Why do people comment on what you're wearing, even though you haven't asked for their opinion?

Question

I've black cropped trousers on today and my colleague (who's a little outdated in her clothes) said, "I don't like those. I prefer it when you where skirts, as you look like a ballerina then".

I'm a young woman who likes variety in my dress sense. I don't want to go round looking 'cute'.

Answer 1

Sounds like she intended a comment. Problem is, starting with a negative the positive intent is often mistaken, or not noticed at all.

Example: A girl hadn't seen a young man for some time, She had lost a lot of weight and for a first date after several months wore a black, form-fitting dress.

When the met up he exclaimed "WOT have you done to yourself."

She turned on her heels and would have walked out for ever if he hadn't straightened it out quickly. The tone of voice said he didn't like the effect, when it wa intended as a compliment.

They later married, her realising he was a prat that could not deliver a compliment in a hamper with lid sealed shut with cello tape!

Answer 2

It's even worse when they comment on your weight or as one person said to me - you have a red face. I just wanted the ground to swallow me up.

Answer 3

because we are very selective! and i dont like that either! i reckon every1 should be free of doing waever they would like! even though... ppl always have to comment on other ppl! i find dat very irritatating! =(  

Answer 4

Meh, sounds like she likes you looking a certain way at work, although she's not the boss :p

Answer 5

theyre being honest. its worse when they comment you out of sympathy or laughing at you behind your back. now thats mean.

Answer 6

Say "Do I tell you what to wear? No, so be quiet please, I like what I'm wearing OK"

People will always comment on things because it's what we do. Unfortunately some people think that their comments and ideas are more important than others

Answer 7

it's called an opinion your right everyone has one!  and no one every wants to hear them when they are not what you want to here!

how many times have you heard wow you look good in that!  ect... she is just letting you know how she feels!

here is the control part...

you can choice to accept it and live by HER opinion or you can ignore it...  as you stated you feel she is outdated with her clothing.. so why would you even value her opinion??? if she was the style queen then i may have to take part of that opinon at that time!  only because she is qualified!

Answer 8

Because they expect people to comment on THEIR dress sense. They give what they want in return.

Answer 9

People like the sound of their own voice and can't understand why someone wouldn't want their opinion

Answer 10

Opinion and advise is free..that's why..

Answer 11

Too many people ignore the old adage, If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. Amazing, how some people feel entitled to voice their opinions about anything and everything at any time. More amazing still, how few people seem to realize how rude it is to comment unfavourably on another's appearance, to their face or behind their back ... it's just plain ill-mannered.

Answer 12

Personally, I like the sound of your trousers...they sound nice.

I agree on the 'cute' thing.

Some people are just like that...be thankful you only have to deal with her at work.

Answer 13

haha they admire you..

Answer 14

because they're arrogant a******s who think they're a gift to the fashion industry

Answer 15

their own insecurity, maybe jeleousy

Answer 16

She wasn't rude.. she just made a statement and as your colleague she felt at ease enough to tell you that in her opinion you look better wearing skirts.. I would thank the person and say.. Thank you for telling me but I sometimes like variety.... I think people can voice their opinion.. you should take it with a grain of salt.. they will always do it even complete strangers if they thing something looks extremely nice or if they think something looks silly.. they say it anyhow. then you just have to have the self confidence and stand up to your own fashion style. and say.. Thank you.. but I like this style.. I also like dresses and skirts but today I feel like wearing this....and smile at them.. xx

Answer 17

Cutie, she's only expressing an opinion. Chill, she's not insulting you and you don't have to agree with her and it's not worth starting world war 3 for? Relax.

You've expressed an opinion by saying "she's a little outdated in her clothes". So, it's okay for you but not for her.

Answer 18

Let it go over your head, who cares what she thinks? it's a waste of your time.