Why do parents say they can't stop their kids from having s*x?

Question

This is something that has been on my mind for a while and today i'm finaly asking, I though parents controled where their kids went, can't they just look over them better, and when they go to work leave them with grandma or a friend?

I PERSONALLY think there is no way for a kid to have s*x if there parents wouldn't allow it. (maybe i just think all parents should be like my mom idk lol)

Parents/kids what do you think???.

Answer 1

You cant control your teen 100% of the time..  but if parents were PARENTS and taught their kids how to make responsible decisions..  you wouldnt be having these problems.

Parents are lazy and just dont want to raise kids properly anymore..  they spoil them from the time they are small children and try to be their "friend" instead of a parent.

Answer 2

Probaly because kids go places parents don't even think dangerous, like birthday parties and school. and when they go to a friends house boys/girls could be there too.  

My parents would never let me do that, but if i wanted to [which i DON"T] i could probaly find a way. I'm not going to until im married though.

=)

Answer 3

Parents can advise, guide and educate but not even God can stop any one or a kid who wishes to go for s*x otherwise Adam and Eve would have acted accordingly.

Besides, kids learns discipline and moral values from their parents. Most of the parents cannot stop even themselves to do adultery then what face do they have to stop their kids in doing the same who are not even bonded by any commitments yet?

Regards

Vinay

Answer 4

well I am 15 and trust me

its easier to get away with a lot:)

even with the most uptight parents

Answer 5

because they really cant.

dont they go to school. So what if when school ends they just leave right from there.

or what if they tell you they will be at a friend's house, so you dont let your kids go to friend's house?

you can't have your sight on them 24/7

Answer 6

To a certain extent parents can influence their children's decisions but there is a point where it is up to oneself to either obey and take their advice or ignore it.  

It is shirking responsibility for a parent to say they have absolutely no control over whether their children have s*x.  They can advise their children not to and present them with reasons why they are against it.  If the child respects their parents wishes they may not have s*x even if they want to.  They may wait until they are out of their guardianship.  However, if the parents force their ideals upon their children they're more likely to defy them.

Answer 7

The parent isn't with the child at all times, so short of chaining the kid to a radiator, no, they cannot absolutely 100% prevent a teenager from having s*x.

When the parents sleep, the teenager could sneak out or have someone sneak over.  As a teenager, I even knew how to disable our house alarm without my parents knowing.  

Unless the parent supervises all extracurriculars, mall outings, movie outings, sleepovers and/or "runs around the block," the teenager will eventually be alone.  Sports practice can be skipped, friends with cars can be met at the mall, movie theaters have bathrooms and/or nooks, and sleepovers... don't even get me started.

I'm 25 now and pregnant with my first child.  This has actually put things in perspective.  I won't be able to keep her from doing something she wants.  I guess the only surefire way a parent can guarantee a teenager doesn't have s*x is to make sure he/she grows up with the right priorities.  

And even that isn't something you can absolutely control.

Answer 8

Well, since parents can't control their children's free will, they can't stop them from having s*x.

If a person follows the rules, and listens to (or agrees with) their parents, they are less likely to do so, but parents still can't physically stop them.

Kids try to sneak out, lie, do anything they can... to do whatever they want.. despite what their parents say.

So, unless parents lock their kids in a room with no windows.. and never let them out of the house.. they can't control whether or not their kids have s*x.. or if they have some sort of security guard follow them around..

It all depends on the relationship of the parents and kids though.. Many kids choose not to have s*x on their own, simply because of what they have been taught from their parents.

Answer 9

Well umm sorry to burst your obviously parent inforced bubble - kids go places without their parents. Not every child is supervised at all time - which would be outrageous of they were

So really their is a lot of time in which kids can sleep around.. Also theres this little thing called lying that can help aid kids in finding oppourtunities to have s*x

honestly, i dont understand why you asked this question

your probably a well protected child. I realize this. And probably for you it doesnt seem even comprehensable that kids could have s*x, but sadly it does happen a lot. Actually its weird I can think of a lot of opporunities for me to have s*x. but I chose not too - I have decided I'm not having s*x until I am mature enough to make the decision. Even though hormones are sometimes pretty hard to resist...

Sorry if i came off strong but yeah basically i dont why you asked this

Answer 10

I don't know -- I think it's because they are too lazy to even try to supervise their children.

Answer 11

if  a kid can sneak out of the houe when they're groundede they can have s*x without their parents knowing.

Answer 12

You can't control what your child does every minute of every day. I was a good kid, I did well in school, I never got in trouble, but I started having s*x with my boyfriend (the same one I dated all throughout high school) when I was 15. My parents never had a reason to be more strict with where I went or anything because I was well-behaved, so they had no reason to believe I would be doing that.

In the end you have to trust your kids and know that ultimately they'll do what they want. If they want to do something bad enough, there's not much you can do to stand in the way.

That being said, I'm pregnant with my first child, a girl, and I think I'll lock her in the house until she's 30 lol

Answer 13

ok this is nto my category but i laughted at this so ill answer

the only way they can completely stop this is to tie them up and home and put them in cages and never let them out

and yes there are many ways to get around parents saying NO so haveing s*x teens kids will do anything there parents tell them not to just to see what happens ha

Answer 14

I thought I was keeping my 14 year old daughter from having s*x too early or doing anything else she may regret. I knew where she was and who she was with at all times, or so I thought. Then there was the great night when my phone rang at 3:30 am with a call from the police calling to tell me to come and pick up my daughter. Who was in her bed when I went to bed, since I do not let her go spend the night with many people.The child I was watching trying to keep out of trouble was climbing out her window and meeting an 18year old that she was forbidden to even talk to.

So, we as parents can do so much to prevent it but if they want it bad enough they will find a way.

Answer 15

parents cant be watching there teens 24/7 and if they want to have s*x they will find a way. like when they are at school! trust me they will find a way..

Answer 16

parent sat that becaues there children is the one who make there descride

Answer 17

Because they truly can't. If your child asked to stay the night at a friends house whose to say they wont really be staying somewhere else? I know I used to do that. Or they will have people over at that friends house. If they want to have s*x, trust me, they will find a way.

Answer 18

Because they can't control their lives.

'nuff said.

Answer 19

I had a SAHM mom and was raised Catholic.  Still I was able to meet up and have s*x.  My parents had no idea so how could they stop me?  I lied and told them I was going to BBF house and then sneak to my BF house.  I guess they trusted me enough not to check up but I just don't see how you could live your life making phone calls every 30 minutes to see where your kid is.  At some point you have to give your teen wings and let them make the choices that they will.

Answer 20

They can't be around them 24/7...Kids aren't going to want to be cooped up in the house all day with they're grandparents...They're going to want to go to the park, or friends house...and they're parents aren't going to want to follow them around while they do that all day, just to make sure they aren't having s*x...Kids are gonna do what they want, even if means sneaking out, or say they are at their friends house, when they're really at they're boyfriends.

Answer 21

I'm with yah.  There's never a time when my parents don't know who I'm with or where I am.

Answer 22

They can

Answer 23

You can't raise your children in a bubble or lock them in a cage until they graduate from high school.  

Once kids reach a certain age, it is expected that they will go out with their friends, attend school functions, and go other places where their parents will not be in attendance.  Sure, you could be ultra strict and drop your teenager off at school, pick them up afterwards, never allow them to go out on weekends, and always be home when they are home, but that is pretty unrealistic, not to mention not much of a life for your teenager (or you, for that matter).

At some point, you need to let go and just hope they use good judgment and the values you instilled in them.

Answer 24

If a kid/teenager wants to do something, they're gonna find a way to do it..

Regardless if their parents try to stop them or not.