Why do people bully others?

Question

People call me names all the time and bully me. No one has physically hurt me yet. Im not really bothered what they think or say most of the time, but sometimes when they all gang up on me i get kinda upset. Should i fight back and hit them.

Why do they do it? I done nothing at all to them! why can't they just leave me alone?

Answer 1

I would assume thatyou are a kid going to school by  reaing between the lines.Form my own childhood expierences there is always a 'goat' 'in every group of kids and you are it. My advise to you would be secretly  if possible, take judo lessons keep it quiet until you learn some noncombat judo and then 'clean house'. When and if you do this be sure to do a thour job and your prestiege will go sky high, you will be left strickly alone and the girls will mob you. If you are under eighteen you have the possibility of getting slapped on the wrist and nothing else will happen.Go for it!!!

Answer 2

It could have something to do with the ego I am not sure.  When a narcissist needs his supply, which would appear to be bullying it is because of low self esteem.  Do not hit them.  Remove yourself from the situation.  It appears they are more of a social tribe and you are alone which may indicate that you may be an introvert which is very easy to misunderstand.

Answer 3

Make up your own gang and start a big fight and kill those

sons of b*****s

Answer 4

The way to stop this is just ignore them..I know..easier said than done.When you do this and they see (and it will not happen overnight) that you are not reacting to their bullying believe it they will stop.It is you getting upset that encourages their bullying.Just walk away and give them a board kinda look.

Answer 5

Hi

I am a expert with bullys and i will help

Bullys pick on kids for no apperand reason because there self-esteem is low, they do it to make them feel good.

Next time someone bullys you, ignore them but if they start to get on your nerves, tell someone.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

no you dont fight them for calling you names howver if they touch you then you fight them and then if they try to gang up on you fighting run for your life. always fight back againts people even if they are bigger than you or will keep stepping on you unless its like 3 people vs then you and they wanna beat you up then thats different i would do run and hit tactic on them. its best that you seek the lowest person in there ranks and put him down so it can make you look better than him. Make in fun of them back but dont be corny or it will just make you look worse. I fought with bigger people then me like 4 times and only got beat up once from all those bigger people in one on fights. Dont be scared just because they look big. It doesnt matter. I was like 5 feet and and fought one guy that was like 6'1 at the time. . his friend hit me sum reason and was smaller then me. dont know why so i pushed him mad hard and he fell. Then the big guy came and i ran away up the stars and kept kicking him until they stoped the fight. I had the advantage because i was higher than him on the stars. That same year i fought another guy that wasnt much bigger than me and he beat me up though because he was  as qick as me also and stronger though. and im pretty quick. Another fight some big kept bothering me and was big like 6'2and he was kinda built alittle but slim. I  came up to him and hit him but then he got up. I was so pissed off i couldnt think, i never got so pissed off i just froze and didnt think at all. I didnt even respond when he threw a barge of punches at me but he missed all of them except 2 punches. However no one didnt even noticed he landed punches on me because he missed so much of them and i was so pissed and filled with adrenaline ididnt feel them until like 7 minutes after the fight. lucklily it didnt hurt afte rthe fight either. but i could feel it. And after he did all that barage of punches he pushed me againts the black board and ran away probably because he didnt wanna get caught or sumthing. he punched me once on my temple and if not dam close near it and once in the side of my neck barely punching my neck and my temple.but i was good and i didnt even flinch when he hit me. Was pretty luckily that guy couldnt aim punches. Not saying you should fight like this but if you at least try to defend yourself. One time I fought with a guy i literally landed at least like 45 punches on him and he only landed 2 punches on me. My punches werent hard and but very quick. and i dodged alot of punches. He ended up with a black eye and a bump with a cut lip. i got a bump in my head because when he punched me one time he suckered pucnhed me. were gunna fight and then after a whie we stopped. we were gunna leave and he then pucnhed me in the back of the head andd then i turned around and punched him mad hard in the face and punched him so more and stuff. then he got one more hard punnch out of me and then i punched him and they broke off the fight. We were both around the same height also except he was alittle taller but i used to arm wrestele with him and i was  alittlle stronger. But he did bad because he was just fighting rambo and just kept punching like crazy while i ducked under them he keep trying to move forward while i ducked to get closer but as i ducked I was moving backwards then i would counter. also there was one cool moment when i punched him  directly in his chin but not even that hard and he flew like5 feet away from me. that was before he sucker punched me though and this outside of the school people where watching stuff because the fight lasted like maybe 5 -7minutes. come to think of it im surprised police never came and did anything because there was a police staion like 7 blocks away.

Also i forgot the the last one it may have been just three fights with people that were bigger than me. I had so many fights  its not funny. I must have had alike at least 6 pre suspensions and i got suspended once , maybe twice i forgot. that doesnt include the fights i had before when i was in 1st grade-2nd and the ones outside the school. in the late years of 1rst and in second grade i was kind of a bully but not much.  My class was extremely small with only like 9 kids max or less mx i forgot. I didnt go aorund getting into fights for nothing but if someone had something i would take it and fight them and beat them or something. or i would if they had somethingthat was in my way while walking i would step on it or kick or whatever.  from 3rd to 4rth grade i had no fights.ive also had fought some of my friends before also but i won all my fights againts my friends except one of them , he beat me up he was like 3 years older then me and i was like 11 or 12. from middle school and up to only 1 fight in high school was where most of my fighting happened. They usually would give me presuspension because i didnt start trouble and i was a good person. Also the teachers and stuff tend to like me because im smart in class and i behave. But i dont do that suff no more i dont wanna look bad for college applications and my Jrotc.

if more than one person is trying to jump you though it would be  better to run away and hit them and stuff then run and so on. But if there fat kids then just fight them and wear them down and when they get tired beat them up. I had alot of bad time in high school though but now I am better off now. And thanx to my Jrotc  program its helping me rmember  how i used to be a hardworker and i used to be kinda depressed alittle. nyscc helped me motivate myself in my life. Join a nyscc if you want to learn to defend yourself, get your self esteem up, and  learn dicipline. In my nyscc not sure about others they also offer to help people out with there hw if you need that, although i never ask for hw help i just enjoy doing pt and  the dicipline of jrotc. HOOO-WA!

Answer 7

igone them eventually they will get bored of it and move on and act like they are funny and they will see ur not hurt by it and leave u alone

Answer 8

to feel better about themselves..

Answer 9

Because, unfortunately, to make some people hayppy, they have to do their best to make someone else feel bad.  It's a sad world when someone has to stoop to that level. Ignore them.  They are not worth your effort.  Ten years down the road, you will see these same people and they will be coming up to you when their life is a wreck and they will be asking you to be their friend.

Answer 10

Hi there. You know, I got picked on when I was younger. At 28, no one really picks on me at all!

I'll tell you what to do, okay?

Stay cool. I don't mean that you have to act like James Dean, just don't ever show them that you are upset or afraid. Get a sense of humor, because its SO necessarily to deal with this kind of thing.

They are bullying you because it makes them feel cooler. They've obviously spotted you out as an easy target. So, you are going to have to stop being a target, okay?

No matter what, don't act weak. Speak loudly and clearly, and keep your cool. Once it's not funny to pick on you anymore, they are going to leave you alone-I promise.

If it's TOO bad, dude-get your parents and police involved. You can sue these a******s. Scaring them with a harassment law suit might be enough to make them back off.

But, for regular bully type behavior, it all boils down to attitude. What is your facial expression when they start messing with you? What are you saying to them? Are you being as strong as you can?

Its so weird to go from being that little kid that was almost scared to go to school-and now, I've got tons of friends, lots of respect. I just had to keep working on it, and NEVER letting them see me weak. They obviously have low self esteems, and you have to be the better guy.

Aw, good luck to you!

Answer 11

They probably bully you because they are insecure about themselves. I would just ignore them if I were you, and don't do mean things back to them. What they are trying to do is make you upset, so if you don't show you are upset hopefully they will move on. That's really tough, I hope things get better for you!

Answer 12

Bullies have no self discipline, no code to live by except that which is self serving, and no belief in them selves

Answer 13

Mostly because they are insecure about their manhood, and subconsciously feel alot of people are better then them. By pushing other people around they feel like they are more of a man or women, and they think it will make them feel better about themselves. It's like the bumper sticker I saw recently that said, "My kid can beat up your honor roll student." To some people, who feel you have better qualities always puts them on the attack

Answer 14

It could be insecurity or prejudice of any kind. I know this for a fact. I was always the minority student in the schools I attended. I faced a lot of bullying because of it. I would advise you to ignore it. I made the mistake of showing how much it upset me, which just made it worst.

Answer 15

Although others will give differing reasons, the same situation occurs in chimpanzee groups; it establishes their higher rank in the dominance heirarchy, and prevents them from being bullied themselves. Stand up to them every time, and tell them to FLICK OFF. If it continues, report them to the appropriate authority, and say that if nothing is done to stop it, legal action will be forthcoming, on the grounds of failure to discharge their duty of care.

Answer 16

if they are bulley by someone and fell sad they tend to bully others

Answer 17

May I suggest a different social circle?  People that do it just don't like you for whatever their sick reasoning is.  Find people that do appreciate you, not diminish you as a person.  Ignore them and move past them.  They are the ones that are narcissistic, jealous, insecure, weak and insignificant.  They make themselves feel better by trying to make you feel bad.  Most times they are controlling, sociopathic and have no morals. Take the control from them.  People always try to bully others they think are weaker than themselves, you have the power to stop them, by ignoring them and staying away from them.  You can also keep them away from you by not giving them the time of day.