Why do people act so shocked...?

Question

when people either first find out that i'm pregnant or just havent seen me in a couple weeks, and ask how far along i am. i tell them how far along i am (13 weeks 3 days) then they look at my small bump of a belly and say "you dont even look pregnant at all" but they say it with a tone like they dont believe that i am 3 months along, like they think im not as far along as i'm saying i am. i am 5' 9" tall and usually weigh around 128. so im tall and thin. this is my second pregnancy and with the first i wasnt showing like i am now until i was around 5 months. in other words i am showing quicker than i did the first time. but how do i respond to people when they act as if they dont believe me.?

Answer 1

Ask them how far along they are, and act disbelievingly when they say they're not...

I know it's a smart*ss remark, but you get enough guff from people when you're preggers, sometimes it feels good to put people in their place ;)

Answer 2

I wouldn't respond to their remarks.  Every person's body reacts differently to pregnancy.  I think most of them are really paying you a compliment by trying to tell you that you still look thin even though you are pregnant.  I wouldn't take offense.

Answer 3

i got that with all three of my babies because people have an image of pregnancy so when you say one thing and it is not average then they question it. my first i was so big i looked like i had twins my second was so low like a boy and my third i was so small i fit into a size 10 at the end. first was one girl second was one girl and third was a boy

Answer 4

ignore them they are just rude people. my cousin was very thin before she got pregnant and didn't show until she was 6 months so all i have to say is its normal for your body type so dont worry and just ignore them  good luck with your pregnancy  

Answer 5

Don't worry about those people! i didn't start showing properly until i was about 13 weeks as well! i was underweight before falling pregnant and now i'm 28 weeks and have put on about 12 kgs... i am feeling good and looking very pregnant now! you will be fine! just ignore them, they may be jealous...

Answer 6

I do get where you are coming from!!! Last week I was at the grocery store and I saw a client of where I used to work. He asked how come he didn't see me lately at work and I answered I was pregnant. He looked at me, all surprised. I was 32 weeks pregnant back then.

Everybody keeps telling me how "tiny" I am and they look like they either don't believe me or judge me (a "aren't you eating enough?" look)

I must say I eat ... a lot! I just try to keep it healthy (fruits, nuts, yogurt, etc)

I too am tall (5'8) so maybe it's something common for tall women. I have gained 25 pounds which my doctor thinks is perfect!

I try to ignore the comments, or say "ah, I'll have less to lose once I give birth"...

Congrats on the baby and let them think what they think --we know the truth ;)

Answer 7

I'm nearlly 17 weeks and I"m barely showing maybe they think they are flattering you

Answer 8

Wait a min.  I am 12 weeks and not "showing" yet.  How can anyone expect you to show all like that at 13 weeks?  Are they nuts?  Skinny or fat at 13 weeks  you probably would only have a little bump...some people nothing at all because it depends on how your body is laid out anyway.  They are sillies!  

Answer 9

Just ignore them people are so judgemental when you're pregnant and there ain't a thing you can do about it. As long as you know you are pregnant and everything is healthy that's the most important thing

Answer 10

People acted shocked because everyone has their own idea of how large you should be or how small you should be at each stage of your pregnancy.

When I was pregnant with my last son, my husband and I attended birthing classes.  There I was with a large belly (he weighed 9lbs.12 oz.) and I was not due for another 2 months.  The woman on the left side of me was due in another month and was quite well rounded in the tummy, too.  The little young soon-to-be mom on the other side of me barely showed at all.  Just a little tiny stomach.  We are a military community so we all assumed that she was taking the classes with her husband because he would be deploying.  We (the woman to the left of me and myself) ask the young little mom-to-be how far along she was.  Much to our surprise she said her baby was due in about three weeks.  I was astonished that a baby could live in such a small belly.  She looked about 4 months to me.  The next week the couple was not in class, the instructor told us they had a 6 pound baby girl that week.  Just know everyone has a set idea and it shocks them when it goes against everything they personally think is right.  I will tell you this, with each pregnancy my stomach got bigger sooner.  My pregancy showed quicker each time and made it look as if I were farther into my pregnancy than I was.  Congrats on the new one, I know you will love and enjoy your new addition to the family.

Answer 11

just slap on a smile and pretend it doesn't bother u