Why do men get so wrapped up in themselves, and their desires, that they can easily forget about their kids?

Question

My husband and I have been together for 28 years, and have three great boys. We have had the best and the worst of any situation arise and made it through, knowing how much stronger it made us with our goals and dreams for our sons. I came home one day from an extended vacation, to learn within 3 days, I lost my house, my truck and my husband to a coworker expecting his child. We were always paycheck to paycheck family. Once, he discovered his fling was pregnant he lost all responsibility with his sons, stopped paying the house and the truck and took care of her and her other two children from two different daddies. My boys and I were forced to stay with my mom. They hardly ever see him........how can a man not feel the love and pain these boys are going through and not have an ounce of guilt. By the way they had a boy, and I don't reciece one ounce of child support.?

Answer 1

take his dumb *** to court. find yourself a really good lawyer, get documentation of his activity and divorce him.

Answer 2

yeah!!! divorce him and take his money you are owed money!!!

now to answer your question. He prolly wanted to start over because he felt that his first sons had a long life with him( but i dont know how old the kids are) He left you simply from a mans perspective prolly because 28 years gets old.  The girl he got pregnant i am guessing is prolly younger and willing to suck on his crusty D**K where as after 28 years s*x gets boring.  He'll regret leaving you in the long run.  That new chick is a golgdigger

Answer 3

Seriously I wish my ex would lose interest hes abusive and taking me to court for shared care of our daughter - so I ask WHY NOT ME???

Back to you...your boys will miss him but the pain will be less intense as time passes just tell them Dad still loves you but hes moved on and has a new family - but I will never leave you and we are still a family. Just make sure they have access to his photos, talk about him, can ring him if they feel the need (if he allows this) and tell your ex its important he make a special effort on birthdays and christmas. As for child support like many he will just accumulate a debt. Not all Men forget but would you rather he took you for joint custody like my ex is trying to. Be glad the kids are all yours now mould them into honourable men unlike their father.

Answer 4

not all men are wrapped up in themselves that they forget about their kids. i was marriage for 28.5 years i put my wife and kids before me.

Answer 5

You generalize, and in doing that, insult serious and supportive fathers.

You obviously had the misfortune of finding one who has the mindset of a shrimp (although i realize this is insulting to shrimp everywhere).

As the other poster said - sue him for all he is worth.

It may be the only way of getting some back.

Answer 6

i know.  my husband is always into him self and think about him and only him.  my daughter want to play with her dad; he would rather watch tv and not play with her.  

Answer 7

Go to your county attorneys office and file for a legal seperation and then go to your local womans resource center and talk to them and put it all on paper, why you want a legal seperation and why you want child support, give them everything, where he works, what he looks like, where he lives, and any special markings on his body that they can identify him with when they serve him with seperation papers and a court order for child support.

I did that to mine, he was served, and we had a legal seperation, and I told the local womens resource center why I do not want him to see my daughter, he was terrible!! And they believed me, they protected me, and if he wanted to see my daughter, he had to go to the judge!!!

Honey, do not worry about the past, get tough, you are strong, you have a backbone, call an attorney asap, and let him know that he is not going to get away with this, and like me, if you can't afford an attorney, go to your local womens resource center, and they will help you!!!

They are on your side!!!!!

And fight, fight like you never have before, get back at him, and take him to the cleaners!!!!!!

You can do it!!!!!!!

Turn that anger into positive energy!!!!!!!!