Why do i start crying when this happens?

Question

first of my parents are divorced. the reason i say that is because my dad wants me to live with him but I never wanted to live with him but me and my brother always lied to him and said that we wanted to live with him because of feelings. i just had to say that because i think it is linked to what i'm going to say next.

me and my family today started moving to a our new house and we were using my dads truck to move so my mom and dad were both there. okay so during the day there was a discussion of who was staying where and i said that i would be staying at the old house for the night and everything seemed fine. But then at night time i found out that i would be staying at the house alone with no one so i realized i did not want to. so i tried to find a way to ask my dad if i could stay at his house for the night but i started crying and i could not ask him then i went in the house and went to bed. how come i started crying?

Answer 1

Divorce is very hard and if you really think about it it's almost like a death (though nobody died physically...every thing has changed permanently).  The worst part of being a child or adult child of divorce is that you have no real say in what is going on ,and worse yet you sometimes feel like you are responsible for trying to help each of them through this difficult time.  It is perfectly normal to be: angry, hurt confused, torn between each parent, concerned with making sure that their okay etc..but it's also important to acknowledge that YOU are going through one of the most difficult, hurtful, and confusing experience of your life.  Tell your parents how you feel  reach out to them...they sound like they are decent caring people and love you very much.      

Answer 2

Your emotions tend to cause you to react in ways that you never thought you would before.  I'm guessing that the stress of your parents splitting and moving to a new house and dealing with  your own emotions about your parents divorce is taking its toll on you.  I am also someone who tends to hide my feelings until it gets to the point where it boils over and comes out at the strangest times.  Someone asks you how you are and I sometimes just burst into tears.  Don't feel like it is weird or silly to react that way.  Crying is a good way to get what's bothering you out of your system.  Has your grandparent or even  your parents ever told you that a good cry always makes you feel better?  Well it does.  It may not always make the situation better but it does help you to feel better.  Talking to friends or even to one or both of your parents about how you feel may also help you.  It is a hard situation for everyone involved but if you're honest with how you feel then you won't be adding extra stress  into your situation.  good luck!

Answer 3

Your probably hate the feeling of being alone or separated and just realized now that your family might never be together again.

Answer 4

Is it possible that you cry because deep down you really don't want to stay with him?  Maybe your subconscious feelings come out that way.  It could also be a guilt feeling inside you for not wanting to stay with Dad.  When i was 12 my parents divorced and the guilt I felt was awful.  I used to cry whenever I had to leave my Mom.  I hope this helps.  Hang in there.

Answer 5

You started crying because although you wanted to stay with your dad that night, you didn't want to falsely lead him into thinking that you will be staying there from now on.  

You were also probably not comfortable in staying alone (which is normal).  Also, factor in that it's your last night in a house that you may have stayed in for a few years and now it's time to move on.

I think things are pretty normal for you, but I also think that you need to be honest with your parents as to where you really want to stay.  Your parents love you, they'll understand.  

Good luck