Why do men have such a difficult time building boundaries with ex-wives?

Question

Why do men have such a difficult time building boundaries with ex-wives?

Answer 1

because they're weak!

Answer 2

because men care more about women than women care about men

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Answer 3

Explain your situation better so people will understand. Maybe he has kids or he still loves her. You pick.

Answer 4

maybe beucase it's thier ex.  

Answer 5

There are as many answers to this as there are days in a year.

Why are people sad?  Why do people act meanly towards one another?

A few likely suspects:  He has no boundaries with anyone.  He is "too nice".  He has children with that woman.  He likes for others to depend on him.  He enjoys being dependent on her.  He enjoys her company, but not being married to her, he enjoys s*x with her, but not living with her...

c'mon!

Here is an idea:  Ask him what is up.

Answer 6

we take heartbreak hard

Answer 7

Because the man still loves his ex-wife.

Answer 8

It's like getting rid of their mommy.  They are used to being taken care of.

Answer 9

Because, especially if there are kids, the woman can still continue to interfere in the lives of the men.

For instance, when my son was dropped half an hour late, I said that being that late without calling is completely unacceptable.  She started a fight about something completely unrelated while standing in my doorway.  My son was beside himself, but she didn't have the courtesy to leave.  What should I do in that case? I closed the door.  A physical boundary seems most effective.

Answer 10

Because men don't really understand.  I mean they took care of this women and loved them and now they have to let that go.  They still feel the need to protect.

Answer 11

Maybe there's kids involved, maybe it's love, maybe she's secretly threatening him with something, maybe he's just still friends, maybe it's a respect thing...maybe you should ask him

Answer 12

Many men go through life with a woman always taking care of certain things - Mom, sis, gf, wife, someone always there. So its easier for women who have done for themselves before to do so again.