Why do i still get angry?

Question

after a divorce, i still get angry at my ex-husband and the woman that made me divorce him. she says bad things about my child, and even he gets upset with her. But why do i still get worked out emotionally over what he does? even though i have someone else? everytime my boyfriend and i argue, i think about my ex and i get bitter over him and what he did to me and not my boyfriend. i keep thinkin he is to blame for everything that is happening to me presently, another thing is that i find it hard to come to terms with all the bad things he did to me. pls offer your advice>

Answer 1

You need to seek some counseling...and try to quit living in the past.

Your current man should not have to pay for someone else's mistakes.

Also - you need to tell your EX that his priorities are jacked up if he wishes to stay with a woman who bad mouths his child...

Good luck.

Answer 2

I don't blame you she sounds like a real piece of work,

I think your still hurt or this betray of trust from your x and that one has no right to talk about you or your child.But I think you should move on now and start dating again.Start a new life now and forget about that loser x and his new flossy. He did it to you and he will do the same to her so forget about him and move on in your life with some one new.I think your at a stand still in your life, get out there and date you might want to exercise or workout a bit to help keep your mind clear.Fine a new love to fill in the emptiness of your loss.Not all men are like him and wouldn't cheat on you hon! Hope you start seeing and dating other men soon that my dear is what you need to do now that your free.

      

Answer 3

because you still have feelings for him.  

Answer 4

going through a breakup is a very emotinal; and stressful time it can bring out the very worst and the very best i understand about going through the highs and lows it is like being on a roller coaster and the goy controlling it will not shut it off to be angry at some one who cheated on you or left you is is the only naturall reaction there is you wonder how someone you shared intimacy with shared hopes dreams and fears with could betray and humiliate you so badly you have to be angry or you are not humane i always try to look at and remember the good things the sadness we shared raising our boys together and sometimes thar helps  

Answer 5

Because you're still in a bad relationship with your ex, an angry relationship. You're always going to be in a relationship with him. You have a child. Even if you didn't, relationships don't end, they just change. You need to change this one. Counseling, psychologists, etc. Until you do, you have no business being in another, as you are seeing.  

Answer 6

Pretty natural to have that reaction.  Just realize that you were the classy one - he acted like the idiot - and then understand how much better off you are without him.  Start having new experiences with new people and move on with your life.  Good luck.  

Answer 7

remembering is to re live the moment

Answer 8

I think it is all about betrayal. When you give someone your heart and they stomp on it, you can't help but feel upset. If you are in a relationship that reminds you too often of your ex, it may not be the right one for you.

Your ex is a sorry individual if he stays with a woman who he acknowledges treats your child badly.

My husband comforts me when my ex drives me insane. Ex's tend to get under your skin if you have unresolved issues.

Answer 9

Honey, you're human.  It's obvious that he really hurt you and has left emotional scars...the new woman in his life, too.  When you have kids and they're hurt, it makes it even harder on mothers.  

I've learned that the best way at getting back at him is to let go.  It may be in your best interest to seek some counseling, either through your church or a psychiatrist, and work through your anger and other issues that were left unresolved in the end of that relationship.  It wouldn't hurt your son, either, for that matter.  

Just because you get emotional doesn't mean you still have feelings for him...it just means you're human!  You're a mother, that obviously cares for her son, and it hurts.  What really got me, after hubby and I separated, was the fact that I actually was capable of loving someone that could hurt his kids and I so bad...I actually loved someone that once said he loved me unconditionally, yet he's now able to hate me and treat me like I'm a piece of trash...and then he can do it to his own flesh and blood.  That's why you're still having problems with the ex!

God bless you, Darlin'.  I know it's difficult, but live your life, love your son, and don't let that jerk get you down!!

Answer 10

If you really believed in the phrase, MOVE ON,you wouldn't be concerned about your ex,since your also in a new relationship.You have an attitude problem that is holding on to him,& until you work through that,you'll be in limbo.Get counseling & be kind to yourself.

Answer 11

I know how hard it is to get over your ex, even if you already have a boyfriend. I'm bitter and think about him whenever i argue with my boyfriend! It's a sad fact, but i think even after our exes did something to hurt us, we still care for them, we still have feelings for them. It's pretty hard to let go of someone. We had a lot of bad times and we had a few wonderful times. I think the bad outweighs the good, but when you are going through something rough, you think about the good times. I know it's easier said than done, but try to let him go. It'll take you a while, but try. You'll be bitter and angry and sad. If you keep letting it get to you, you'll make it harder for yourself to let someone else love you. Or even to love yourself. You need to let go of the past (of all the bad things he did), but you don't have to forget the good times. Keep those locked away, but don't compare them to your current boyfriend. It was wonderful while it lasted. But if he moved on, you should allow yourself to do the same.

And the about the other woman, do not allow her to say anything bad about your child! >( Besides, she's probably just jealous of you anyway! :)

God Bless.

Answer 12

it kinda sounds like u still

love ur ex boyfriend even though

he did whatever he did to u