Why do people become bullies?

Question

Is it because of an aggressive role model, or do they see their victims as vulnerable?

Answer 1

jealousy, ego, narcissism, mental illness, low self-esteem, victim of abuse & takes it out on others who are perceived as weaker & harmless.

Answer 2

Sometimes they were also picked on and this is the only way they see how things are done.  It's not right no matter what the reason, but this is one guess why.

Answer 3

Low self esteem.

Answer 4

Well i don't know much but i think it is because there are conflicts in the families or they just want to be "awsome"

Answer 5

It can be either or neither. But most of the cases i've been through are that they are insecure and feel that by hurting someone they have "overpowered" them and makes them feel better. They will always pick on victims that are generally more weak and unable to hurt them back.

Most physical bullies have usually been abused or bully in a physical way to release their anger eg. hitting someone, kicking someone.

Verbal bullies normally are "Show-offs" to their own bully group, they try to show that they are stronger than the victim and would normally say something to them in the face to hurt them. eg. you're fat.

Other types of bullying include excluding, the point of that is usually that they are not really trying to overpower something yet they normally just don't like you because of who you are and what you do. It's not the victim's problem yet the bullies' problem.

The newest type of bullying, cyber bullying. This one means they post things online on a social network website, blog it, sms it, email it etc. They do this so they can show many more people that the victim is so bad and stuff, this usually gets alot of attention as people find it as something to discuss on those types of formats.

Bullies usually have some intention of doing it yet it is usually because of their own problems that they will become a bully. It is NEVER the victim's fault. It is also a psychological problem for the bully, they should talk to someone about it, they may not really want to hurt someone's feeling but they cannot control their own minds and their doings due to the way that their brain is thinking.

Answer 6

They have low self esteem. They make fun of others to make themselves feel better and look cooler.

Answer 7

I'm guessing at both. Also, that they have anger and have no other outlet for it. They take it out on people who most likely are too scared to squeal on them, or they something the victim does sets them off.

Part of the role model thing goes back to above ^^. The role model may have had no other way of showing emotion except thru anger, which is saddening. Weak victims tend to be the trend because of a few reasons- 1) They won't fight back, giving the Bully an easy prey. Its somewhat like the animal world, bullying, isn't it? 2) They don't have many friends (in some cases) and so there is no one to really stand up for them if they can't do it themselves. 3) They are too easily persuaded into the fear of being "pummeled to a pulp" if they tell, thus brainwashing them to keep the secret. And 4) Some weak people are more reserved than others, and not very easy to talk to.

Bullying is cruel, and anyone should  stop it if they see it.

Answer 8

there is something that they can't control in their life, so they bully someone else so they fell they are controling your life.

Answer 9

I feel sorry for bulllies! I hate bullies!!

Answer 10

It's much more complicated then that, it's ignorant to assume it's as black and white as what you're suggesting.  I love your grammar, by the way.

Bullies love to alienate people because, yeah, people are vulnerable and are generally easy targets.  It's also a reflection on themselves.  They tend to be insecure or something and think that by putting down others they are superior, because that's what they need.  Life somehow screwed them over, so now the whole world is infested with idiots.  

Either that, or they just like messing with people.  I know I do.  

Answer 11

bcoz they have problems 2 and other ppl do so they tease them about it to make them self feel better (:

Answer 12

Both.  

Answer 13

I was never a bully because i was bullied that is another excuse to be a bully i became a pacifist  instead.

To answer your question :-

The need to make friends

Because they have a great Inferior Complex

Brain washing  n**i Germany

the need to blame someone for their mistakes Mugabe blames England for his mistakes

Fear of anything they don't understand  (IT Nerds)

England had a game of Parky Bashing (Beating up Pakistanis )

I was the only coloured Child in my primary school and secondary school about 600 children and was bullied until I joined the Royal Air Force

But Racism which is the same as bullying continued until i was a corporal then it stopped because i could take back my life

and now at 67 I am being Bullied again because i live alone and am well off and i hear  the words who did you steal from..

I sit in my front yard from 0600 to 073hrs and watch everyone going to work and get the finger

They even Insulted all the Free worlds Veterans by accusing me of steeling my 6 Medals when i was going to an Australian day ANZAC Parade

Note:- i don't have a criminal record never been to prison never been on trial served in the Air Force for nearly 37 years until i was compulsory retired do not owe anyone any money own my own home own a classic car and 6 classic British motorcycles and planning another 2 month holiday next year all done by my own efforts and being honest

Bullies i really feel sorry for them because what goes around comes around I retired at 55 and on my First day of retirement stood in my front Yard and gave the Finger to my old head master    who was long dead he retired at 72 and died at 75 living in a boarding house alone.and he was the biggest Bigot and Bully I ever had the displeasure of knowing.

Peace

Answer 14

either they get bullied at home by family and they take it out on other people or they are retarded or f*c*ed in the head

Answer 15

I think its a way of taking out their own problems on others...it makes them feel temporarily better - at the expense of someone else - but when they think about what they've done I don't think they are really happy about it - but some people just don't care!

Answer 16

Its all going back to survival

In order for the species to survive they have to get rid of the weak ones. Its just like in the wild where they kill the ones that have a disfunction or arent as strong.

Answer 17

Both? It's all very well having an aggressive role model, but if ninety percent of the school children can and will beat you up, your bullying oppurtunities are limited.

So, role models are one of them (it doesn't even have to be someone you know personally, just a role model you identify with), a group of weaker student or lower status students that you have power over or feel you have power over, and a certain amount of reinforcement - you get away with bullying, people laugh at it and therefore seem to like you for it, etc.

Answer 18

To bull means to show how strong they are. To be bullied, appearantly, they are very weak. How do you see this? A story of a race between the rabbit and the tortoise.

Answer 19

i think its because they want to look cool in front of people or it could be that the bully is jealous of the victim

Answer 20

People that become bullies have generally been bullied themselves.

They're feeling vulnerable and need to assert some sort of control. The easiest form of control is to find someone 'weaker' and try and dominate them.

Bully's have low self confidence/

Answer 21

It's because they couldn't or still can't handle their problems so they want others to suffer as well.

Bullies are often as weak as they can get.

Answer 22

most bullies that I encountered were covering up their own insecurities. I had boys try to bully me. I stood up to them and found they were not tough at all. some could fight but I never got bothered twice by the same one, and got a reputation that kept most in their place.

Answer 23

passing on the pain they received.

they are asserting their dominance, but the person they are bulling reacts in a weird manner so they keep on doing it until they react properly. like a two dogs fighting and it's not over until one of them assumes the position.

maybe self confidence issues related to answer 1.

maybe they think the world deserves it.