Why do people consider it childish & wrong for me to be excited about my birthday?

Question

I will be turning 25 this yr. People always give me h**l when my b-day comes. Even when I was 8 yrs. old, the former foster mom would bust my lip for getting excited about my b-day, or new clothes/shoes, etc.

My biological family tries to tell me that the date on the birth certificate isn't my b-day, as well as saying that the man named on my birth certificate isn't my father.

Nobody wants to see me excited or happy. But @ the same time, when I'm sad or depressed, they try to make it worse. People treat me like I have no right to be happy. & when it comes to mental health professionals, the moment they see me excited or happy, they falsely accuse me of being manic & bipolar. They're so d**n ignorant! I'm depressed usually ALL the time. I only get excited about 5 or 6 times out the yr., LITERALLY! I'm always depressed & hurt. I feel helpless & hopeless.

People think I'm crazy & immature for getting excited about listening to music or going swimming. They always view my happiness as a sign of immaturity because they're abusive, hateful, & sadistic, & they ENJOY making me suffer.

I just need to be reassured that nothing is wrong with me being excited about my birthday. I also have a twin, too. We never get along. It's SO bad that we're @ risk for getting arrested every time we're around each other b/c she always bullies me, lies on me, & abuses me just like everyone else. Our relationship is so bad that I don't even know where she lives. Don't know what state or anything. Don't know her phone #. People give her $20 for her b-day left & right, & she rubs it in my face.

& if I try to throw my OWN party or simply buy myself a tiny little cake & celebrate alone or with my (only) friend, people think it's THEIR place to try to use brainwashing & humiliation to physically STOP me from enjoying myself.

Mental health professionals, the former foster family, & the biological family all DEMAND an answer for what I spend my $$ on, how much I have in the bank, etc. They snoop through my belongings. Just NO respect! & since some of them are supposedly "authoritative figures", they ABUSE their position & control. They demand an answer for my personal business just to publicly humiliate me. With foster or biological family, if I ignore them & walk away, they press me on my pressure points or pull me by the ears. If I tell them to leave me alone, they try to knock ALL my teeth out. I get hurt either way.

I'm glad I have a college degree (BA in Spanish) & have my own place. I suffer OCD, anxiety, depression, & Tourette's, & I has 2 strokes @ age 5. People treat me like I'm too stupid to know left from right & don't allow me to make my own decisions about my life.

I really need help with this. Please.

Answer 1

Seek out people you get along with and stay away from people you don't like.

Answer 2

You know what? Misery loves company and the people you hang around are obviously miserable and love it when you are too.

You need to find some new friends and if your family is treating you badly maybe it would be best if you severed ties with them till you can stand firmly on your own two feet and tell them to stop treating you like c**p.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to celebrate your birthday it is YOUR special day and no one can take that away from you! Don't let those who try to ruin it succeed.

You need to find people who are supportive of you and want to see you happy.

Good luck with all this, Just stay strong!

By the way you didn't say when your birthday is but here for when that day does come

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! =D

Answer 3

You are not stupid and you have every right to enjoy swimming and a birthday. people a lot older have little joys in their lives and they go swimming and have fun at twice your age. Everybody needs something in life to look forward to so enjoy your birthday and it's a great thing to have fun on ones birthday and to be excited about it. So don't let anyone spoil that day and make plans so that you will have a memorable day on the 25th when you turn 25. xx

Answer 4

Everyone has the right to enjoy their birthday whether you are 5, 25 or 105 and don't let anyone tell you different.  You are hanging around with a miserable shower of old b******s and you need to get away from them and make new friends or join some support group.  Cut off all ties with them, stand on your own two feet and HAPPY BIRTHDAY.

Answer 5

Stay away from people you don't like.

Answer 6

I'm the same age as you. I will be turning 25 in November but I'm not excited this year :)

But I was very excited about my 24th last November.