Why do people feel they need to give gifts for the Engagement party?

Question

My Mom & Sis are hosting an engagement party in 2 weeks. My fiance & I have received gifts from a few people who are not able to attend and Mom & Sis are reporting that quite a few people have asked where we are registered.

Etiquette says this is not a gift-giving occassion. I feel very fortunate and blessed that our family & friends would want to do this for us, but I also feel guilty knowing that these people will also be invited to the shower and wedding where gifts are usually given.

In a discussion with some co-worker's Mom told them this and they informed her that it is becoming "the norm" to give gifts for engagement parties.

I'm curious, why do you think people feel the need to give a gift for the engagement party?

Answer 1

My fiance and i recieved gifts for our engagement party apperently its normal to recieve gifts. Just make sure you send out thank-yous to people to give you gifts.

Answer 2

Instead of having them brings "gifts" maybe ask they each bring a recipe and have your mom put together a book for you. This can also be done at the Bridal Shower, but I like the idea of doing it at the engagement party, that way, people still feel like they are contributing.

When you go to a party you most always bring a gift, birthdays, anniversaries, house wamrings. It is just a standered.

Answer 3

unless the invitation says 'no gifts', then it is proper etiquette to bring one

Answer 4

It is a time to celebrate, and many people see any happy occasion as an opportunity to give a gift. YOu are not looking for gifts, so there is no reason to feel guilty. If this really  bothers you, pick a charity and ask for donations to that if anyone else asks.