Why do people have simple problems they can't solve?

Question

Why are problems for some people, non-issues for others? Assuming it's how we look at things that make them problems to begin with, then it stands to reason that, simple as it seems for one person to view my problems as ultimately solveable, the effort of solution lies with me and not them and so therein lies the true calibration of difficulty. The same is true for them though, that what I think would be so easy for "someone in their shoes" to solve, is not taking into account who is actually wearing the shoes. So, presuming he who wears the shoes, decides the difficulty, what do we do with problems that are easy for others to solve and hard for us to solve?

How do we address them?

SHOULD we take action against them?

Is it possible that we really do NOT take action against them for valid reasons that, like our dreams, are visible to us but not apparent as to their meaning?

Answer 1

I think, they just do not try to solve them.

Answer 2

not enough people use common sense...they want to be shown..not work it out for themselves

Answer 3

omg that is so confusing

but to answer ur original question, its easy for other people to solve your problem because they dont have the stress of actually having to do it

Answer 4

you know, you really didn't need all those commas.

If you have a deeply personal interest in the difficulty it is much more strenuous to accept it and deal with it. You can see yourself being hurt and you doubt yourself where others wouldn't because we are all a little insecure, even if we don't show it. If he/she 'decides the difficulty' I don't believe it is a conscious choice. He/she reacts based on the current environment and the environment he/she grew up in. If you learn of someone with a problem greater or the same as yours and that person has overcome it, it gives you more of an incentive because you know it can be done. However, if someone is simply giving you advice on how to solve your problem, you are less likely to listen because, however puerile it may seem, the person giving you the advice hasn't experienced what you feel. Also, the people giving you advice are usually close to you so you know that, whatever the situation might have been, he/she wasn't under the same circumstances as you. If it is someone on the news or a vague reality, it is easier to imagine similar situations and thereby giving you an escape route. Sometimes you might not realize until after the problem has passed and you are thinking clearly that you are the first to solve it. Sometimes you realize that there have been many success stories with the same ailment. You have to take action but sometimes you can be your worst enemy. A doubtful mind can destroy a well-meant plan. We have to listen to others when our heads are fogged up with worries about the particular issue. Trust someone until you can trust yourself.

Answer 5

How you look at an issue will result in how you deal with it.  It doesn't matter if the problem is yours or anothers.  Life is only difficult for those who choose difficulty as their path.