Why do people discourage others, and tell us we CANT DO WHAT WE DREAM?

Question

you guy's have no idea how badly I want to become a neuro surgeon, I read Anatomy books before I go to bed on brain surgery since 6th grade. But, the way my guidence councler and my Aunt tell me that I have no shot b/c of my GPA makes me feel like I have no point anymore b/c of the competition with students who have a 4.3 GPA . I've already started taking 2 summer courses which I have A's in (civics and economics). But, do you guy's think I do have a shot right, I haven't totally screwed up. I really want to beome a neurosurgeon, ever since I was in 4rth grade I've loved brain surgery (I know it sounds creepy but that's what I really want to do) but I just finished my freshman year with a GPA of 3.3 and that's very low for pre-med.

My Councler alway's keeps telling me to take the easy route, and it makes me incredibly sad because she doesnt talk to me about the classes I want to take like Algebra 2 and Geometry she thinks I can't to it, the reason I got a 3.3 last year was because of a C in ceramics/art other than that I have A's in acedamics.

I know if I set my heart to become a neurosurgeon I CAN and WILL DO IT, but people like my councler and Aunt just don't get it and I feel they enjoy annoying me.

Answer 1

i knwo how you feel. i want to be a journalist or a freelance writer but everyone tells me that i will live in a dumpster for most of my life because i wont get paid. it sucks when people crush your dream. if you really want to be a neurosurgeon, you should work HARD and make your dream come true. you will prove to other people that you're better than what they think you are.

Answer 2

When I was 27 I decided I wanted to become a pilot.  And people would say - oh! you can't do that.....your too, old, female, or sometimes they couldn’t think of a reason.  No one EVER said "Sure! that sounds like a good idea."  

I don't know why they do it???? that is a universal mystery.

Take the courses you want to take and do the best you can.  I don't know about getting into medical school but I do know that if you have passion about something it feels good and is one of the best tools to have.

The important thing is that you follow your passion; even if you don’t make the finish line it will be a great ride and there may be other adventures along the way.  BTW -I have since worked as a flight instructor, and commercial pilot, I am on my third career now; however, and still very successful.  I remember when my high school guidance counselors tried to explain to me that I needed to do better in typing II (an elective I did not select) so that I could become a secretary! (I never understood that).  I got my BS in Math and a MS in Computer Science and between those two degrees I got my pilots licenses, and I have never planned to be a secretary.

Consider this – your guidance counselor chose to be a guidance counselor! How difficult is that! What do you suppose motivates their decision making!?  Don’t let a guidance counselor tell you what YOUR career should NOT be.  I don’t think guidance counselors have a very broad view of the world or its possibilities.  Unless of course they have some rationale or …. Something to back it up other than – well if you can’t get an A in ceramics, you can’t …(I think potter would fit best here, don’t you? Not brain surgeon)

GO FOR IT ANNIE!