Why do people continue to steal other peoples kids? It makes me so angry!?

Question

I see and hear more and more people on about fostering and adopting kids, it drives me crazy! What happened to the days when families were born of blood and biology. Honestly, kudos to those who try to care, but what do most people really think of this issue?

Answer 1

I cant begin to list people in history who changed the world as we know it, that were adopted. MOST adoptive parents have more love in their hearts than the majority can even fathim...

Answer 2

It's the blood, biology & environment that many children are left to wallow in that's f***ing up their lives.  If you actually knew anything about the foster care system, the children that are removed, placed, abandoned, or the situations that have put them there- you wouldn't be asking.

I don't know anyone who has stolen a child.  I do, however, know of babies being sold for approx $5 and  lawyers making shady deals in other countries.  We cannot control everything that happens everywhere.  Maybe adoption is not something you are interested in, but learn more before you dissent.  There are plenty of people out there trying to make a difference where they can.

Answer 3

Most of the children that are in foster care, or up for adoption are there for a reason. MOST of the time it's because their parents can't provide a decent healthy environment for children. Why put children through the h**l of an abusive, neglectful, druggie of a parent. Parents are not only caretakers of children but role models. Just think of it as a cycle that would never end if not for adoption or foster homes....It's too bad that there are so many children "in the system".

Answer 4

You know nothing. You are Ignorant and your question is idiotic. I feel sad for you that you are this angry and foolish....it really is dangerous to be stupid and angry.

Answer 5

If all families that were born out of "blood and biology" took minimally acceptable care of their children, then there would be no need for foster and adoptive parents.  However, there are thousands of children in foster care due to various types of abuse and neglect they suffered in their birth families.  Birth families are offered treatment plans to remedy the conditions that led to the removal of their children from their care.  If they are not able or willing to complete their treatment plans in an acceptable period of time (6 months to one year) a child's plan can become adoption.  We do not want children to languish in foster care when they cannot be safely returned to their families, therefore we seek to place them into adoptive homes where they can have permanency.

Answer 6

adopting kids is NOT stealing them. Why the h**l the would you think that?

Answer 7

Oh wow my blood father killed himself when I was four years old but to bad he didn't kill himself before he MOLESTED me! Also after my father killed himself the rest of my blood family abandoned me saying that I was the reason he killed himself. I'm now 20 years old and I do have an aunt who has come back in to my life but other than that the other members of my "family" that I met when I was 16 were just strangers that I know nothing about and just plain resent. Also because of what my "FATHER" did to me I know have no desire to have my own children. When the time comes I will be adopting my children and yes they will be my children. If I learned only one thing from my mother and older brother its that blood doesn't make you family it only makes you relatives, and that's what I plan on teaching my children the day I bring them home no matter how older they are or the fact that I wont have spent 9 months pregnant before that.

Answer 8

these people that come on here with these dumb*** questions are only here to get everyone stirred up. looks like they sure do the job.

Answer 9

So what exactly is your point here?

Are you saying that people who are pregnant and don't want to be or can't care for their child should NOT give them up for adoption?

I think if an unwanted child ends up in a happy home, then that is a good thing.  I can't see how you would think otherwise.

Answer 10

This is the stupidest question I have ever seen in this forum.

Answer 11

You are truly stupid.

Some people have children and dont want them and good people come forward to foster/adopt these children (they are NOT stealing them) . If it wasnt for these people children would be in homes where most of them do not have happy childhoods.

I take it you dont have children! If you do you should be ashamed of yourself for being such an idiot.

Answer 12

This is truly sad - adoption is not stealing.  People willing put their child (ren) up for adoption for whatever reason.  Blood and Biology do not make a Family, Love does. Foster Care is totally different some children are waiting for adoption while others are waiting till their natural parents can get their lives together and care for them properly.  There are kids in the Foster care system who some have been severally abused by their so called “Parent(s)”.  

I am adopted my birthmother had drug problems, lived on the streets for a while, was a w***e.  I was far better over being adopted then for her to try and raise me.

Answer 13

Because they are soooooo desperate to have a chyld.

Answer 14

itmakes me so angry when WOMEN BECOME PREGNANT AND CAN NOT TAKE CARE OF THEIR KIDS SO THEY KILL THEIR DEFENSELESS BABY OR ABANDON HIM/HER I THANK GOD FOR THOSE PARENTS WHO WANT TO BRING A CHILD INTO THEIR HOME AND RAISE THEM LOVE THEM LIKE THEIR OWN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 15

you come to the place loaded with adoptees and families relating to adoption and then you bash us? it never ceases to  amaze me how ignorant the general population can be.

if you think all it takes to be a family is biology, then i pity your life. you must be very lonely and bitter. but do not come here and attack our lives.

i will say no more, i may reduce myself to your level and then i would really be upset. please take your negative comments to another area, one where they will be more useful

Answer 16

Adoptions a good thing

Answer 17

Foster families love and care for children who don't have a home with their bio parents.  (so many reasons for this- not able to care for, unfit, neglected, abandoned)

They do not STEAL children they take them in and give them a home and the ones that are lucky enough to be adopted in and not bounce around in the system are so much better off.

adoptive parents are giving these children a loving home and the security they deserve.

If you look back in time there were 'unwanted childrens homes" ,  and many institutions that housed children.

we still have adoption homes, unfortunately not all children get placed in homes, or the homes don't work out for them.

God Bless these families for loving these children unconditionally!   Honestly I don't see why you are angry.

if a child gets taken away from a parent it is for a good reason.    No child deserves to stay in an unfit home with an unfit parent just because they are the biological parent.

Answer 18

I believe adoption is a good thing to do, but I'm very angry at the foster caring and re-adoption. When someone can just return their kids back into the system so easily.

Answer 19

So we should allow parents hooked on every drug available, who abuse children be-it physically, mentally, or sexually continue to raise children?

Moms and Dads earn that title, it's not a birth right.

Answer 20

You have got to be kidding.  Adopting and fostering is NOT stealing people's kids.  It is giving a home to kids whose parents could not or did not want to raise them, or who abused or neglected them.  Did you really think you would get support on this one?

Answer 21

Uhh, would you rather that the kids stay in poor miserable circumstances? Really, how old are you?

Answer 22

Doing adoption is not stealing other peoples babies. I did open adoption when I was 16, not because I did drugs or couldn't take care of myself or any other ridiculous reason like that. I could have given her a good life. But not the one I wanted her to have. When you want the best for the ones you love. You do whatever you can. I was lucky and found a wonderful caring couple, and it was my decision..she wasn't stolen. You paint an ugly picture and it is hurtful to alot of us. There are reasons for things and you shouldn't come here and start bashing good people.

Answer 23

If all the parents took care of their children like they should then there wouldn't be a need for foster parents or adoption.

Answer 24

Adoption is not stealing!

Are you crazy! I am pregnant and have a family that I am giving my baby to when they are born. I would rather my child live with a family that can give them a great life instead of staying with me. I could never give the chold the life they deserve.

Adoption is a lot better than making children stay in homes that are unfit and unsafe!

Answer 25

Um, I am not stealing any of my foster children!  They are with me because their PARENTS are UNABLE to care for themselves, much less their children!  One of them is actually JUST NOW starting to fight to get her child back, since they are terminating her parental rights!

Answer 26

What the heck is your problem you have really got to be kidding me right? Wow you really need a brain. Lets see my parents adopted my now little sister, her biological parents were so dopped up on drugs that they nearly killed her with a broken rib and always sleeping through her feeding times. So in your head your thinkin she should have stayed with those crazy druggies? Some children really need to be saved from parents like these, some parents feel that their child deserves better so they are unselfish and give their baby up for adoption, oh and in mine and my husbands case some people cant have children, you stupid. It's those people that have children that are not selfish and give those other people who want so bad to have a child a great and blessed miracle. I for one am so grateful for those strong woman that make that big step to give their baby up, if it were not for strong woman like that then I for one would have nothing to hope for. Your statement and question is lame..... it's people like you that drive me crazy.

Answer 27

Being a foster parent or adopting a child is not "stealing" someone else's child.  It is offering a safe, loving environment for a child to be in when their biological circumstance doesn't offer that.  A child cannot have to much positive influence and love in their life.  Society is no longer comprised of married couples with children.  It is filled with single parents, alcoholic parents, drug-addicted parents, parents in prison, rehab, or just flat gone.  People who offer homes to the children of these individuals should be applauded, not criticized.  I agree that children would be better off with traditional parents, but that is an unrealistic expectation in today's world.  If you do not feel called to offer  your home to parentless children, then don't, but please do not be so critical of those who do. They provide a priceless service.

Answer 28

Hey lady, us Gypsies have to make a living somehow.

Answer 29

Steal other peoples kids?  That's not stealing that's caring. If you were lost in the system because your parent abused you do you think that would be a good thing?  Or if your parents abused you would you prefer to be left with them while they do things to you?  What about the children who are unwanted?  Don't you think they deserve someone too?  Not everyone has family who cares and there are many people in the world who cant have children in which are more than happy to take care of and raise another child.  My cousin is adopted and I forget until someone brings up adoption.  He is grown with five kids now and still very much part of our family.

Answer 30

Blood and biology are not enough for a family. We are not talking about stealing children, which tragically does occur in Third World Countries and the rest of the world does little to stop this.

We're talking about giving another human being an opportunity to have a life, a chance that they would never have had otherwise in education, health, lifestyle etc. There are kids out there who are desperate need to help, of someone to look out for them, to be there for them when their biological parents cannot. Yes, it is sad when parents cannot look after children, but at the same time, there are people who are able to step in and provide that love, care and guidance.

Really, tell me what is wrong for a couple (be their straight or g*y) to provide a loving environment for a child? We need more people like that - open, welcoming and ready to bring joy to another human being.

Answer 31

Blood and biology is not the same as parenting.

In a responsibly arranged adoption, no one is stealing anything.  Everyone DOES experience losses, and those losses should be acknowledged.  But the child, who cannot make the decisions, is at the center of the decision-making.