Why do people choose to be so rude?

Question

Why do people choose to be so rude?

Answer 1

Hi there, South Africa, from Devon in England! I can't see the point in being unnecessarily rude. Anyone with a reasonable vocabulary can make a point politely, and with much more emphasis. I think most rudeness stems from lack of education of some sort.

Answer 2

Some people find it difficult to put their point across without being rude. I personally believe that those people are fighting something or someone else but releasing their frustrations here. That is okay. We have broad shoulders. Let them rant if it helps. Is it my imagination or are they mainly men? Poor guys, using YA SA to get rid of the real frustrations and problems in their lives. There are more great gentlemen here though, wise, respectful and intelligent. Even if I do not agree with them, they express their opinion without losing their honour.

friendlybob1: Great answer. We are mainly South Africans here. You have caught us in a thread should some answers sound confusing.

Emjay: I agree with you there. Such nasty spiteful faces ready to describe their lack of manners at the first drop of a hat. I dislike going to London as a result.

Lark: Quite correct.

(This nonsense of reporting is truly starting to annoy me)

ALS: You may have a point there. Perhaps it is a sickness. But how do we solve this illness. If only a 'Grandpa' would help.

Wonderstar: Never lower yourself to the same level as somebody that is rude....is what I was taught as well. But it is easier said than done.

Answer 3

Though I am not a psychologist, I have concluded it is a sickness.

Answer 4

Well, no it depends where you go in South Africa, most people in the middle class and above are generally friendly people. I think that because South Africa was under the law of apartheid (meaning separated) this was when all races of SA where separated basically the whites were dominant. The black and colored people were basically treated like c**p, they were not really allowed into white areas etc. The country stopped this in 1994. As the after effect a lot of black and colored people who were living through those times can tend to look upon the whites as strange and dislike can mount. This is slowly starting to fade away. The younger generation accept to deal with other of different races (hence the "rainbow nation") this is why a lot of people excluding whites could have been at a disadvantage.

As I said this is slowly becoming settled and people learn to accept others.

I'm from South Africa in case you were wondering.

Answer 5

Emjay, you've never been to Paris, I take it! I was in London last summer, and I'm telling you, it was far better than this dump, believe me.

No, it's all part and parcel of the progressive breakdown of our values. It started in the sixties, when people began to substitute "It's my right to..." for "Should I really..?"

Another thing I've noticed; if Parisians are so rude and pushy, it's because nobody ever hits anybody else. In the British Commonwealth countries, if you you are rude or push or queue-jump, for example, before long, someone will give you a bloody nose. You'll think twice before you do it again. In the past, this form of education took place in the school playground, in fact.

In Britain itself, that is changing, because of political correctness, anti-violence and the fact that nobody cares any more, and as a result, there is nothing left to stop those who would be rude. I wouldn't expect that is so true of SA or Australia, for example!

Answer 6

I don't understand it, because you can still make your point without having to be really rude about it -  everybody is entitled to their opinion, but about the subject in question not the answerer or questioner, and if you don't like that question or answer, proof  your point or just ignore it

Answer 7

Lol Honey I wish I can answer that.The other day in the Supermarket que,another person just barged in front of me without asking me if I mind,I was really upset cuase I hate being rude,but the cashier saw what happened ans told her she is rude,OH my all h**l broke loose,cause the cashier said I was there before her,but to avoid a sence I said ok let her be served.But it does put you in a h**l of a suitention that's not in your own making.

That's when I really feel like being rude myself,but then I think

Thank God my folks did not bring me up to be rude.

But remember that saying."What comes around goes around".And they will be the ones that will feel it,so never lower yourself to their level.xxxx

Answer 8

cos they think there all it and there hard!

Answer 9

As much as I hate to admit it. I too have fallen prey to the rude bug!

It normally happens when I am trying to make my point and the other person just doesnt seem "to get it".

I think one should be examined on whether you make amends after, like apologizing or something. THat shows true character.

However I've seen people that are so bitter with life and have nothing good to ay everytime they open their mouth!!! I found that they generally like that when they've lost control on particular things in their life and now they wanna take it out on the rest of the world. . . .

Answer 10

because thaat's how americans are.

Answer 11

Like all the others above have said:

Low class

No manners

An illness

Maliciousness

Disliking the questioner

Difficulty in putting their point across

Arrogance

Peer pressure

Bad upbringing

Inferiority complex

Answer 12

Some people just come across as being rude , they don't mean to be rude but frankly their are people who antagonise and irritate and whether you have been well brought up or not you feel like treating them the same way and honestly i sometimes do. I can be rude , i admit it .

Steffi do you live in Exeter?

Answer 13

I have to confess that I actually enjoy being rude to some people, especially the ones that regulars will know about. Their total arrogance shouts at you from the screen in attempts to cloud your thinking. Now that I consider that to be rude in itself so I am quite happy to respond in kind.

In point of fact I am sorely tempted by that raspberry pillock.

Answer 14

some people are rude out of pure maliciousness, because they like to see other people hurt. and some because they think they are better than everyone. some because they dont care what they say and they just say what they think because they arent aware of others feelings. but when im rude i dont mean to be, its sometimes because ive had a bad day. HAPPY NOW?? i hope i wasnt rude.

Answer 15

I dont know, last week I was told at the laundromat "if you know so much you should work here" by a 50+ year old new employee ... I wanted to say something mean ... but I know its wrong so I didnt. But I will not go back.

Answer 16

I'd like to know that too. I answered a Q this afternoon and I was told in a rude way that my answer is not welcome. There was no need for such rudeness. As cheri says, if you don't like an answer or question, scroll past it. There's no need for childish comments. * Just saw that my answer to that Q was deleted. It's ok. I can take it. It's only the second deleted answer of mine today.

Anyway, I treat people the way they treat me, with the exception of calling them names.

Wouldn't it be nice if we could all treat each other with a certain amount of respect?

Answer 17

They think it makes them superior to talk ugly to people

Answer 18

Low class, no manners.

Manners maketh man.

I try to be as polite as possible and on occasions when I am rude it is because I have been provoked by other people's insolence..

London has to be the rudest city in the world.

Answer 19

Very rude to accuse people in general, without giving even a hint of who and what you are referring to.

Answer 20

why do people choose to be so polite?