Why do most women think that healthy, intelligent, responsible men are "boring" and "too nice"?

Question

Does that mean that chain-smoking, dumb, and undependable men are s**y and interesting?

Answer 1

It depends upon the situation. If you are in a party or holiday etc then you dont expect women to consider seriously, but in their life, they go for the healthy,intelligent and responsible men.

Answer 2

apart from dumb, unfortunately, for me anyway, yes.

i have no idea why though...

Answer 3

No, they don't. It is just another way of saying I'm not interested in you.

I don't like you.  You are not attractive and I'm looking for someone more attractive.

Being healthy, intelligent or responsible is not a ticket to get women.

That's just how it works.

it's life

Answer 4

This is only a general answer and does  not apply to all persons, of course.

Women don't pick men, generally, based on logic or reason.  It's an intuitive thing, maybe even a hormonal thing.

What women look for most in a man, above all else, is strength--strength of personality (ability to stand up to others, even be mean when necessary) and physical strength.  What woman do you know gets excited by a wimp (wimps are "too nice")?  Intellect is good in the long run important, even vital, but initially it is not a turn on (romantically and sexually), though  some women find it interesting and desirable, but never priority ONE.

Same with responsible--a good long term quality, but unfortunately romance and s*x are more immediate.  

Unfortunately, too, I have found it to be true that many responsible people, especially those who are very responsible, ARE boring--with their insistence on always being responsible (and hence very predictable), doing their todo lists, staying organized and traditional, preserving the status quo.  A word to the wise.

Answer 5

No. It just means that healthy, intelligent, responsible men may not bring what a woman needs in a relationship: excitement and spontaneity. An  guy who doesn't think about his future will drop everything and go to Japan for a year. That sounds mysterious and adventurous, but in reality, it just means he can't settle. An a$$hole will treat his woman roughly during s*x and that seems manly and in charge. In reality, he's only worried about his immediate needs.

I wouldn't worry about it. While women may like the aggressive s*x and spontaneous trips to Asia, they always end up getting tired of it and looking for a healthy, intelligent, responsible man.

Answer 6

I think you have it wrong.. It is Men who think intelligent, responsible women are "boring" and "too nice"....

I feel like you about men... Men only want party girls that put out and have no goals...

I would love to be with a Man that is intelligent, responsible and that Doesn't Smoke.. yuck...

But, I haven't found that yet.. I will say this though.. I have been called boring.  I don't drink, don't go to clubs, and I am a family person.

Is that so wrong.. Show me an intelligent responsible man.. I'll go out with him..Question is will he go out with me...