Why do men do this? ?

Question

SO I'm not saying all men do this but maybe the men who do this or their friends can explain this to me. So I had a feeling that my b/f was trying to cheat so I set up a fake profile and ofcourse he fell for it. Was trying to meet up with the girl and just trying to cheat. We haven't talked since till yesterday when I had a friend return his stuff from my house with a note. So he texted me saying he didn't read the note and didn't need an explanation from someone who set him up. So this was mistake, I responded It wasn't for you it was for me so I could get out how I felt guess it's to much to ask for you to responsibility for your actions. So then he tried to say the reason he did it was because I'm selfish or in his words "It's not my fault hun if your vocab had more words in it then just i and me and was more like us and we things would have been different" So my question is why when something is clearly your fault do you try to blame everybody else. I don't have a guilty conscience about this at all or maybe I would fall for this. Just wondering why? Thanks for all responses

Answer 1

From my experience... guys think if they can make something SOUND true ... you will convince yourself that it's true... and give them another chance. My ex (who is BTW still harassing me) used to do that c**p all the time. It got to the point where I would just laugh when he tried to explain himself... it gets old, it's not worth it. But, I'm sure you know that you're above it all ... good luck!  

Answer 2

he's wrong. if he had a problem with you, he should have addressed it. not  trying to cheat. your wrong in a way that if you guys were dateing for a long time, you should have trust in him, but i guess this was just your confirmation that hes no good.

anyway, good luck next time.

Answer 3

the bible says, the eyes of a man are never satisfied, thats Gods word..

Answer 4

My husband has acted the same way on more than one occasion and I personally think they do this to try and make themselves feel better. To rationalize what made them do whatever it is they did that is wrong. I think deep down they know how bad they messed up, but aren't able to admit it.

Answer 5

Maybe it's because their propensity for lying is so deeply ingrained, they actually believe their own half-axxed stories.

Why blame the victim? Because it takes the attention off the wrongdoer, plain and simple.

He's a putz, you did the right thing catching him and letting him go.

Just like fishing, "catch and release", hah.

Answer 6

There's a story about a man who was making out with his girlfriend in his car in Chicago back in 1943. A police officer came to the window and told him to show him some ID. The man grabbed the cop's gun, shot him, jumped out the car window, and shot him 4 more times in the face at point blank range.

On his way to the electric chair, when asked if he had any last words, he said "This is what I get for trying to defend myself."

Now you and I both know he's a killer, however, to him he was in the right. People will always rationalize their actions and save face. When you point the finger at someone, they will always raise their guard and defend their behavior.

Answer 7

cause they have toooooo much pride to admit when they wrong, i hate that. my boyfriend is like that 2. stupid guys and ther pride! argh!!1

Answer 8

i think alot of girls have done this and the outcome was the same! men are f-ing dogs and he took the bait got caught and now he will make you feel like it is your fault cause you set him up! but if it wasn't you and was a real girl you would have never known and he would have got it over on you seen he could and kept on doing it and in the end you would have suffered! s***w him i dont know why men do these things but in todays society no one can really be trusted! it is not your fault you had a feeling and you went with it! dont blame yourself!!!!

as much as he will say it is your fault just know it is not!!!  

Answer 9

He got caught cheating?  What was he suppose to say, sorry I am a real no good bum?  When men cheat on their wives they do not say I am a really bad person and what I did is wrong.

They say the woman is fat, let herself go.  Had to many children, or some other excuse.  In talking to men who cheated later they say before I could go out on my wife I had to pick a fight with her over something so I didn't feel so guilty.  Verbally abuse her over her weight or something else that I knew bothered her.  However, these things didn't bother him before you were married or in this relationship.

Remember the story of Adam and Eve?  When God told Adam he sinned by eating the fruit that he had told him not to eat, what did he say?  "the women you gave to be with me, gave me the fruit and so I ate."  So see God it is all your fault.

Where just a short time before, he was thrilled to have this woman.

Men always blame someone else, that has been going on since the beginning of time.  I remember hearing a man justifying the fact he had 4 failed marriages.  I always pick the wrong woman to have a relationship with.  Knowing one of his previous wives, who later married and was still in a long term relationship I found this odd he blamed her.

Answer 10

For sure everything that you go through, has a reason, and a lesson behind it. And if he was into cheating on you. You did not need him anyway. Respect for yourself and from the ones in your life. Demand it! It may take you a while to find the right one, but rest assure that the bad ones you do run in to helps you to see the bull sh** coming long before you get you heart caught up.