Why do men cheat when they have a good women whom they love and appreciate?

Question

My boyfriend and I have a great relationship. Truly happy with no drama. We have the normal disagreements that are inevitable in relationships but nothing big. He hasn't cheated on me but I think it's only based on circumstance. The fact that the other girl isn't available when I'm not around type of thing. Or maybe he has cheated on me and denies it. I just know I caught him being sexually inviting to other women on several accounts and I threaten to leave and he wakes up and stops but when he is in the clear he is at it again. It has become a pattern. He says it stops now but I don't know if I should give him another chance. I know he loves me perhaps more than I do him. No doubt he shows it. He blames his actions on the fact that all his prior girlfriends cheated on him and he is insecure in this relationship but at this point he made this same mistake so many time that I don't believe that. I think this is just who he is. A guy that really really loves his girl but needs extra attention whether emotional, sexual, etc. My brian hurts thinking about all this madness.

Answer 1

There are a lot of underlying things that could cause a guy to stray. At the begining of my relationship, my fiance loves me but cheated on me with his Ex, there were a lot of circumstances surrounding the situation, including the guilt trips that she still had power to use over him. When it comes down to it, it is still the guy's bad decision whatever the reason. Bottom line, if he truly cares & it is a real problem he has; he will get help for it and stay faithful. But if he makes a mistake it doesn't have to be the end, it's all up to you two.

Answer 2

how exciting is s*x with you and your boyfriend,, ask him what u can do to spice things up...  

Answer 3

frankly speaking CHEATING IS CHEATING, no excuse can justify it,

insecure guys dont go looking for other girls, actually they try ther best to make ther girl happy, insecure guy cant cheat his girl, you know why "IF I CHEAT HER, SHE WILL LEAVE ME" thats what feeling of insecurity is, insecurity turns a man into a kiss as.s not a cheap cheat, he's not insecure, he's trying to be over smart, now its ur time to act smart & DUMP HIM its for your good baby, you are a sweet girl & you deserve better than this, dont let him play with your feelings

Answer 4

Why can't people realise that s*x is natural and humans are not naturally monogamous? We have been brainwashed into monogamy by peoples insecurities.

Answer 5

Insecurity can make a person cheat...I disagree with the fellow earlier.

If he feels he can't keep you or if he feels he loves you more than you love him he may not believe you two will be together for the long haul!

Help him with his insecurity confront it.....maybe something you are doing to give off this vibe.