Why do mothers insist on giving advice!?

Question

My mum constantly tells me what to do with my 8month old daughter when im round hers.

Today it was 'Dont give her that, Its too big' & 'Dont let her crawl with that food in her hand, It will get dirty'

Asif i dont know, Ive managed so far! I know what my daughter can handle, And im obviously not going to let her mush food in the carpet.

Does anyone else have this with there mum?

Or is it just mine?

Answer 1

Because she remembers when you were that little.

Her whole life she's been telling you things because you wouldn't know if she didn't tell you. It's more or less habit by now.

Answer 2

Sounds like she's just overcontrolling, it's probably compulsive, maybe she can't help but to blurt out everything that crosses her mind. My mom is kind of like that. Annoying!

Answer 3

Mothers are like that. They just want to make sure that everyone is safe all the time. She doesn't necessarily think that you don't know what you are doing. She probably just is so used to teaching you about life and you being her child that she just is continuing the same relationship you always had. Nothing to get upset about. Be happy that your mother is being a good grandmother and obviously loves both her daughter and granddaughter. Smile, be gracious and say "thanks Mom!"

Answer 4

My mom makes occasional remarks about how I raise my daughter that offend me, but I just try to remember that she's only doing it because she loves her granddaughter very much & I don't think she realizes that it hurts my feelings. Cause I know she'd never hurt me intentionally. So that's why I haven't said anything to her about it, cause I don't want to hurt her. I figure I'll just deal with it and once my daughter gets older, maybe my mom will stop being so protective.

Answer 5

I sense your venting so go ahead but you know mothers they think they know best and in a way you are still her little girl, she is (in her annoying way) trying to help you, i'm sure you love her so you'll have to put up with it I'm afraid, there will be times you'll be calling on her for help. :)

Answer 6

It's because all mothers think they know the best way to raise children, and so if they think you are doing something wrong then they cannot help but to stick their nose in.

Both my parents do this, as well as strangers but i just ignore their 'helpful' advice.

Answer 7

It's very common. Perhaps you should be thankful that your mother cares enough to try to help. You will be the same one day - guaranteed!

Answer 8

Because mothers have had a lot more life experience than you and are tryimg to help you by passing it on to you. She did a good job of raising you ,didn't she ?

Answer 9

Shes just trying to help u out, since shes obviously an expierienced mother. About the crawling with the food thing, u dont want you baby eating food off the floor right?  I think thats probly what your mom is worried about, not thats its gonna get smushed in the rug.

Answer 10

because she is ur mother and as far as she is concerned her child is rearing a child.she doesnt mean any harm also they have yrs of experience so maybe listen to her .my mam died when my eldest was 11 months and how i wish she had been there to give us the love and care u are getting.

Answer 11

Because mothers always think they know best.

Answer 12

Try to tolerate it, she's just being a loving mom and you will be amazed when you do the same thing one day with your daughter and grandchild.

Answer 13

my mams exactly the same, i just let her say what she has to say now, cos i"m that used to it...lol..

she"s only trying to help...bless her