Why do people adopt kids?

Question

I REALLY WANT 2 KNOW.........

(AND YES I AM ADOPTED)

Answer 1

Because they want to give a precious child a chance to have a good family, good home and lots of love that they wouldn't receive in some shelter or orphanage.  Sometimes, they can't have a biological child, other times, they want to give a child without a family one.

Answer 2

Either they cannot have a biological child of their own, OR...an even better reason...to give love and a life and home to a child that needs and deserves it.  I have a few close relatives that are adopted.  My grandmother did both (had some biologically and some adopted).  If she had her way she would have adopted every kid in town.  Seriously.

Answer 3

I think for the most part, they want to PARENT.

Answer 4

There are lots of reasons.  Some couples aren't capable of having children of their own.  It may be because of fertility issues, health issues or because they are a same s*x couple.  Some people simply choose to adopt rather than having their own biological children.  Some people want to add onto their existing biological family, so they adopt.  That's the few reasons I can think of.

Answer 5

I adopted my two children because I knew them through family.  They were very close to me and I found myself in the parental role often for them. Then full time when DHHS stepped in.  I halped by doing a kinship placement and go licensed for fostercare and adoption.  When the parents terminated their rights...voluntarily...I asked to adopt.  I didn't want them to begin being introduced to strangers.  The rest of their family loved them...the parents were just screwed up.  Terminated and left the state.  The kids are doing wonderful and call me mom.....when they were told that their parents termed the oldest asked if I could be his "real" mom.

Answer 6

The most obvious reason as to why couples choose adoption is because they can't physically concieve a child on their own.  On the other hand, some may choose to adopt simply because they don't want to have their own children.  Some women may not want to go through the pain or have their body scarred for life, although that's somewhat selfish and a little vain in my opinion it's not completely unheard of.  I've made the decision that when I'm old enough and stable on my own, or with a spouse that I will adopt.  I feel the need to help children that don't have a home of their own, especially young girls in asia who get thrown on the street as infants.

Answer 7

People adopt because they physically cannot conceive a child, or if they can conceive they may not want to because of the amount of children in "the system" that need families.

Answer 8

For many reasons.  Some may not be able to have biological children.  Some may want to help a child/children in need.  Some may just feel led to adopt.  I know some that will adopt when their own children are out of the house and they have time to devote to a younger child.   There are so many reasons why people would want to adopt.

Answer 9

I plan on adopting a child because I want to give a child who doesn't have a family the love and support that he/she deserves.

Answer 10

maybe they cant have children of their own or dont want to have children of their own. or some feel that there shouldnt b children out there without moms and dads and no one to take care of them, therefore, they step in and decide that they will be the parent of the infant or child!

Answer 11

I plan on adopting a child in the future because I cannot have my own children.

Answer 12

Because they want to make a difference in someone else's life! I have one kid and i am done. if i ever have another kid it will be adpted because i feel that is is sensiless to have kids when there are kids out there that need parents!

Answer 13

There are many reasons:

They are unable to have their own children and want to have a family.

They are aware of the millions of children in the world who are currently without families.

They want a child of a different race.

Answer 14

ppl adopt kids because maybe they cannot have kids and they want a baby to love and care for. And ppl give babys for adoption because they dont have money or they dont have a place a live. Or just because they think that the kid could have a better life with someone else Someone that can give them things that they cant give.

Answer 15

Okay, here is the real answer about why I think most people adopt children.  It comes from my heart, so I'm sharing a really heartfelt part of me on this one, because you say you are adopted.  I want you to know how most adoptive moms really feel.  

******Warning****** religious beliefs are involved.  Do not read if that is offensive to you.

I believe that God created (designed shows more purpose) females to have a need to be a mother.  This is a necessary thing in order for humanity to live on, and not die out.  So, here we are, stuck with this deeply imbedded yearning to be a mother.  To nurture and care for and love a child.  When nature interferes with that yearning, we look for ways to meet that need in other ways--fertility clinics, adoption, etc....  I realize that the "drive" to be a mother is not as strong in some females as it is in others--that's nature, also.  Nature, balancing itself out.  But those of us who feel this deep yearning can't just "talk" ourselves out of it.  So, we think about adoption.  Why wouldn't we?  We know there are children in the world who need mothers, and we are a "mother" who needs a child.  Seems ideal, right?  

And, it is good.  Without adoption some children would literally die, or live in a perpetual state of not belonging to anyone (being raised in foster care).  But adoption is not the fantasy that we often think it is.  I have compared it to brain surgery.  It should only be done when it is necessary to save the child's life.  Only then does the trauma of adoption outweigh the "risks" or negative side-effects.  No one would consider brain surgery--no surgeon would consider brain surgery, unless the risks of not having the brain surgery outweighed the advantages of the surgery.  

Now, back to your question.  Women were "designed" to be mothers.  It's in their genes.  When we aren't mothers we feel the hole that is left by that void.  It does NOT mean we are less of a woman.  It does NOT mean we can't have meaningful lives unless we are mothers.  It simply means that we have this very natural desire to become mothers.  We just need to be sure that our need to become a mother doesn't infringe on someone else's rights or needs.

Answer 16

Many reasons.  But rarely as altruistic as people's answers here would have you believe!

Answer 17

I am considering adoption because I want to be a mom to children, it is the maternal instinct. You should feel luckly that your parents CHOOSE you instead of just OOPS. What i dont understand is why adopted adults are so bitter??

Answer 18

I am going to adopt because I just can't see myself having a child biologically when there are so many children who I know I can love just as much, that REALLY need homes.

It hurts me to know that so many young adults commit suicide every year because of the stress of life, especially without a family to back them up.

I know people have been hurt by adoption (especially under the more secretive systems), but there are so many kids out there who would LOVE to have parents.

I'm not going to adopt babies- they're so cute they have a chance. I'm adopting children, kids who have experienced the worst in life. Even though they may be emotionally unsettled, Id rather go through years of especially hard work as their mother- then to have them commit suicide when they're 18, no longer living in an orphanage and without any support.

So, my basic thought?

How could I not adopt!

Answer 19

There are as many reasons as there are adoptions.  It's a darned good thing people want to parent a child who is not biologically theirs, because there is a world of children out there without parents and families who really need someone to love them and rear them.

I think it's pretty cool that kids are chosen by their adoptive parents.  That out of all the parentless children in the world (and there are something like 210 million orphans worldwide), they chose YOU...well...that's pretty cool.  

Some people have kids when they aren't able to be parents...and some people want to be parents, but can't have kids.  It's a pretty special thing that they can find one another.

Answer 20

Usually it's because they have so much love to share that they feel lonely as just a couple and if they cannot or do not want to reproduce, then adoption is usually their choice.

It's a pity more people don't choose to adopt rather than have their own and the planet would be a better place.

Answer 21

because they cant or dont want to have their old children for one. and reason two...why the h**l not?

Answer 22

My husband and I made our decision to adopt when we found out that adopting through foster care was free.  We will be giving a family to a child or children who NEED one; kids who are waiting for families, and might otherwise languish in the foster care system.  I wish that the way adoption is done here in the US were different so that we could do a guardianship instead, and so that they wouldn't have to have a new birth certificate (but we live in Oregon, so we have access to the original bc, which is good).

My husband and I have a strong desire to nurture the souls of little people, and adding to the world's population when there are children waiting in foster care wasn't much of an appealing choice.  We work with troubled kids, so we can handle whatever our kids need to throw our way; and we've done a lot of learning about how we can nurture little souls not just as individuals, but as adoptees, as abused children, as girls/boys, as disabled people, and/or whatever issues our children are facing.

It's not about wanting to be parents.  We could have had "our own" kids for that.  We've got what it takes to give some kids what they need, without having the need to strip them of their identities and their previous lives.

Answer 23

I personally want to have two of my own children, and then, when they're off in college or late high school years, maybe getting jobs even, I want to adopt a child. Then one more about ten years later. I want to because I can't imagine my life without having someone to take care of and enjoy. Also, I know I could give them something they may not be able to have otherwise: a loving family and home.

Answer 24

Because we want to be parents.

Answer 25

I have an infant son we adopted a few months ago. I can't speak for other people, but we adopted our son because we wanted to be parents, plain and simple.