Why do people care that i'm so short?

Question

Yeah, especially this one guy, his name is Chris and sits behind me in band. && like every other day he asks me how tall i am. . . && i always say idk just cuz. . . i don't really know how tall i am exactly (i'm really really short tho) && he's really tall. && he's always saying hi to me. . . or kinda going out of his way to come talk to me . . .he's always really nice to me other than the "how tall are you" question. idk if this is just his weird way of flirting?

But yeah, people are always asking about and commenting on how short i am. && it's really annoying. . .why do people do that? is there any way to make them lay off on the subject? what do you say to people when they make a remark about it?

Answer 1

Do you have any idea of how many tall guys are attracted to petite women? Honey, you'd better extend your radar. I think he likes you, but he doesn't know how to develop the conversation any further. Come up with some questions to ask him and keep him talking because my radar tells me you're not reading his signals. You go girl!

Answer 2

what a jerk you cant help that!

Answer 3

My wife had the opposite problem in school -- she was tall.  It sounds like you have a healthier attitude toward it then her.  She got depressed about it.

It does sound like he's flirting.  Guys are designed to beat on things and act tough, and not do frilly or emotional things like have a heart to heart, so if it seems like it doesn't come natural that is because it doesn't.

I think people often say things like that, because no one is comfortable when dealing with differences.  I don't know that there is an answer to it, but you can talk to the people close to you so at least you're not getting bombarded with it continually.

Answer 4

are you a midget??

or are you just a slow grower..

anyways if he is real tall ,then he is being perverted,because he is wondering if your as tall as his groin area...sorry to be blunt about it but i didnt know any other way to put it...

Answer 5

I feel you, I'm short and I get teased and made fun of a lot in school before. Just tell those annoying jerks to shut up and find some of their flaws to make fun of that.  

Answer 6

Honestly, it sounds like he's flirting with you.  

As for how to deal with, let's face it, rude people, if you want them to leave you alone, you may have to be very blunt with them.  I try really hard to never be rude to people, but some people just don't get the point unless you are blunt. I'm unable to have children and I am constantly faced with people asking me why we don't have children yet. Beating around the bush with polite answers doesn't always work, sometimes I have to hit them with a " I can't have children and it really hurts when you ask me about it." So, I know where you are coming from. Just some suggestions of responses you could give:

*That's really rude. Would you please stop asking me that?

*My height doesn't bother me, why does it bother you so much?

*Why do you need to know?

*There's more to me than how tall I am.

*I like how tall I am and don't know why it bothers people so much.

Most people aren't trying to be rude, they just aren't thinking when they make these comments.  It sounds like you have a good attitude. Don't let their comments bother you. It's their problem, not yours. Good luck!