Why do men think that a lonely married woman is in need of s*x?

Question

I am a lonely married woman who is just that. My husband is hardly around. He works during the day and is always wrapped up with business dealing with the band he is with. Either he is at practice, or away at a gig, or on the internet with band issues. He doesn't pay attention to me or our daughter. His mind is always on the "I, me, and my" mode. He acts and sometimes thinks that he is single again. I have talked to co-workers and other people about possible divorce and the first thing that gets mentioned is s*x. Guys instantly bring up the subject as though that is the cure to the problem. Honestly I don't care about it. I want to be loved. A nice pat on the butt while I am cooking. A "supper tasted good hon" "you look nice today" "How was your day". I would like a man that would enjoy going with his wife and child just to be with them, not really caring what they actually did, sort of along for the ride so to speak. someone who is willing to give 50/50 and help with the chores around the house once in a while. But my current husband is none of that, totally the opposite I am afraid to say. I stopped loving him a long time ago but can't afford to kick his butt out. I can't leave because the house mortgage is in my name. Most of the guys that know my situation are eager to help out in the s*x catagory but that is it. Sorry guys, but I can do without it.

Answer 1

Because men are always thinking about s*x.

I found out that they also think a newly divorced woman is easy prey also. When I got divorced after 18 years, I had a lot of offers. Sorry guys, not all women are easy.

Answer 2

Most men think with their ***** first and not many want to be in serious relationships with a married woman who has a kid (not that they don't exist, they are just few and far between). But that doesn't mean that they wouldn't want to sleep with her. ugh. Don't stay with this guy just because of the house. Thats not a good situation for anybody. Divorce him, sell the house and find a cheaper place to live. You deserve somebody who wants an equal part in the relationship!

Answer 3

that's because now in society, tv, reality.... thats what women are looking for. thats what were told to believe, that when women are lonely because their men are out or always gone and not paying attention to you your looking for other men to take the place of them but just s*x! its just the way it is now a days i know it sucks... you either listen and mess around or get divorce and find yourself  a good man. you deserve to be happy... everyone does

Answer 4

This is a bit tough. Have you considered seeing a marriage counselor? They sometimes work wonders. If you can't get your husband to go along with it, you have to take matters into your own hands. Try to spice up his life, talk to him about s*x and even try touching him in the middle of the night. If nothing seems to work, then maybe a divorce is the right thing to do. Good luck.

Answer 5

everybody needs s*x