Why do people hate international adoptions?

Question

Is it your fear of foreigners or immigrants?

Answer 1

i think it is the fact that there are a lot of children in this country who need loving families and so y would you go to another country instead of helping the ones here!

Answer 2

There are as many different answers or opinions to this question as there are stars in the sky.  What I'm trying to say is that for those who dislike international adoption, it's usually a personal decision/opinion.  They may feel prejudice or fear or coercion.  No one person can speak for another.  

(For the record - I support adoption regardless of international or domestic, but I would like to see the children in one's own country considered first).

Answer 3

I didn't get the impression that people did hate international adoptions.

Answer 4

I don't think nobody HATES international adoption, it's the simple fact that we have children in America that need to be adopted too. I don't care if someone adopts from America, Russia, Africa or Mars. If your bettering the life of that child, your doing something wonderful in my eyes.

Who cares if someone chooses to adopt from their own country? That's their choice, not anyone elses to make.

Answer 5

As an adoptive mother through China, obviously I support international adoption. Growing up alone, malnourished and under developed in a thirld-world orphanage is not a childhood I would wish on anyone.

People's "hatred" or "disgust" comes from a place of Western comfort. Like I said in response to another question: They have NO idea what it would be like to be locked into a bamboo chair for hours on end in the searing heat while you scratch at your skin because the scabies is unbearable or going to bed hungry because the orphanage is not well funded and there is not enough food and the food that is there lacks any nutritional elements or being almost 1 and not be able to sit up or almost 2 and can't lift up your head because of the lack of stimulation as there is 1 caretaker to 10 babies and having no one cradle you when you are scared or lonely because there simply are not enough arms to go around.

I seriously doubt that any of the IA haters could last 20 seconds in one of these orphanages. There's no internet access.

Answer 6

If we had the finacial resources to go international, we would not be wasting our time with DHS.

Answer 7

when you take a child away from THEIR country their food their sights and smells you are taking away who they are at the deepest level I think if you want ot adopt you or your husband should be part of the culture you adopt from. so the child can grow up knowing who he is. my husband was born and raised in japan and we have considered japanese adoption but we would never consider russian because thats stealing a persons identity because we do not know what it is like to be russian and after raising them neither would the child. People who try to pretend their child is bio theirs and the child is another race is playing a cruel game with a childs mind and identity

Answer 8

Is it your fear of foreigners or immigrants?

No, its disgust not hate, for IA because of the (too many to count) ap's and pap's that don't care about "real" cost their desire to have a child has cost another person not to mention the child involved.

Some people in the US actually do believe in human rights for people in other countries. Give the baby back to his mother and hop aboard.

Answer 9

I don't hate international adoptions.

I hate seeing children from other countries and cultures losing those cultures, languages, everything they were born INTO just so that somebody else can drag them home and become a parent.

If the child's rights were paramount, why not move to the child's country and raise them there?  Oh, but that would be asking too much.  Better to make the child give up everything and assimilate, right?  Right.

Answer 10

It's the need that we have right here, without bringing anyone in from elsewhere. Let's clean up our own messes before we add to them.

Answer 11

I do not hate it.  I am proud of the way my family was created.  

All adoptions should be regulated better, that's all.

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Culture-smulture.  This great land we call USA has culture up the wazu. I guess some want children to live without families, begging on the streets, selling themselves for money, using cheap drugs, and dying of starvation, abuse, overdoses, or suicide.

Answer 12

I was a foster kid.  I don't hate it but it makes me sad because SO MANY kids in the US need a home.  People forget about them.  

Instead they adopt babies or young children from another country.

It is not about hate.  It is about sadness for this country's kids.

Answer 13

I'll use the same answer provided last time someone asked a similar question. Its not hate. Its that every year between 500,000 and 800,000 children in AMERICA go into foster care. 150,000 to 250,000 of those children never go back to their families and Need to be adopted. In those numbers there are plenty of non white and black children. In America we have Chinese, Mexican, and many other races for adoption. While I understand other countries may make it "easier" those children here are not going to live an easier life because an AP took the easy way out and went to another country. I personally find it somewhat selfish. I believe in helping at home first.

KAZI- While I might not know what its like to be in that bamboo chair, I do know what its like to be raped every day by a foster dad because "hey she's use to it already" I do know what its like to be starved because my foster mom blew all the money she got every month on crack, I do know what its like to live with a foster parent who had no running water and punished me by putting cigarettes out on my legs when I complained. I lived through 14 years of every day rape from my father then another 3 months of it from a foster dad.and another 4 years of c**p after that. Dont underestimate us American foster kids. You'd be suprised what we can and have handled. This internet Im sitting on was provided by ME. I worked for it. We dont hate you for being an IAP be proud of your child. We dont look at her any different either, we just wish you would have understood what american kids went through too. Maybe if you would have seen it before your opinions would be different now.

Answer 14

To be honest its more of a disgust that theres plenty where your from who are in need of a family and people yet ignore our childrens needs and help children from other countries. Many who do international adoptions are doing it more for the public image then having a heart. Why spend 3x ad much to adopt a child from a foreign 3rd world country where such a country needs to set limits and laws when for 1/3 the price can adopt a very needa child from your own state who has is an orphanage... and yes the US still have orphanages but they just use new and improved names now. Sadly its usually about the look good when its seem a rich white couple having a def of african, asian, and other ethnicity children.

This does not count towards any such case where said person meets his love internationally and adopts any kids she/he may have or in such sorts of cases where one may adopt a relatives kids in hopes of giving the kid a better life. These scenarios are far different.