Why do older women find their identity in talking about their children and grandchildren?

Question

It's Boring

Answer 1

Some of us older women are still helping to raise our G-kids.  They consume most of our time from before 8am to after 5pm, plus other times.  We cook and sew, and nurture them.  That is where the word "grandparent" comes from.  We parent our G-kids too.

Meanwhile, our children and older G-kids act like we are dirt.  They have their own lives.  They have all of their time tied up with their friends, unless they need or want something from us.

That is boring too us!!!

Answer 2

SORRY ,

I DON'T  THINK MY CHILDREN AND 12 GRANDCHILDREN ARE BORING, BUT I DO TALK A LOT ABOUT OTHER THINGS, SEE  I DID HAVE THIS WILD LIFE BEFORE THEM AND TRAVELED AND  LIFE WAS EXPERIENCED TO THE MOMENT, SO IF  SOME OF US LOVE WHAT WE HAVE ACCOMPLISHED  IN OUR CHILDREN AND GRANDCHILDREN WHO ARE YOU A YOUNG TEEN TO KNOW THAT JOY?

Answer 3

You may think it is boring,but in years to come when you are a mother/grandmother you will find yourself talking about your children/grandchildren because you are proud of them & their achievements

Answer 4

How old are you? I think it would be great. I am old, and I reminisce with other old women about our children and how they grew and then how our grandchildren are growing. You saying its boring, you sound 12. Thats why its boring. Lol. But when you are older, and looking back on your life must feel great. I cant wait to do that with my husband when we are really old.

Answer 5

I think a lot of the time it's out of pride, which is nice, but they've gotten to an age where not much else is going on in their lives, and they've run out of things to say.  So they ramble about their kids and grandkids.  I agree, it's bloody boring as h**l.

Answer 6

YOur question doesn't make much sense.

I think you mean that older women talk about their children and grandchildren alot to everyone.. <??

I guess because they're lonely, so they try and think of a topic to talk about.  Since they're lonely they don't have anything else to talk about other then they're children and grandchildren.  And they have pride in them also.  That is their way of showing that.

Answer 7

Who said it's their identity.They are proud of their family. Perhaps they find you just as boring.

Answer 8

I'm sure they feel the same way when your mom and grandmother speak of you to them.

If you can't take it then don't dish it out.

Answer 9

You are rude.

A mother that loves her child or children sacrifices a lot of her best years to make sure they are raised well, that they have good values and morals and make good choices in life. Being a mother is pride, or should be. It is an unconditional love you obviously do not understand dear.

I hope you do ot ever become a boring mother!

Answer 10

The majority of older women I know love & adore their family and are proud to talk about them. That doesn't mean they don't have an identity, though. I do know of one older woman that doesn't know how to be happy without her only grandchild. She thinks the only way she can truly be happy is raising her grandchild herself and is unhappy because this is not possible. All her children have grown and moved out. She basically hasn't found herself and what makes her truly happy. She's always done only for her children and grandchild. But has never tried to do for herself and find her true purpose in life. But to say all older women are like that is unfair. And remember, you'll be an older woman someday too. And you might find that talking about your children & grandchildren isn't so boring.  

Answer 11

Because our children are a product of us and how we raised them is what they become. If they are raised in a loving and caring environment then that is the way they are. If they are raised in an uncaring rude and obnoxious environment then they will be rude and obnoxious as well. So if we done a good job then we have something to be proud of. However, I have not lost my identity to my children. I am an individual with my very own ways in life. Why do you think that we are boring because we have more knowledge about life and how to live good?