Why do i turn down guys i like???

Question

i always do it and always regret it afterwards..i was out with my friend the other day and her bf and a mate came down and we got talking and them i found out he liked me and i told my friend i wanst interested..but now i wonder why i said it and its too late...and this isnt the first time it happened..im attractive so i dont know if i just have really high standards or i subconsiously dont want a man...help

Answer 1

it comes to you fast so you dont know what to say you need to think about it first

Answer 2

It's very possible that you just aren't interested. It happens.  

Answer 3

maybe it's your ego...?

then again, since you've learned your lesson, i guess you have to remember next time that there's no harm in trying... =)

Answer 4

Try mingling and enjoying the dating scene. U'll do great eventually. U see rome wasn't built in one day. Try and try till u succeed. :)

Answer 5

it is perfectly ok to spend part of life enjoying life without being in a relationship.  

enjoy your freedom to be and learn and grow NOW.

eventually when the person for you comes along, you will be ahead in life because you won't have these doubts.

Answer 6

Sounds like an emotional problem

Answer 7

you may be shy, my dear

Answer 8

I think deep down you are scared of getting rejected. You say you are attractive so maybe you feel that is what attracts them and that is all they see and not your personality. When they see that you haven't got a great personality they will leave. I'm not saying this to be mean but that is what I feel and I have seen it in others.

I use to feel that I had really high stanadards and in a way I still do, but as soon as you see that others aren't perfect you will feel attraction towards others and lower your standards to something more realistic.

Answer 9

Scared is a word that comes to mind....  

Answer 10

I do that too. But then the guy I really liked hooked up with a girl and a year later they're still together...so you bet I'll never do it again!! I don't know the reason, maybe it's not that you don't want a man but you're scared he wants to be more serious than you do or the other way around. Give him a text now, just say "hey how are you?", that's what the guy I liked used to text me and I loved it because he was just texting because he thought of me. Go for it!! Push yourself and you won't regret it :)

Answer 11

I've seen a lot of young girls on Advicenators do this countless times.  My guess is the reason you turn them down is to find out if they like you.  It's true that women liked to be chased by men--we like to know we are wanted and desired.  Sometimes we're a bit ditsy though and end up not giving a man enough signals to let him know that we're interested in him before we turn and run away.

So, you're not alone in this respect.

You should just stop and speak your mind.  Don't try to get the guy to chase you before things even spark up.  Let things spark and then wait for him to call you--direct these feelings into something manageable like that.