Why do parents give their childre up for adoption?

Question

Why do parents give their childre up for adoption?

Answer 1

sometimes it's not their choice. they get thrown in jail or are murdered, or are mentally unstable.

Answer 2

Mainly because they can not provide for them, and believe it or not it is one of the most unselfish acts on there part. I'm truly grateful my bio mom was a unselfish person. I had a great life with parents who truly wanted and love me. I have met my bio mom and she is a great person.

Answer 3

I was very young.  i knew my son would end up being raised by my parents who were already in their 50's and had raised 5 of us.  I also am adopted and knew what a wonderful thing that is.  I knew that there was a family out there that truly wanted him...a family that wouldn't be complete without him in their lives.  To this day (21 years later) I do not regret my decision.

Answer 4

Not all parents choose to make an adoption plan for their child.  Some are forced by the state or coerced by others into placing their child into foster care or an adoption plan.  Others do choose to create an adoption plan for their child, however, the reasons for adoption varies as greatly as the faces of the children.

Answer 5

From talking with my birthmother it sounds to me like she gave me up for adoption out of love and I respect her so much for making the hardest choice of her life.

Answer 6

some parents sometimes don't want or they cant take care of there child,sometimes some people give there baby up for wrong reasons and others want to keep the baby but they cant cuz they cant take care of him or her

Answer 7

One would hope that it is because they feel that the child will be provided for better than they can.  I am not saying that the child will live in luxury instead of a steady, but lower class, home.  I am saying that the birth parent(s) feels that to keep the child may endanger the child, or may endanger the other children already in the house by taking away needed food or other necessities.

Some parents feel that the child will prevent them from bettering themselves.  This is the type that I often have issues with.  

There is one case that I read about here where a birthmother was raped by a family member, and she placed the child up for adoption because it was too painful to think about raising him/her.  I would love to hear other people's opinions of that reason.  I would hate to be in that situation.

Bottom Line:  The inability to feed yourself or your children is an acceptable reason to place a child for adoption.  The inability to attend college is not.

Answer 8

Well, some like my mother lived a life style that was not healthly to raise a child in. My mother was a drug addict so the state had to come in to take me away and place me in foster care. While i was in the system, my mother was given chances to clean up her life, but she didn't. So,ulitmately the state stepped in to take away her rights, before she signed the papers, relinquinshing me, she made sure the adoptive parents I have now would have first choice. She knew that they could provide for me. So that was why my mother gave me up, her life choice prevented her from being a healthly mother.

Answer 9

Because they can't support them or because they are to young.It is a difficult decision and most won't do it unless they are sure the child will be better off.

Answer 10

Some parents feel giving a child up for adoption is more morrally correct that aborting a baby. and hopefully the baby will go to a nice home which they may not be able to provide.

Answer 11

I placed a baby for adoption three years ago.  It was the most difficult decision of my life, but defintely the right one. I wanted her to have a stable home with two parents and a wonderful life.  Everything has worked out, adoption is amazing!!!

Answer 12

Recently reunited w/my b/mom. She did it because she was young and living an unhappy home life where she was mistreated by her mother. She didn't want to raise me in such an environment.  She also felt a child deserved 2 loving parents.  Luckily, that's exactly what I got. My first words to her were of thanks. Being a mother myself, I know it takes a strong woman to carry a baby and give them up even if to others who you know can provide a better life.

Answer 13

birth mom's choose adoption for many reasons - some financial, some feel they are too young to raise a child- some can be drug addicts, etc.  I have never heard such negativity on adoption as from this site- some times I think that this is one reason abortion happens far more readily than adoption- because the birth mother is made to feel inferior for having to place her child for adoption.  I am not a birth mom, I am an adoptee, and have 2 adopted children - and I have met both of my children's birth moms and I can tell you they were coerced into it- the voluntarily and selflessly place their babies in our home. It was hard for them of course.

Answer 14

Because life sometimes throws people curve balls.  

If I didn't have the means to support a child or whatever the reason may be that I can't keep the baby, I would definitely give it up for adoption.  There are plenty of people in the world that would make wonderful parents and can't have children or would like to expand their current family in a non-traditional way.  

In short it is the hope that the child will have all the world has to offer and none of the pain that you think you would bring them.  It is really a great gift for a birth parent to give a child and not a curse.

Answer 15

whatever the reason i am SO glad that there are people out there willing to adopt.  if it wasn't for those people, who know where adoptees, like me, would be!!

Answer 16

In Africa we have huge numbers of AIDS orphans, where their parents have simply succumed to the disease. In many instances some parents are unable to financially provide a home, some are put up for adoption when people are too young to take care of a child. Its a hard choice for anyone.