Why do people ask you for your opinion, and then get angry at you when you give it?

Question

I've had 3 friends ask me questions, which I answered negatively because I actually had some life experience in all of their problems - I was actually looking out for them so they wouldn't get burnt, or end up back at square one, and they attacked me, and didn't talk to me for ages. Grrrr....

It's like they were just trying to start a fight with me?!?!?!

Answer 1

Because, you're supposed to give an honest opinion but you have to give it in a way that they won't think you're completely against it. My best friend (14) just told me that she wants a kid, I told her that I thought it was a bad decision, but if she was going to do it then I was there for her. She later asked me to be her god mother, and soon after that, realized that she was too young. Friends don't ask to know an answer, they ask for reassurance.

Answer 2

Because they expect you to give them the answer they want to here.......if you dont they get mad...thats happened to me too  

Answer 3

Because they expect you to think like they do about the subject and when you answer and your answer is different than their answer would be, they think you're wrong and maybe angry because you're not thinking the way they do.  

Answer 4

I think because subconsciously we ask to try and hear what we want to hear. I think it takes a fair bit of life experience to be able take advice on the chin and do something constructive with it.

Answer 5

Because normally when you ask opinions you subconsciously know the answer deep inside, and you're looking more for someone who will agree with you so you will have more confidence in your belief.

but when it is the complete opposite (your answer) or lacked the insight they saw into their own dilemma they can get offended.

Answer 6

They are looking for a certain answer.  When you don't give it; they get upset.  It would be better not to give it to them.

"I'm sorry, I don't know."

Answer 7

maybe they were not

satisfied with the answer the received.

Answer 8

They don't want your opinion, that is a rhetorical question. I always say something vaguely positive, no matter what I really think. The only time I'm honest is if the person truly wants a reality check.

Answer 9

Yeah true, i have noticed that too. maybe they really dont want your pinion maybe they already have their mind made up and they want confirmation off others and if someone doesnt agree or has a different opinion they get upset because it makes them second guess their choice.

Answer 10

Some people find the truth upsetting and dont like the fact that they are wrong etc sometimes, its pride i think.

Answer 11

there are some... that only want to hear what they want and when you tell them what you truly think they don't like it and blame it on you. dont worry they are just afraid of the truth when it doesn't suit them

Answer 12

I never lie when answering these types of question because after the fact, and that you're right, they blame YOU for what happened to them.

When someone asks my that type of question and I get that type of negative reply, I just answer "If I'm wrong, great for you, but if anytime along the way you start to think I'm right, remember what you just told me" and that settles that. It's THIER proble and THIER choice!

Answer 13

Because nine times out of ten they really don't want any opinion or advice that doesn't agree with what they want to do anyway.  Most people are asking because they want their opinion confirmed, not argued with.

Answer 14

i really dont understand y you call these poeple friends I wouldnt waste my time talking too them be hppy they are gone with the wind.

Answer 15

It is probably your delivery. If somebody asks you a question like "Am I fat?" and you say "well, I was going to say, you are a huge, but its not that bad if you jog a little. Soon, you will be pretty again"

Answer 16

because they are ignorant. And probably dont realize people sometimes can be mean or give stupid responses?  

Answer 17

They are typically only asking if you agree with them. If you dare to tell someone something they don't like and they don't want to hear, they don't care what you think. Unfourtunately, agreeing is what often passes for being right.

Answer 18

will you yell at me if i answer?