Why do my husband m********e and tries to hide?

Question

we have been married for more than one year. and we use to have s*x alot befor but now he dont have s*x with me that often and he tells me that he is tried and too busy at work. but i several time caught him masterbating and watchin p**n in the morinig when he wakes up. but he hides it from me.. and i cannot stop my self thinking about it and it realy hurts. several occations i have taked about it and he gets mad with me canani body.. give an opion on this.

Answer 1

Maybe when you suspect he is in bedroom in am.  You need to sneak in on him and join him.  Also, maybe he is not mad as to embarrassed?  This is just my guess.  Do you think he afraid to talk to you, maybe he wants you to be like the dirty little girls in the porno, maybe he is ashamed to let you know that you may think he is degrading you?  This is just my guess.  

I know my ex didn't like doing crazy stuff with me since I was the mother of his kid.  When I got a little crazy for him once he told me that.  He liked it but was uncomfortable.  Just to let you know.

Answer 2

well...wish i could help..think he has lost interest in s*x

try giving it a break..maybe u both need a break from s*x..

he will get back to u..well if he's watching p**n that means he still has not lost the urges..i wont tell u to be more active or anything..just give it some thought before u approach him with the same topic..maybe in a few weeks time he will be right back at ya..without u even knowing!

Answer 3

Obviously is he is not having s*x with you there can be only one explanation.

HE IS A SELFISH AZZ!

Oh wait, I'm sorry, I am on Yahoo Answers....let me give you the standard answer most will give here:

"leave the guy alone!  p**n is healthy and "normal"!!"

LMFAO!

Answer 4

obviously he hides it because you get mad... why not wake up in the morning with him and "help" him out.. if you can't beat em, join em... some reason he feels rejected from you and the p**n is easier... kind of like gentleman's clubs... it's all about instant attention that they don't have to "work" for..you have to think like a guy... it's like you talking to a friend on the phone.. sorta kinda similar "feeling"...

Answer 5

*Sigh*...so why not 'lend a hand"?

I mean...c'mon...what'd you expect me to say? Who knows? It may add another fun element to your s*x life and change things. Think about it...what have you got to lose?

Answer 6

let him do it

Answer 7

because that subject can be embarrasing for anyone. people deal with it differently. he problay is embarrased because he could be thinking about other women when he does it. but i say dont worry just keep up the romance in the bedroom and things will be fine.  

Answer 8

it's maybe one of the following reasons:

1. you've become incredibly, unbelievably fat

2. you stink or your v****a stinks or something

3. you're like a log or something

4. you become crazy when you're having s*x and he thought it was great at first but now it's become weird and crazy retarded.

Answer 9

He is probably bored with your s*x life.  Spice things up a bit, let him walk in on you while you are fingering yourself.  Make him watch you, tell him you would like to watch him jack off.  Talk dirty to him while in bed, mention having another female join you in bed.  Mix things up, he will "come" around

Answer 10

Sounds like he has a problem. Watching pron makes him want to do this. But I don't understand why he does not want to be with you. Try spicing things up. Put on a cute nightie give him a rub down. It that does not work you may try writing him a letter. But don't put him down. Yes I agree something is wrong. Good luck in finding out what.

Answer 11

He tries to hide it because he feels guilty about doing it. All guys do it but they all joke around about it and deny it. It is general though of as a bad thing to be doing.

You're also jealous because he's looking at p**n while doing it and probably not thinking about you. It's called fantasy and you'll see a lot of p**n that is related to stuff that a guys partner doesn't do (ie: fellatio/swallowing, anal, etc).

If you are seriously jealous then you need to grow up. You just need to spice things up in the bedroom to get him thinking more about what you guys are going to do next in the sack. Fulfill a few of his fantasies or make up a few of your own.

Answer 12

Your husband m********e and tries to hide it because he doesn't want to hear your mouth. The reason why you two don't s*x as much is because you're probably nagging him about the p**n or whatever. Maybe if you start taking care of your husband physically then he wouldn't have time or energy to watch p**n. Don't they have spell check on here? Use it next time.

Answer 13

1. It feels good.

2. There is no regard for a partner when stroking.

3. Quick and no coordination or romance required.

4. p**n makes it go quicker.

5. He had an intimate relationship with Rosy palm long before you met.

6. His libido is strongest in the morning and you probably do not care for it then.

7. It is easier to get a release without having to negotiate or romance.

8. He wants to get one off while being tired from being busy at work

without having to do more "work" to get the release.

9. It feels good.

Question for YOU? When you caught him, did you offer to "take care of that" for him? I'll wager the answer is no.

Why does he try to hide it? Because you have hurt issues with it. It is a private function which you normally do not share with a person who is giving you a hard time about a normal activity.

Hey Val, its nice to see you've come over to OUR side...........lol

Answer 14

Well first of all he's probably embarrassed... Wouldn't you be if he walked in on you?

Just put something s**y on and try to get him going. If that doesn't work maybe he really is tired or something... else...

--Brian

Answer 15

  well look at it this way at least he aint

cheating! why not?

Answer 16

He masturbates because it is fun.

He hides it because you will ***** at him for doing it.

Answer 17

sounds like all of my friends,it is  normal for a guy to watch p**n and mast i don't think there is a man on the planet that does'nt don't worry.

Answer 18

He was doing something 100% natural?!?! How dare he...

Hunny, masterbation is a very normal thing. Me and my boyfriend have s*x all the time, and it's amazing, but sometimes you just need to do it yourself. He probably hides it from you because he knows it makes you upset.

Here's a tip - when you catch him masterbating, jump on him. It'll show him you still have interest and probably arouse him that much more.

Answer 19

you really need to get this out in the open, maybe if he really knew how much it was hurting you I'm sure he would talk about it.  

Answer 20

Honestly.. he's probably bored with his s*x life with you.  If it's the same thing every time, he's going to turn to p**n because its something different.  p**n is made with the intention of showing you what you normally cant have.  Take your average guy who's in his 30's or 40's and been married to the same woman for some time now.. the s*x is always the same.. he see's a college chick getting nailed while she's eating an apple he's gonna want to rub one out.

I suggest switching things up a bit.  Dress up for him, bring in a toy or two, for god sakes try a different position.  If you give him something different, he'll be more apt to come back because its not the same old missionary mambo.

Answer 21

this happens a lot in relationships. Usually it's just a phase. What you could do is try to spice things up is go to a lingerie store like Victoria's secret and pick up something s**y or experiment with different things like foreplay and sexual positions.. As for the masturbating well almost everyone does it, and it's probably to fill the void because he isn't having s*x or simply because he just feels like doing it. Hope things work out.

Answer 22

Tell your husband how you feel about his doing this and that you need to talk about it.  If he says no then tell him that you will talk to a professional.

Answer 23

It doesn't mean that he's not satisfied with you.  It might just be easier because there's no pressure on him if he's just masturbating.  

I wouldn't worry about it to much.