Better not just get married at all. Saves money and time.

Answer 2

how are you supporting the family if your both not working?he can afford beer and your on the internet,which also costs money,hmmm.well a divorce doesn't really cost money.just go to the court house and get the paperwork and fill it out.if your unemployed,there is a financial paper you fill out and that will determine if the courts will waiver the fees.which it sounds like they will.good luck.

Answer 3

If neither of you have a job, how are you supporting your family?  Just a question.  So, I can understand he is a drunk, thats a strike, but how can you get mad he doesn't have a job, when you don't have a job either?  Thats just funny to me.  Sounds like you need to get a job and start saving for your divorce huh?

Answer 4

wow, got yourself a real prince huh?

Answer 5

Seriously get him to get a job what kind of man doesnt even care about feeding his children or get a job your self u need to think about your kids  

Answer 6

Without a job of your own and noplace to go, you're f*cked. Find a job or get some government assistance until you can get on your feet. If he won't leave, take the children with you to the nearest women and children's shelter. They'll help. Good luck.

Answer 7

Why in the world do you have 2 children and neither of you has a job?  Why don't you actually take an active role in your life, get a job, leave the jerk and take care of your kids.  Ridiculous.

Answer 8

Wow. Where is the money coming from to support your two children if neither of you are working??? Seems to me, you would be no worse off than you are now if you left his sorry @ss. Do you have family or friends you can stay with until you are on your feet? h**l, a job at McDonald's is better than stay there and subjecting your children to that kind of behavior. Think about them...what kind of examples are you setting by staying with a guy like that??

Answer 9

:::cringes and groans:::

Josh gives the best advice.

Get a job and get away from this idiot and give your kids a fighting chance.

(When will they bring back eugenics?)

Answer 10

Your husband is drinking because he is also under stress and unfortunately that's the way he is addressing it.  From what you've said it sounds like your family's situation (no job for example) would certainly  be a contributing factor.  Is there anyone you can speak to about where to go?  No one deserves this kind of life.  God put us on this earth to enjoy it.  

I would say look around, ask around see what agencies or people could give you all help or atleast point you in the right direction.  And if you believe in God pray.  He can sort this.

Answer 11

Have you tried marriage counseling??Maybe you need to take a step back for a while and refocus, you have a lot on your plate. What made you marry him. Think about the positive too, not just negative.

Answer 12

Go out and get yourself a job and give your children a better life. It's up to you what you make of your life.

Answer 13

u almost sound like my 2 older sisters....except 4 the married part.i wonder that 2

well u can start by getting a job.not 2 hard.....then save up and divorce him.DO NOT TAKE THAT sh*t!!!guy sounds like a loser  u and ur kids would be better off w/o him.ur only making them suffer

Answer 14

wow..... i cannot even answer this ... except to say grow up.. both of you

Answer 15

So you both don't have a job and have 2 kids? You are worth each other.

Answer 16

Maybe talk to him. Don't take no for an answer!!!! If your parents agree and you are desperate to get away from him they might even offer to pay for you. If worst comes to worst  ask to stay with a friend for a little while.