Why do mormon girls always get picked on?

Question

My family is Mormon, but not polygomous. My daughter is called a Little Miss Molly Mormon everywhere. She doesn't mind that, what she minds is all the jokes and things people say about her. She is really pretty, and has a great personality, but she gets picked on all the time. Tell me why, and how to make her feel better please!

Answer 1

My best friend in middle school was a Mormon guy.  His family was the only Mormon family in our area, so many people at school had never heard of the religion until he moved into town.   People were not used to his family's traditions--no caffiene, no chocolate, lessons in the a.m. before school, missions, etc.--so they picked on him.  He had a really strong character and he actually was pretty popular, once people got to know his personality.  So, I'd say that it's basically based on not knowing about the religion and people's tendency to judge that which they don't know.  A lot of people assume that Mormons are polygomous, even though the official church does not accept polygamy, because of stories in the news that get a lot of media attention.

Answer 2

I'm not a Mormon, but my SIL is, and she's a GREAT girl,mom, person... I think people are just flat out ignorant and mean to pick on a little girl just because her family is Mormon. Anyhow, you just have to constantly reassure her that she is loved and adored by those that matter most, and it's not HER fault that there are idiots in the world(you can choose a different word than idiots-haha) Good Luck and I'm sorry people pick on your sweet little girl, it's truly a shame people have to be like that.

Answer 3

Tell here to be proud of who she is...people who make fun are usually doing it because they do not understand the LDS customs.

I live in the south and going to school was interesting b/c the baptist faith is VERY popular. I had a boy tell me one day "Oh, I learned all about your church last week! We studied cults in Sunday school"...then he just stopped talking and returned to his seat...I thought it was funny but I was pretty tough.

The LDS church is the most misunderstood church...people who have never been to or really looked into the beliefs are just going by what they have heard someone else say.

What helped me was to explain my beliefs to my friends, once you do that they really respect you and most of my friends defended me to other once they knew my dad didn't have 5 wives. lol!  Good luck and tell her to stand strong against adversity.

Answer 4

Bullying is wrong under any circumstances and you might want to talk to her teachers.

My son came home several times in tears because his young friends teased him because his lips were redder than everyone elses'.

What we all need to learn at some point is that its our response to the inevitable bullies is more important than the topic they pick to torment us with.  As long as she acts like it hurts her, they will persist. When she learns to look like and say 'so what, your mother wears army boots', it'll ease up. Hazing is a really unfortunate ritual, but it is often what we have to go through to be accepted.

I've spoken to several Mormons who grew up g*y and they know exactly what bullying is about.

Answer 5

I take it you are not living in Utah?  Having been raised on the East coast but lived in Utah for several years I can say that most people outside of Utah and Idaho associate LDS with the FLDS you see on TV all the time.  There really is no other understanding of the faith than that.  So she will probably have to grow a thick skin and be proud of who she is whatever the kids say.  Besides, if it wasn't Molly Mormon it would be something else.  All kids get picked on about something in their school years.

Answer 6

It's sad to say it, but everyone gets picked on sometime in their life for something. But of course, it usually happens to whomever is not in the 'majority'. Just tell her that those people who pick on her are idiots and to not pay attention to people like that.

Answer 7

That's never happened to me... maybe that's because I live in Utah. Theres a lot of us Mormon girls here.

Answer 8

Attitude is everything.

First, have her list a lot of the more common jokes and things that people say, and try to come up with witty come-backs. They could be anything, ranging from what to say to those who are really nice and just teasing to those who are doing it to be mean and nasty.

(for example: a comeback for someone who's teasing someone about being fat:

"Well, I may be fat, but you're ugly and I can go on a diet")

And, if someone is constantly doing it, ignoring them is the best thing. I know it's hard, I went thru it myself, and it took a while in most cases, but if you keep it up, keep ignorning them, eventually, they will leave you alone.

Just tell her to remember that most people do this because they are uncomfortable around those who they think are better than they are. I mean, it's not because they think that SHE thinks she's better than them, but THEY think that SHE is better than they are, because she has morals and standards, and either they don't and wish they did, or they do but don't have the guts to make a stand for what they believe.

Also, enlist the help of anyone who does want to be a friend. You don't have to be LDS to have the same standards.

My daughter is in High School and is Mormon and she has high standards and expectations for herself. She also has the attitude that, if you odn't like her for whatever reason, it's YOUR loss, not hers. She has many good friends, most of whom are not LDS.