I have never understood why portfolios from people who what to adopt children are addressed as “Dear Birthmotherâ€Â. One “adoption encyclopedia†defines a birthmother as “The biological or genetic mother of an adopted child; the woman who, with the birthfather, conceived the child and who carried the pregnancy to term and delivered, then subsequently placed the child for adoption.â€Â
So, if a letter is addressed as “Dear Birthmotherâ€Â, is it not true that the authors of the letter are too late to get the child? Has not the child of a “Birthmother†already been adopted?
I have read that some hopeful adoptive parents object to addressing their letters “Dear Birthmother†but have been told by their agencies that they are required to do so. (Hats off to adoptive parents who “get itâ€Â!)
Can anyone tell me why people persist in addressing letters as “Dear Birthmotherâ€�
Note: Apologies to people who are offended by the “birthmother†label. I hate it too!
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