Why do parents beleive children are ungrateful these days?

Question

kinda self- explanitory

and please don't say "well because they are"

Answer 1

I think it's because they have too much. Sometimes it seems like my kids expect things that are a privilege. I remember being a kid and not being able to sleep at night because I was so excited about going to a theme park or a vacation. We live in Fl so it is easy for us to go to fun places, Disney ect. But this year work has been slow for my husband so we haven't been able to do that sort of thing, and it seems like my kids are more grateful now about the things we do get to do. Another example is I took my boys to get new bikes a few months ago and when we got to the store they were actually complaining about being there, and having to try them out. I got so mad I just left the store with nothing. They were sorry that they acted that way, especially since I haven't yet taken them back. I figure let them keep riding their old worn out bikes for a while and maybe they will be more grateful to get a new one.

Answer 2

I think sometimes it can be hard for older people to accurately remember what they felt like when they were a child.  Equally, it is hard for children to relate to the experiences of their elders.

Answer 3

Cause when they where kids and stuff they all lived on farms and their parents where like back in my day if we didn't say yes sir we would get beat with a stick. Then in this age of kid's where all like yo-yo mom gimme the beans. They never say please or thank you usally and instead of answering a yes or no question the say sure or maybe. Anyway thats what it's like in my house.

Answer 4

we ain't parents just act dumb sometimes

Answer 5

because they see their own children be ungrateful (sometimes)

kind of self-explanitory

Answer 6

My mom and I are only 19 years apart, so we're pretty close, but everytime we'd get into an argument, she'd call me ungrateful!  Little did she know how grateful, and still am greatful for everything she did for me!! Starting with giving me life...to raising me as a single mom... to putting a roof over my head, food in my belly, clothes on my back, and a good hug, kiss, and telling me she loved me at night before I went to bed!! EVEN AT 18!! I just don't think parents realize how grateful some children are! But then again, there are those children out there who take everything for granted and are un-greatful! Maybe they need to know what it's like to have to buy clothes when it's not shoping for school clothes or have to pay for their own cell bill, car payment, car insurance, meals at school, prom dresses/ tuxes, all the stuff that a lot of parents pay for! It doesn't teach their child any responsibility for the future! My husband had everything given to him when he was growing up and now he barely helps around the house and spends too much money... I on the other hand had to pay for more than 75% of my stuff and I do practically everything in the house, with the child (soon to be children), and keep track of all the money *so he doesn't spend too much*!!  I guess its just how they are brought up!

Answer 7

bcuz we complain..some of us..

Answer 8

I believe that lots of children these days are ungrateful. Parents these days don't discipline their children like our parents did with us. Children are allowed more privileges at younger ages, unsupervised at younger ages, and since we live in a high tech society, technology is introduced from day one.

When I was a child (and I'm only 24), had I ever badmouthed my mother, or backtalked, it was a spanking for me. But it's become taboo or child abuse to discipline a child, and whether you believe in spanking or not you have to admit that most children get away with murder. I see five year olds screaming and kicking in Wal-Mart over a piece of candy. I've seen parents allow their twelve year old children go to unsupervised parties. And then their parents wonder why they have fourteen year old pregnant teens and disciplinary problems by the time their children are teenagers--they haven't been taught to respect their elders as children.

And to top it off, because of the parents that actually DO discipline their children and are watchful, some kids feel left out and feel like they're missing out. It's a shame.

Answer 9

because most of the kids can get what they want easily since they were a child...maybe because their are parents are wealthy, so they just ask their parents what they want and mostly parents will give it to them....the example is if they want a bicycle, their parents will buy it..if they want a laptop also their parents will give it to them...so, they think that they can get anything they want easily...the other reason is i think that nowadays, many facilities were built...technology also become higher and very useful to human...so,they can get this since they were a kid...different with their parents...their parents may not get this since they were a kid...they have to work harder to get all this, so they become more grateful of what they get...furthermore, when the parents were young, they maybe don't get the facilities that we having today...so, i think because of that, most parents believe that children are ungrateful these days...

Answer 10

Because some children don't often show their parents how grateful they truly are.  

Us parents are human beings too you know, and we need to be reassured that we are appreciated and loved just as much as children do.

When you become a parent you pretty much put everything aside in your life for your child.  Most children have no concept of who their parent truly is, as they only see them in the role of "mother" or "father".  They don't know their parents deepest desires, what things have been sacrificed so that child can be happy, healthy and well cared for.

When a child complains about their parents, or their life, for some of us it cuts to the quick and makes us feel like all the effort, sacrifice and love has gone unnoticed and unappreciated.

Answer 11

some parents are still dealing with issues from their child hood so they express it by saying these sorts of things.  

Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse, withholding affection, extreme punishment and corruption, ignoring, rejecting, terrorizing, and isolating.[7] It may also entail the abuser minimizing, or "downplaying" the severity of abuse along with the act of invalidation. Invalidation is to reject, ignore, mock, tease, judge, or diminish someone's feelings. It is an attempt to control how they feel and for how long they feel it. [8]

Answer 12

Becuz of all the c**p they pull. I agree with the parents! And Im a teenager!

Answer 13

Because kids these days are all about electronics, and mainly think of themselves, you see very few teens these days helping out t=others in need. all they want to do is go out and spend money.

And I'm not a parent, I'm a teen. and i go volunteering at animal shelters, homeless shelters, and i go to protests and do lots of things! there is no excuse for kids to be so selfish, they ave sooo much... they really have no idea how lucky they are to have what they have. they really just need to put themselves in another persons shoes. I was poor, and i grew up in the ghetto, and once we moved, and our lives were better i wanted to help others be where i was to where i am now. They just need to look at things that way.

Answer 14

I kinda think its true.. I mean I act so mean to my parents then they give me stuff 4 no reason then I really feel lk c**p. U should see some of my friends. They are as dumb as ever. Im only 13 but yeah...

Answer 15

Because many do seem to be that way.  They get so much stuff just because they have to have it then if you tell them know they say "well thats just unfair" or something like that or worse.  I know teens that have cars that their parents bought but just because the cars aren't expensive and show off cars they don't like them and demand a new car that won't embaress them to drive around.  Talk about ungrateful.  I just find more ungrateful and unappreciative kids today that think the world owes them everything.

Answer 16

Its how we are raised. Im sorry. But kids in the "good old days" would have been the exact same if given the chance. These days they expect so much because they are given so much and not taught about gratitude and watsever. Parents faults, not kids.