Why do i reject anybody who gets close to me, or asks me out?

Question

Im 14, and i havent had a bf before. but i dont mind- this isnt the problem :/

The first guy that asked me out i had known for 2 years and we were good friends. out of no where he just asked me out and i said no. he kept asking why and i said because i dont want to and i dont find him attractive. WHICH I DID. HE WAS GOOD LOOKING!

The second guy was an *** tbh, not as good looking, smaller then me, and my friend liked him so thats why i said no to him. so i know why i did that,

And the third guy had asked out one of my best friends and she said no, then 6 months later asked me out. he is really quiet and in personality wise i found him boring so i said no. But we got on really well and as people say opposites attract.

So, now im starting to reject everyone. If ive been talking to someone on msn for a year and they ask to meet up. i immediately block. I think i have issues?!

Why do i keep saying no? to a good guy at the start too!

I must admit. i have body issues. i think im over weight, and im getting a treadmill for xmas so hopefully i'l feel better about myself when i know i have a good body. All of my firnds have bfs, and they keep trying to set me up, but the thing is, im really not interested. WHY?!

Answer 1

Sweetheart, you have answered your own question.  You are not ready to date anybody yet.  Two reasons:  one is you don't feel "qualified" and the other is that you don't feel that spark yet.  

Trust me.  When you meet the right one, you will realize that your body image is a silly reason to say no.  Until then, just tell your friends you aren't ready yet.  

You could accept a few dates, though, just for the practice.  It's cool when you are on a date, and you're not worried about impressing the guy.  You can just have fun, let him pay for dinner, you chip in for the movie, and let him know it's a "no-s*x" evening.  

You may... or may not... be overweight.  If you are, then talk to your doctor about ways to resolve that problem.  

As far as internet dating is concerned... at your age I would say absolutely NOT!   There are a lot of predators out there!  Many are not who they say they are!!  You could go on an approved dating website, when you get a little older, but for now... go strictly with people you know, ok?

Answer 2

Probably the fear of being rejected at a certain point....

Answer 3

Hello miss. Most young men and ladies are a little bit insecure because they don't know what to expect from things. For most girls your age, dating is new, so it's only natural to be cautious. From what I've read, you sound like a very intelligent person, and you are right to block people on MSN you don't know (and they want to meet up). As far as the good-looking boy who asked you out, maybe you should have said yes. If it's not too late, maybe you should ask him out. The worse thing that will happen will that you will get rejected, and I think anyone you ask, including you friends, parents, siblings, etc will say that they would rather take a chance on asking someone out even if it means getting rejected. Besides, it probably won't happen since he already asked you out (you know he likes you), and if he says no, then you get to feel rejection! You'll understand it a little better... Rejection sucks, but it's really not a big deal. It's one of those things that's better to understand than to avoid. The more you avoid it, the fewer boyfriends you will have...

Answer 4

Well,there's no reason to reject someone you like.Just be honest with them.Look,I'm a sort of Phycologist so I'll help.You might not be interested because of something in the past?If a guy likes you and wants to go out with you,go for it!Try new things.It might've been a mistake on saying no to a very good friend but trust me I've done it before.There'll be other good guys in the future.Just remember that if you like someone it doesn't matter on the past of rejects think of now not the before.Just hope that the first guy and u r still good friends.Hope that helped!

Answer 5

BECAUSE YOU ARE SCARED.you are of confrontation and you have fear of whats to come.you seem like you have social anxiety issues.break your habbit and actually let some people in your life.if you keep this up you are just going to be alone,that simple.

IF YOU WANT THE TRUTH IM NOT GOING TO BE SOFT ON YOU :D

stop rejecting people by your own fears and accept people for who they truley are.you also have insecurities with who you are so you probobly reject people thinking about what they think of you and you gve out a energy wanted to be left alone,

hope this helps and i hope you get better.TIME HEALS ALL AND IF YOU WANT TO CHANGE YOU AHVE TO TRY =)