Why do introverts understand extroverts, but not vice versa?

Question

I understand why some people love to be out and everywhere. But why do outgoing people have to judge "inner people", and call them boring and so on.

Answer 1

Perhaps "out going" people never give themselves time to think....too busy trying to impress everyone. They want social status even if it makes them look foolish.

An introvert has time to  mull over their thoughts and analyse the world around them.  

Being a mixture of BOTH is great!  

There is no line between the two....either extreme sucks!

All a person can be is themselves!  

A mixture of both is ideal.......

Answer 2

I used to be so shy as a teen up until my early twenties. You know whats funny is I felt like people thought I was boring until they got to know me. It made me feel bad. Then they would always try to get me to do things out of my comfort zone. Now days I'm pretty out going, but I still love to do things in small groups and I enjoy my alone time. Maybe these people who think that introverts are boring, need others to hide the fact that they are really the boring ones.

I'm always sticking up for the shy people because they tend to come off as stuck up or weird to some, but thats not true. Its just like everything else, some people don't like what they don't understand.

Answer 3

i am an extrovert... us extroverts call "inner people" boring because they are to us. Why do "inner people: call :outer people" annoying and hyper. oyur answer probably is, "because it's true. well same for us pal.

Answer 4

Because they aren't observing like the inroverts are...they don't notice OTHER people in this world all they care about are themselves...okay not ALL of them...but a lot of them

Introverts take a lot of time observing other people and their reactions and take more note of other people's feelings.....

Answer 5

this is because what they do think is right.

Answer 6

because Introverts are thinkers.

Extroverts just let it out

Answer 7

Because extroverts are thinking of themselves. They are their own top priority. introverts stay to themselves and exhibit the world and people around them. I agree with what everyone here is saying.

Answer 8

:) my opinion is: by definition extroverts like to engage and talk and communicate. but this means they spend less time listening and understanding and observing. without doing these things, they are less able to understand others - heck they are less able to understand themselves, which can often be a problem at around mid-life.

also, when extroverts irritate introverts, the latter generally clam up and/or go away, if at all possible. but introverts irritate extroverts too, because extroverts need attention and interaction, which introverts tend not to give so willingly. instead of going away, extroverts will tend to turn to criticism because they tend to consider attention and interaction to be due to them - which are considered optional, at best, to introverts.

there are exceptions to the rule, of course. some extroverts do take the time to genuinely get to know people, and some introverts are not open to accepting people, even if they understand the motivations of those people.

Answer 9

I think, being an introvert, that this is very true.

Answer 10

Extroverts call introverts boring because, to introverts, they are.

Introverts understand extroverts because they spend more time thinking and analyzing themselves and others.

Personally, as an introvert, I find extroverts very boring.  There's only so many times that being loud is interesting before you're just adding to the noise.  Trying to come to a genuine understanding of something?  Now that is interesting.

Answer 11

they dont bother thinking long enough to actually try to comprehend

plus they dont want to think they are the real weird people

Answer 12

Introverts seem to be more observant.

Answer 13

Lets use a driving analogy.

If you're cruising around on a sunny day, enjoying the scenery, the music and the experience then you decide to hit the accelerator or enter the highway, you feel a bit of a thrill. These are the introverts. Therefore.. Wee! This is kinda fun.

Though if you have been on the highway for an hour or more going at 10-20 miles past the posted highway speed limit THEN you have to exit and slow down to city speed limits... you feel like your car is not moving. aka. Booooring. These are the extroverts.

It's all a matter of perspective and how that perspective is anchored/framed.

Introverts tend to be more cerebral. Extroverts more emotional.

But the trump card is that, say without sound, you watch a video of an introvert enjoying his/her book or reflecting on life and you watch an extrovert laughing it up at a party.. the extrovert looks like he's having a blast and living his life. Looks like.

Answer 14

Extroverts...like myself tend to be more selfish. Too loud to listen to anyone else especially if the other people are too quiet to speak up! They are just too busy with themselves and there own drama to even care about yours.

Answer 15

because introverts spend time thinking about what they often want to be, ( more extroverted) but extroverts are often pretty fine with being extroverted, and so they spend less time trying to understand introverts

Answer 16

its because introverts can study behaviors of themselves and other people and link them to reasons and origins. so when someone exhibits a certain behavior, they understand because of a logical process. Introverts are also more receptive to emotions.

Answer 17

thats a good question. i guess you could call me an introvert, but i think its because introverts spend more time observing, while extroverts are out there talking and talking and talking. oh and usually extroverts aren't too smart (: no offense...

Answer 18

Well, extroverts see the enjoyment they get from human relationships and want others to experience that. Of course, everyone's need for socialization vs. solitude differs. Don't force yourself to be someone you're not, but I would encourage every person to learn how to relate to other people and make them comfortable. This is a good skill to have regardless of whether you are introverted or extroverted.

Also, think about this...can you imagine an old dying person saying "Dear Lord I wish I had spent more time alone" or "I wish I had spent more time with other people." :)

Answer 19

be cause we see more than just one big picture we see all other smaller pictures and there details and they only see what's big and right within their mental reach instead of going a little further like we do (not saying extroverts are dumb)they just see what they CAN see

Answer 20

introverts are always listening, talking less. extroverts don't listen as much, therefor they don't understand as well.

Answer 21

Extroverts feed off peoples energy and like to express emotion and be around people who express themselves as well.

When they talk with someone who is reserved, shy and not really saying what's on their mind, this comes off as them not "being themselves" and can make an extrovert think they are weird or lack self confidence.

I consider myself an extroverted introvert and most of my best friends are introverts because once they are comfortable with you they have a lot of interesting things to talk about other than partying.

Answer 22

i think they do understand to a certain extent but because they of extroverts and all of course they are gonna try and talk to you about it

Answer 23

Many extroverts are a bit "challenged".

Answer 24

Sorry I can't tell you-I'm too shy *Blush*

Answer 25

Because introverts think more about these things and have a better understanding about people in general, whereas extroverts tend to be a bit more preoccupied with friends and other things.

Answer 26

tooooo busy tryin to get attention

Answer 27

cuz introverts have the time to listen to extroverts

extroverts are too busy talking

Answer 28

I think it's hard for a party person to understand why someone would just want to sit at home.

Answer 29

Introverts are too quiet and want to listen to themselves

Extroverts have too much mouth and prefer to think for themselves.

Answer 30

They say those things because they  "don't understand".  If your happy who cares about their judgments.  I always say if people have time to talk about me I'm flattered..  I love being alone it is great!