Why do people have affairs , could it be something lacking in their relationships and if so what

Question

I am in a loving relationship and I just can understand why others do it

Answer 1

Cause no matter how good your relationship you'll always wonder, could there be better? And most of the time it is because they are unsatisfied with what they have.

Answer 2

They do it because they are dirty tw@ts.

Answer 3

They have major issues. Some do it for money, some do it for power, some do it for "love." People need help!

Answer 4

now that's a question i would love to have asked my ex husband.when he abandoned me after having an affair with some **** from australia....and now i will never trust anyone again....i don,t think people who do cheat realise just how much hurt and pain they cause

Answer 5

I had one because I felt I was looking for something......I've been married 19 years now and regret it but I found out now I did it because I had issues with my Dad not loving me as a kid and I kept looking for a male to show me attention. But my husband was the one who I should have focused on!!

Answer 6

I don't know because I sure couldn't do it. They are usually just filthy shallow animals anyway.

Answer 7

No, thats the excuse.  I think there's something lacking with the person who is having the affair.

Answer 8

I don't know, but John McCain could probably help you.

Answer 9

If one has a good peach then they think all peaches are good. If one has a bad peach then they may not want another.

Answer 10

I am with ya! I think people do that because they are bored, and they think the grass is greener so to speak....

Answer 11

There are countless reasons and it depends on the person.  Its rarely just about s*x though.  Usually its a lack of connection with their own partner and the general 'taking for granted' that goes on.  Its impossible to have a successful marriage if you entered it based on s*x and fun as that inevitably wains - you need to marry a mate - someone you like chatting with.  But most people want that heady feeling of first love, don't they?

I have never cheated on anyone.  I leave a person before allowing myself to get involved with someone else but so many people don't because of the fact they don't want to be alone or because of financial reasons.  Its hard for many people to be alone.  

Answer 12

One reason only......selfishness.

To give their body to someone else, when they are already married, shows there's not a lot of character in the person.

Answer 13

Not necessarily.  It could be that there's something lacking in their morals or character.

Answer 14

People have affairs because something is lacking in them.  It is not relationship specific.  If you analyze the relationship behavior of people that cheat, most times the cheating is a pattern of behavior that continues from relationship to relationship.  One cause may be a lack of self esteem, the need for a second loving relationship to validate their weak sense of self worth.  Another reason may be a lack of impulse control.  Some people cheat because they are always looking to "trade up", that a mate is a commodity.  :-)

Answer 15

i don't fully understand either. i couldn't do it.  

Answer 16

i've never had one so i really cant answer

and i been married a long time.

Answer 17

Its a matter of having character and intelligence. If your having problems in a relationship, tell your partner how you feel. If you cant get what you need or work it out, end the relationship and find someone else. Its that simple. You dont cheat. You cant have your cake and eat it too. Dont expect sympathy for your situation. Period. End of discussion

Answer 18

There are a variety of reasons people have affairs.  Some people do it because they are curious, some are just selfish individuals, and some people just find themselves in situations where  they do not make good decisions.  

I do not believe any relationship is affair proof.  It is a conscious effort between two people to remain faithful, and no matter what the other mate does, it never guarantees the other will remain faithful.  That's where trust comes it.  People underestimate the power of trust.  It can build and it can tear a relationship apart.

I'm in a good, long-term relationship, and I trust my mate, but I know we both could cheat, but choose not to.  I trust that he won't ,but I know when you deal with another human being, anything can happen.

Answer 19

Maybe the relationship is lacking something like , love, trust, or whatever and the partner knows someone who could give them what they are missing from their current partner.  So they go searching elsewere

Answer 20

There are several reasons people have affairs, there just isn't one catch all answer.

For women i find its for two main reasons, one is, yes, there is something lacking in the relationship, usually attention from their partner so they go looking for the attention elsewhere. The other tends to be revenge, she is looking to get back at her partner for some wrong she percieves was done to her.

That is for younger women, 18-35. For women 35-55 its both of those reasons plus chances are her husband or significant other is the same age as her, and while at 35 she is just entering her sexual peak (i.e. her sexual drive is it's strongest) her male partner's sexual drive has been on a downward spiral since he turned about 28 and he just can't keep up with her. So she looks for s*x elsewhere.

For men its pretty simple, we are dogs, some of us are pretty good dogs, some of us are very bad dogs, but in the end we are all mating machines, instinctually driven to attempt to mate with as many women as possible to spread our genes. Now don't get me wrong that is not an excuse, it's quit easy to suppress our isntincts ( i for example haven't cheated on any woman i have been with, the current relationship coming up on two years now) but all of us feel the drive to be with different women. Some of us simply give in.

A little advice to women out there, i know most of you hate it but let your man watch p**n every now and again, it satisfies his craving to be with many women and it is completely harmless to the relationship. Just because he is looking at other women in a magazine or movie doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive, it's jsut a harmless way to satisfy an ingrained instinct. Besides that if he thinks your o.k. with it, even if your not he will do it less because it has lost some of it's taboo and you will be dubbed one of the coolest girlfriends ever!

Anyway i hope this answers you question as to why some ppl cheat. There are lots of reasons but the ones above are usually the big ones. Good Luck

Answer 21

Sure.

Why not?

The first choice.

Is always the wrong choice.

While messing around.

All beacuse of "Jesus" came along in time.

Happily singing " I will survive"

Jesus Christ ! The super star?

Matt 1.18-25