Why do most fathers freak when their daughter has a?

Question

boyfriend? I'm saying... you know, when she turns a certain age, 16 for instance, and she wants to go on dates and so on.

I mainly notice this in the US. In Europe, as I am sure, in South America, it's normal for a 16 year old girl to go out or go on vacation with friends for a week to the beach for instance.

Answer 1

Yes, I mainly noticed this in America as well. Also, in America I found it peculiar that people freak out when an 18 and 16 year old date. Americans consider older teenagers "children"..but once they hit 18 they are accountable adults. They really do not know how to pick their battles do they?

Answer 2

Lets see:  Because he knows what he wanted to do to 16 year old girls and he doesn't want to think about a p***s in his daughter.

Answer 3

Because she can get pregnant and he can't - and s*x education is woefully inadequate in this country (just look in "Y!A - Pregnancy and Parenting" to see how many myths, falsehoods and misconceptions are still believed by kids today.)  And I haven't even mentioned possible STDs yet.

Answer 4

Because we were teenagers at one time, and we remember what we wanted from 16 year old girls.

It wasn't a bridge partner, trust me.

Answer 5

Because he doesn't want his daughter to be treated like a used Kleenex!! DUH!!

Answer 6

i have a step sister who is 18 , she is engaged..her dad is ecstatic and actually likes the guy.

he is 21 and she is 18...they started going out when she was 17.... her dad didnt seem to have a problem with him then either.

Answer 7

Daddy feels that he is loosing his little girl to someone who may not love you and he just wants to protect his angel from any heartaches and pain.

Answer 8

Because they were 16 once too!

Answer 9

Just one reason: Men cannot get pregnant and women can.

Answer 10

I have an 18-year-old daughter who has never had a serious boyfriend and she doesn't go out except to hang out with her friends. Her father has never freaked out nor does he feel he needs to be overly protective of her. She has male friends but they are not sexually attracted to her. It might be because she is not a flirt nor is she an attention seeker.

To those of you who feel a girls needs more protection than a boy, let me ask you this. How long does she need that protection and are you suddenly going to cut her loose when she reaches a certain age? Do you also plan to pick her husband for her and arrange her marriage so she can continue to be "protected"? Girls I've seen who had overprotective fathers like this tended to react in two different ways. They either rebelled and went behind their fathers' backs or they stayed single and never dated, which caused the fathers great concern about when they were going to get married.

Answer 11

My father wasn't like this when I had my first boyfriend at 14. Although it was different maybe that he liked the young man very much, he had good manners and was gentle and not one of the lads.

Answer 12

Because fathers are men, and they know better than 16 year old girls about what those boys really want and what tricks the boys will do to try getting it.  Most boys want s*x even more than the girls do, and the boys will lie or say anything to get in a girl's pants.   Most fathers don't want their teenage daughters becoming sexually active for fear of pregnancy, disease and the reputation of being a w***e.  It is a sexist, double standard, but that's the reason why many fathers panic when their daughters begin dating boys.

Answer 13

Your children are to be valued and protected.  Most young people are incapable of self-control and/or see no reason to control themselves.  They are filled daily with lies. i.e. If it feels good do it, if you are a virgin at 18 you are weird, it is good to go around looking and acting s**y in front of others you are not married to, it is good to reveal most of your body in public, etc.

It is normal to desire to have sexual relations, that is part of the draw to getting married.  Just because we want something right now does not mean it is the right time for that thing.

A girl's sexual system is open.  That means she is way more likely to get a disease than a male.  She is also the one who will end up with the baby to care for (or choose to murder before he can see the light of day - as if it is the poor baby's fault his parents couldn't keep themselves until they were ready) Therefore, she needs more protection than a male.   I do not have a double standard, just more reasons to care about the female.   Most fathers don't want their sons to be breeding like stallions with strange girls either.

Answer 14

my family got freaked out of me having a message from a guy that includes one word says  "darling"(refers to me), like other's family freaked out knowing that their little girl is pregnant.

Answer 15

Because we know how 16 year old boys can be, I was one a while back

Answer 16

Just reading your question gave me a little panic attack...

Answer 17

Most dads i know haven't freaked out about their daughters boyfriend at all....

and teens do go on vacations together here in the US.

Answer 18

OMG...I'm an 18 year old guy, (a very decent and good 18 year old guy) and don't have a daughter...but I think ahead to 25 years from now when I have a 16 year old daughter who wants a boyfriend...I think I'll DIE. It won't really bother me for my sons to date...but my precious daughter....*fumes*....men, you better stay away from her. I'm going to want to lock her up until she's 40 or I die...whichever comes first. THEN she can date...

Answer 19

p***s ? I would freak.

Answer 20

i think they don't want their daughters to get a bad reputation.