Why do parents force their kids to move out?

Question

I am referring to situations in which it makes no sense for the kids to move out. As long as everyone gets along and are living decent lives, why push the kids out? As long as the kids are in school and/or working, I ask again, why push the kids out? Now, I understand if there is constant craziness and disrespect taking place, but not if all is well. When I hear that parents want to push their kids out just because "it's time" I feel so sorry for the family. My parents want all their kids to live here as long as the kids want. Why not? they ask. Everything is free, you get your laundry done and your meals cooked, it would be silly to move out for the sake of moving out! I agree wholeheartedly.

I am 29 years old and have recently left my job to pursue another graduate degree. None of this would be possible if I was not able to stay at home. And when I graduate, I intend to live at home for as long as possible, if not the rest of my life! What do you all think about my thoughts?

Answer 1

I think that you need to cut the cord at some point.  When you live on your own you truly become an adult as in you have to do your laundry, grocery shop, and cook your meals.  You actually have some responsibility and then you grow up more.  No offense, but why would someone want to be with a person who can't fend for themselves?  I don't think it's a bad thing, but I'd say 25 is the limit.

Answer 2

Well we all have to go some time or another.  I was proud to see my kid move out, at the age of 18.  Come on.  Sometimes you just have to go.  A mother bird has to learn her children how to fly. They can't stay in the nest for ever.

Answer 3

Sometimes the parents want to get on with their life, want to move from the area, think the kids need to start growing up and taking responsibility for bills, laundry, cooking, etc.

Answer 4

I don't understand that either...that's not the case with my parents/family. With some parents they can have a kid who's working and going to school, getting along for the most part, but there could still be some disrespect or the kid not following some rule of the household or other. I'm a 21 year old student and my parents have never pressure/hint about me moving out and I don't work or pay any bills either. Not that I plan on living with them for the rest of my life. Once I'm through with school and get a decent job I'll begin the process of moving out and starting life on my own.

Answer 5

I think it's rediculous for young people to live with their parents beyond the natural age of 18, perhaps slightly longer if college is right there or a few months to get some money saved.  But I would encourage anyone to PLAN to move out at 18, live in dorms at college, whatever it takes, to learn to be independent.  Do you realize how you sound when you say..."everything is free..."  It's a rough world out there, and you are just delaying the inevitable and will end up with a bizarre relationship with your parents (it won't work anyway, that's a guarantee) and no independent spirit.

Answer 6

So long as your parents don't mind, who cares?

Answer 7

I think it's great when parents are willing to do that for their kids. Besides someday things will switch around when the parents get old they will need to stay with their kids.

Answer 8

It really depends on the family. I think parents want their kids to become more independent and be more self-sufficient. They don't want to spoil them. My parents are really supportive and would let me stay as long as I had a right direction path.  

Answer 9

if you ever need to move out for work or school etc.;

you will have no experience.

you need to learn how to live alone at a younger age.

mommy wont be there forever.

plus it sounds bad when you say you live with youre mom.

Answer 10

Your 29 and still living at home?  There comes a time in people's lives where they need to take care of themselves and stop living offf of their parents.  You need to start your own life on your own.  I wouldn't want my kids to live with me forever.  Maybe for 2 to fours years after high school if their going to college.  But about 22 is old enough.  I wouldn't want to take care of them forever.  I would want to enjoy spending time with my husband and doing things i enjoy instead of taking care of the kids.  You need to ween already!

Answer 11

they force you to move out because they are encouraging them to have resonible for them self and also that you can handle your self in the real world with out having him or her or both of your parents there for you. plus it is making sure you are independent and you can look after your self.

but dont forget they dont want to be looking after you all they lives and they want to get on with them selfs when you are old enough to leave.