Why do many women think THEY have the authority to define a "REAL MAN"?

Question

"CatRose" Good answer. I don't care what they think. I just think they are out of place telling a man what to do or how to act.

Answer 1

I doubt beginning a statement by questioning someones manhood, is likely to have the result one is looking for...

Answer 2

Am I missing something here? I don't know who defined 'REAL man' to you, but I won't. Its not my job.

You think you can define 'REAL women', but cant agree if someone defines a 'REAL man'. It works both ways don't you think?

Answer 3

Interesting question, can I repost it ?

I dont think they think they have the authority to define a real man I think they think men are so desperate for approval that by telling them what a real man has to do they can get men to do what they want them to do.

Answer 4

They are saying that because that is what thier idea of a perfect mate would be.  They read it in COSMO and other magazines. Nobodys perfect, nobodys the same, and the ladies need to deal with it.

Answer 5

Most women's thinking is dictated by the mass media. They believe anything the media tell them. It's not healthy.

Answer 6

I don't think it has anything to do with s*x and gender rather it has to do with simple respect, responsibility, and human decency.  And that goes both ways with men and women.

Answer 7

for the same reason men think they have the authority to define a "real woman" by objectifying, exploiting, and having exerted their 'power' over them for centuries.  Women have learned from the best...

Answer 8

yes that may be so, but how many men have oppresed women?

far more, count yourself lucky if that is all you have to cope with.

Answer 9

Are you saying men on here aren't always trying to tell women what feminine is?

Answer 10

We define Real Man as pertains to our personal preference.

Answer 11

It's like reverse psychology.  For example: A woman wants a man who isn't afraid to show emotion, so she says "Real men aren't afraid to cry."  Many men fall for it.

The reason it doesn't work the same when men say something about 'Real women' is that women are too smart to fall for this trick.

Answer 12

Because you are talking about physical characteristics that a person can not develop - We are talking about the 'character'  of a person.   Those that indicate he has respect and the ability to care for others.  

EDIT: You just don't like my answer.   We will have to disagree.

claps for Joe-

Answer 13

I agree with you. Real woman are submissive and beautiful inside. I don't define what a real man is, but I only date "real men"

Answer 14

Its simple Watson! Its normally a biased opinion from their own experience in which they (we) set standards and criteria to look for traits and features we find appealing and eliminate those we've experienced negatively and  find less than appealing. Just like some men do about women. Then there are those that are not discerning at all in their choices.

Answer 15

I don't think that a woman has a right to say what a "real man" is. Being a man(not just male) is about integrity and honour. Your integrity and honour can only be judged by your peers in manhood. Women will never experience the need to uphold their masculinity and such they cannot be proper judges. They may tell you what they want a man to be like, but the only thing that matters is the standard upheld by other men.

Mike T, I wholeheartedly agree with your assertion.

Answer 16

This would be yet another "success" of feminism. That is the creation of more double standards that favor women over men. In  my mind at least, this whole idea of defining a real man comes down to something called "shaming language", which is a form of control. Conform with what women define as acceptable or there'll be no s*x for you, young man.

Answer 17

huh, I've never REALly noticed that.

I think the must be referring to the personality traits that it takes to be a "real person" (male or female)  like having a backbone, always doing what's right, standing up for and behind your mate through thick and thin, taking care of your friends and family, putting others before yourself, thinking before doing/speaking. That kind of stuff.

To make a comment like "real men are controlling, tall dark and handsome" (to go off your comment about a real woman) Is a REAL crappy way to describe a man as your comment was a REAL crappy way to describe a woman.

I can understand though if they are saying something like "a real man/woman would talk to their mate about this issue rather than be talking about it on line with all of us" Or "if you were a real man/woman you would be paying the child support you owe to your child".... THAT kind of thing makes more sense.

Answer 18

, It is just an individual preference about men, A real man  to me has an integrity,successful,strong mentally , physically and compassionate,his few words is meaningful. No one authorize  me to think on my definition of a real man. And if some one will attack me because of my personal  definition of men,I will think that they are foolish...

Answer 19

we women just know what turns us on (&/or off)  that's how we define a "REAL MAN"....

A Real Man is a man that is well balanced...it's not all about looks, it's more....personality is a very important part of a "REAL MAN"....not one that that does nothing but think with his "totum pole"....

Answer 20

Everyone has their opinion on EVERYTHING, whether you ask for it or not! The important thing is that you are true to yourself. You'll go crazy if you listen to 10 different women on any subject! It doesn't matter what 'they' say, only what you feel.  Why does it bother you what they think anyway?

Answer 21

Because women are incredibly self centered and selfish. Notice that every time they define a 'real man', it's with behaviour that benefits only themselves? It's essentially shaming a man to mold him to do what she wants him to; this is classic female manipulation.

Answer 22

As a person I am allowed to express a fantasy of what an ideal man is. I do not believe everyone should conform to it but I fantasise about it. Likewise, I have no qualms with your fantasy of a woman. You are just being passionate, even if I happen not to agree with you.And please stop putting the disparate words in your question in higher case...It is so rude and bloody obnoxious!

Answer 23

Note: there is no such term as a "real woman" because upon entering puberty, our culture considers all women to be "real"

It's only the men who have to somehow prove their manhood, and lately the definition is coming from the menstrual set.

Answer 24

I think some women just use that as a way to try to make a guy feel badly. They (the women) usually use this tactic when in an argument and have nothing good to say. Another tactic use in this scenario is questioning a man's p***s size or saying the guy probably does not get a lot of :"action" It's like, if women like this (usually feminists) don't have a leg to stand on, they go into attack mode.

Answer 25

Because theyre stupid. Any woman who thinks they have authority to what a man is or should be is very ignorant.

Answer 26

probably the same reason you think you have the authority to define a real woman

Answer 27

A "real man" can do what he wants without being concerned with what fems have tried to brainwash him into doing. That's my definition when I use that term, sorry for the confusion.

Answer 28

I don't like anyone defining what a "real" man is or what a "real" women is.

A real man is a person with a p***s, and a real women is a person with b*****s and a v****a, anything beyond that is just peoples opinions of their ideal man or women.

Its not just women who do it , men do it too, in fact a lot of men here have stated what a "real" women is, submissive,maternal, good at cooking and cleaning, etc, but that's just there opinion.

At the end of the day there all just opinions, why would it bother you anyway?

Answer 29

maybe that's what they expect real men to be,because to them that's considered s**y.

Answer 30

We don't. Definitions of "real men" and "real women" beyond anatomy are just opinions, and that's all we're expressing.

Answer 31

No no you have it all wrong. It's only men that drone only boringly about 'real men'. If a woman says a 'real man' she means not the ridiculous sterotype of being aggressive, overprotectice and arrogant but a REAL man being a human being, that DOES have emotions strengths and weaknesses. That doesn't need to puff himself up with the big I am to be considered strong.