Why do parents have to beg for stuff from the brides side?

Question

How does the son really feel about the whole thing when he is earning more than enough? Or is this a way of calling off the wedding?

Answer 1

Don't understand what you are asking.  Are you of a nationality other than American?  If so, you live with different customs and Americans can't really provide answers.

Answer 2

they should not have to but it is the brdes side thst pays unless the inlaws offer to help

Answer 3

Pay for your own wedding and you take parents and in-laws largely out of the equation.

Answer 4

Your question is not

easy to understand???

Answer 5

Um, my inlaws didnt ask for anything?? We all paid for things between us! (hubby and I, my parents, his parents....)

Answer 6

Your question is unclear  just what is your question?

Answer 7

i dont understand the siutation, can you add more detail

Answer 8

The concept of the bride's parents paying for the wedding go back to the Victorian era. It was a way for wealthy people to show off. This is also the origin of the wedding dress - to show off that the family is wealthy enough to afford a dress that will only be worn for one day. There's nothing wrong with setting limits on wedding expenses. You cxan outright tell the couple that if they're old enough to get married then they're old enough to pay for it themselves. Alternatively, you could name a dollar amount you're willing to spend. I know a woman who used all her savings and borrowed $25,000 from the bank to give her daughter a $40,000 wedding. That's just flat ridiculous.

Answer 9

Are you having trouble with your in laws?  Nobody had to 'beg' for stuff from my side of the family.

Answer 10

I don't think I understand your question- do you mean that the groom and his family are expecting the bride's family to pay for everything in the wedding?  They may just be traditionalists.  After all, it used to be customary for the bride's parents to pay for the whole thing.  Now that times have changed and most engaged people are self-sufficient with careers of their own, there's really no reason why they shouldn't pay for their own wedding themselves, but some people still adamantly stand by tradition.