Why do people avoid me like the plague

Question

Even my former priests don't return most of my messages. I don't send them very often. I tend to be a quiet person, and only communicate when I have too. Even though I try to give people their space ppl still avoid me. I can go months at a time w/o sending a new message & try to let it roll off me when ppl ignore me. I feel depressed. I go to therapy & take 2 medications. Most of the time I do okay. I've only gone out with my mom this summer & my bro a couple times. No one else bothers to contact me.

Answer 1

Send us a pic then we'll be able to tell you...

Nahh just kidding, I have the same problem. It's part of being a quiet individual.

Actually for me it's gotten better as I have tried to make a conscious effort to be more sociable around people. It can be stressful, but if you meet the right people you can let them know ahead of time what kind of person you really are. I'm not saying compromise all of your values to be someone you aren't, I'm just saying be more outgoing. Some people play "hard to get," subconsciously to test you, and I don't mean relationshipwise.

Don't worry about it, call someone and see if they want to go see a movie. Just be yourself around them, but treat them like a friend. It'll get better.

Answer 2

I sorta used to be like you man, hey you cant let it affect you, you gotta live your life...enjoy yourself, go to clubs, do things....just make yourself happy.......

listen, you'll be alright

Answer 3

U r not a plague it's them that don't recognize someone special like u who cares about others. Don't sweat it just keep ur mind busy doing something positive like making new friends or going out.  But hey here we are writing u, hopefully u can find friends here. Hope my answer helped.

Answer 4

I don't know, ask him and you are only asking this waste of a questian to get attention. and you never used yahoo answers for 5 times.

Answer 5

Maybe it's because you're depressed all the time.

No one likes to be around people who are depressed and are only looking for attention. Because that makes them depressed too.

People like to be around people who are fun and enjoying life.

When contacting people, try to be positive and fun. Don't just unload all of your problems on them. Ask them how they are doing and take an active interest in their lives too. Make other people feel important and that you care about them too. Then, they'll be banging down your door to hang out with you.

But if all you do is act depressed and complain all the time, no one is going to go out of their way to hang out with you.

Answer 6

I am very sorry people ignore you. Try making different friends with people more like you. Make friends with people who have the same things in common with you.

That way they are more interested in what you have to say. That's what everybody does- is try to make friends with people like them.

Then they can answer your messages because they will be able to relate and understand you more.

Answer 7

maybe you don't have any truley close friends,

if they don't contact you try to be friends with them

to marrow when you get up call someone an make planes for that day, if they cant,make plans with them 4 l8er, then call some1 elce

Answer 8

You teach people how to treat you oddly enough. You may have low self esteen and so you send out a kind of vibe that tells others to leave you alone--and so they do. You probably have a look and a personality that suggests that you don't want to be bothered. Why don't *you* be the topic starter and show these people that you really *are* a fun person that loves to be around others!  

Answer 9

find new friends

Answer 10

Sometimes we go through times like this in life. Maybe it's time for you to completely change your surroundings. Can you move to a different, big city for a while and see what happens?

Answer 11

im a quiet guy myself but somethimes i tell jokes or make a fool of myself ,that way everybody remembers you.

Answer 12

Firstly are you a male or a female? we have no idea! so how can we give you an opinion on so little knowledge?

Answer 13

maybe because you sound depressing  and self pitying  

make yourself smile and sometimes it will make you happier after a while   and as for your messages people are busy  i get messages all the time from people i haven't seen in a while i mean to get back to them but usuallyy forget don'tt take it so personal

if you want more friends join a club or something where there are people that are interested in the same things you are

Answer 14

maybe they fell like you're not making an effort to contact them, so they dont try to contact you..  

Answer 15

I don't think people avoid you, your message here is understandable and it communicates what you want to say pretty well.  Nobody has too many friends, I know I don't.  Is there some activity out there that you would enjoy doing?  A club at school?  You go to church, what about a church group?  Do you like to play Bridge or are you interested in Anime?

I think you'll find that people will speak to you after they see you three or four times.  When you see someone only once, they remain a stranger, I think that's all that is happening.  You have to remember that everyone is a little shy.   I know if you get out there and do something that interests you and go regularly, people with similar interests will speak to you and be glad to have you as a friend.