Why do people find arrogance disturbing if it doesn't affect them?

Question

I'm an arrogant little b*****d, but I don't go around spouting bullshit about myself. I was asked once if I was arrogant, and I said yes. Then i received a lecture about how arrogance is a terrible quality, even though I didn't say anything vain, and kept it to myself.

Answer 1

If you mean by "arrogance" that you have self-confidence and self-esteem, including feeling better than others, smarter,  better looking, which is entirely possible.  And no problem.

Arrogance usually involves an attitude outwardly expressed toward others, and "overbearing manner".

Pride, especially excessive pride, is not good.  The old biblical saying, "Pride goes before a fall" I personally believe is true.

Answer 2

The better question is....Is it possible to be silent and arrogant. I think not. Arrogance for arrogance's sake is out the for the world to see and that is annoying.

Answer 3

Arrogance is a terrible quality because it is telling other people that they are inferior to you, so that will keep people disliking you, and keep you lonely. Also, your arrogance means you think you are superior to others, this is not true. People will always feel like they need to point out what is wrong with you because you don't seem to do enough of that. Stop living the lie, there are any number of ways that you are not superior to others.

Answer 4

You may be giving yourself too little credit for being overtly arrogant. Why is arrogance "disturbing"?   It is not disturbing to mature people. You are just insecure.  People know that already.