Why do parents blame their kids for their divorces? ?

Question

I have had so many divorced parents claim they divorced for the kids sake. Why can't they just admit it they did it for themselves? I have known so many kids from broken homes and they said things did not improve after the divorce for them.

Answer 1

Yeah, that's a cop out. They think the kids are better off but what they really should be doing is working on their problems with their commitment and keeping the family whole.  

Answer 2

I've never heard this.  Most couples stay together miserably for the kids sake so they don't have to put them through the heartache of a divorce.

Answer 3

I've known many people who say they wish their parents had divorced instead of forcing them to live in a house where there was always tension, everyone felt like they were walking on eggshells, and there was no love.  Children learn how to be in relationships by the relationships they see.  Living in a house with no love is not a good way to live.  

Answer 4

They do not want to admit to being selfish. If you scream like a banshee at your husband 24/7 because you would rather be with the biker guy of course it is better for the kid if the parents split. But it would be best if the parents would work on themselfs and make the marriage work instead.  

Answer 5

Parents Say That Cause They Dont Wanna Face The Truth Thats What My Parents Did To Me.

Answer 6

When you are young you don't understand adult issues until you have either been through it or grow up, be mature and understand why.  All things are not plain to see.  Most parents don't reveal the reasons to protect their children.  

Sometimes it is for the best. Sometimes it can be for selfish reasons.  

Once parents split up things will be tough for a while.  Everyone suffers when there is a divorce.  

Children suffer the most.

All we can do as parents is take the best care that we know how of our children.  

Being a good parent is HARD work.

Answer 7

The reason why is these idiot parents watch to much TV  Dr. Phil etc it's much easier to just throw in the towel than grow the fk up and be a good parent/human being these people are part of the i can't interact with the real world with out the use of drugs aka antidepressants.

Answer 8

In that case, I don't think they are blaming the kids, but sparing them the constant bickering and dysfunction of a relationship gone bad.    

Answer 9

Because selfish people never do the selfless thing... Like stating that they want a divorce because they've had enough of one person and just want flings for a while....

You can't expect people to just state those sorts of things.

Answer 10

They blame the kids because they cant stand up and admit that its their fault and their fault only...my parents divorced and they didnt blame me but then my dad re-married and them divorced again and now they both blame me for it. But in all honest truth most divorces are the parents fault and theirs alone...and yes they nearly always do it for themselves  

Answer 11

Well..I myself is going through a divorce.  And yes, it is for the sake concerning my children.  But In many cases, I do know that one thing a lot of married couples fight about concerns  financial reasons.  I remember hearing that women didn't have to work back in the 1950's or even 60's.  But due to the economic situations we face now, it is mandatory for women to return back into the field of work.  My issue was I had to work full-time and raise my children as if I was a stay at home mom.  Where as my husband worked and made excuses that resulted to him hanging with his friends,and being unfaithful. My children didn't see my husband at all, because when he'd came home it was 4,5,or even 6 o'clock in the morning so when they got up in the morning he would be sleep. And when they came home in the evening he would be gone, and then again he'd stay out for the whole weekend. Besides it was becoming to much pressure for me to continue that way.  And it was not fair to my children.  I couldn't enjoy that quality time with them because I was sooo tired.  So I decided that if I felt like a single parent, I might as well be one.  What I am saying, is that many couples divorce for many reasons.  But you're right....sometimes it doesn't have anything to do with the children.  And if it doesn't then both parents are selfish.  If My husband would put forth the change to spend time with his family, Instead of divorcing for the sake of my children... I'll love to stay married to the partner I fell in love with...FOR MY CHILDREN! I want my children to have both parents in their lives, but unfortunately, This is not the "Leave It to Beaver" Era!

Answer 12

I've never heard this excuse.

Answer 13

today people don't like to take the responsibilities for their own failures that brought them to divorce..using children as an excuse..is sad and sick..