Why do men cheat? Male answers preferred.?

Question

I am wondering why men cheat and have short, casual affairs (even if it doesn't involve s*x) when they are happily married. Is it the thrill of the chase? Do they just like to feel attractive to people other than their wife? Do they think the mistress is more attractive than their wife or do they cheat with less-beautiful women? Is it for the s*x, the relationship, the excitement? Do they love the mistress more than the wife or are no feelings involved? Do they just want to experience the bachelor life again? Do they enjoy the risk? I am sure the reasons vary for different men but I would like to hear some answers from a male cheater's perspective. Women are welcome to comment but I am more interested in the male thought process.

Answer 1

1.  because they aren't getting enough s*x

2.  because something is bothering them about the woman, causing them to not have interest in s*x, so they aren't getting enough s*x

3.  not enough s*x

4.  they met a hot chick who offered easy s*x and they couldn't help themselves, probably because they weren't getting enough s*x at home.

5.  lack of s*x

The average man would prefer to get s*x at least 2x week, and at least once a month the woman would initiate it.  And, the woman will gladly show interest at least 50% of the time that the man initiates it.  Any less than any of these will result in a risk situation.

The average man also would prefer NOT to have any other emotional or friend s*x relationships because they are complicated and just add to his weight of what the h**l to do about getting more s*x.

Looks have very little to do with it, however body image and attitude does have a lot to do with it.  The wife definately does not need to be pretty.  A nice figure is great and most guys like that, however they don't cheat because of fat wives, they cheat because their wife doesn't like her own body and therefore she acts weird and conservative.  That causes risk.  So... for all women, take note... DO NOT blame your s*x problems on your looks or your body.  

Answer 2

Valerie X.......You so don't understand....DO you honestly think that if a man asks his wife for s*x and shes says no that he automatically goes out looking for an affair???

It doesn't happen that way. It happens after months and years of rejections. It comes to a point when a man feels that he has no worth so when a women does pay him attention he unfortunately buckles in a weak moment and engages in the affair.

It is not as easy to "just divorce" and move in. Unfortunately sometimes children are involved, a mortgage, co-mingled financial obligations, other family obligations.

Stop walking through life with your black or white attitude and understand that not everyone is as "enlightened" as you.

Answer 3

all the same reasons women cheat, and I know a bunch of them that have.

Answer 4

becuase mistresses' are so into the husband, they let him do all the naughty things you don't : )

you'll never hear "no, don't put it in there"...

Then, it's back to earth,  and back to all the nagging..  and complaints.

Answer 5

I'm going to have to say all of the above.  You hit the nail right on the head, kiddo.

Answer 6

I never have in 11+ years and never plan on it!

Answer 7

When men cheat it's because they are not getting their needs met at home-whether it be s*x, someone to listen to them, or to let them do their hobbie(s) without being bothered.

Answer 8

Some men do it for power over women..some for attention...some for the game and the conquest...never for love.  Men who do this also are outspoken about it..as are the men who successfully cheat with other mens women.  I don't understand why they do it but above are the main reasons why.  If they spent the energy improving their own relationships, it would be a much better world

Answer 9

I've been married for over 12 years, and I gotta admit it, now that I think about it, I cheat once every month. It's just so thrilling to cheat, knowing that you are gonna get away with it.

Answer 10

90% of the time they don't get fed at home and eat out.

Answer 11

Usually the mistress is more fun/wild than the wife.

Also sometimes if you have s*x with the same woman for too long the excitement goes away and you already *know* her naked. That's when a new woman is so much better.

Answer 12

all of the above...but it's also simple biology.  look at nature and it is the main objective of the male to spread his seed so to speak.  

Answer 13

"Answer Dude" is my HERO.....

There is no excuse to go "eat out".....LOL

If you're unhappy, file for divorce and move on.

ADD** Latin, my friend - Judging by some of your answers, I think you married the WRONG lady. Not all women are like that!

Latin - My husband has never cheated on me. He is my best friend. But my son's father did - REPEATEDLY. We are friends now and he has told me I was good to him but he just wanted....variety! Go figure! LOL

ADD ** I recently saw on some morning show that alot of "happily married men" cheat. In fact - they are now claiming that it is in people's genes to cheat!! How scary is that? Just what we need - MORE excuses from cheaters as to why they were not being decent human beings! TO me, it is all about strength. You are either willing to be strong and fight for the person you married or you will be strong enough to know when it's time to let go and move on.

Answer 14

Cause they have no respect for their marriages and value a 4 second o****m over their wifes feelings. Thats why. Stay far away from such men. They're trouble and they give all decent men a bad name  

Answer 15

I have been with my wife 10+ years. The thought has not even crossed my mind. If you really love your partner then cheating is not an option.

Answer 16

Oh God I am getting sick of hearing "They aren't getting their needs met"......If "I" were to go out and s***w a guy EVERY single TIME my "needs" weren't met, I'd probably of screwed every man in the State of Illinois by now!

Answer 17

I cheated. 17 years of being together living with my wife who was diagnosed as bi-polar 3 years ago. She was never romantic, affectionate, hands on and s*x sucked. Sorry.

I went to my church counselor seeking help. I begged my wife to get engaged in the relationship and she laughed at me. On top of the verbal abuse from her and my friends as couples wouldn't go out with us, it started to trigger. I asked her to please, please go to a counselor with me. Said it was all my fault and then disappeared for 3 weeks. I was very hurt. I showered her with everything I had to give. Not just the dozens and dozens of roses and cards, but kind acts to show how much i appreciated her in my life.  The marriage became empty. I denied it for years because I wanted to make it work and do the right thing and ended up making a very bad decision and found someone else.  It didn't last long, but as a christian, there is no excuse for cheating and I repented. For me, I'm a romantic. First thought in the morning of your wife and last thought before we go to sleep. Cuddle, movies and FUN!  She was never that type. My family brought me up that love has no boundries and she always had a controlling boundry for something.  I lost it.  So..in my case, I was trying to save a failed marriage and just wanted to feel wanted, needed, held and loved.  It's not a matter of attraction or s*x, excitement,. It was painful for me to cheat and I confessed to God.  My wife has her own boyfriend and it's going no where.  I'm interested in attention. I'm a simple guy that wears his emotions on his sleeve and cares about the people he hurts or helps. That's why it was painful to cheat because I was hurting my wife. When I married, it was for life. I gave it my all. Both of you have to want it. Go to your church counselor or find one. Don't ask the things you want for your own personal gain, put God in the middle. What would he do? Best wishes.