Why do people hit their kids and then have the nerve to tell their kids not to hit others?

Question

Mistystars- Typing in call caps doesn't make your point stronger, it only makes you look like a fool with a trantrum.

Secondly, of course a child should not be able to get away with everything, but spanking is not the only way to punish a child.

Answer 1

You are obviously too ignorant to communicate with because you've made your mind up and you're obviously on here just looking to argue with anyone who disagrees with your fantasy.

Sober up .. and ask this question again tomorrow.

prr

Answer 2

Hitting and spanking are different because hitting is done out of anger, and it's used to releave anger. Spanking is disciplining your child and sending a message that "What you did is not ok, and you're going to be punished for it". If a parent spanks out of anger and does it just to make them feel better, or even if the child THINKS that they are doing it just to releave anger, then that isn't really spanking, that's hitting.

ALSO: I don't spank my kids, nor do I plan to. Don't talk to me like I'm some stupid idiot. I'm just trying to explain it to you the best way I can, I'm not insulting you so why should you do that to me? A man hitting his wife isn't trying to discipine her, because they are equals. A man spanking his child is trying to teach his child something that he already knows. Oh yes, I guess that's just me sugarcoating again. Oh well!

Answer 3

Don't ask a question and then knock anyone's opinions that are different to yours. I agree 100% with JustMyOpinion. You must be very stupid to compare smacking to abuse (a man hitting his wife). You make wild accusations and fight your point to the death. Maybe you are trying to convince yourself that you are right? Okay, so next time your 2 year old sticks his fingers into the power socket what are you gonna do? He's too little to understand just a talking to. That's why you smack. That's something they understand. It keeps them safe; it IS out of love.

Answer 4

I can understand what you mean, but there is a huge difference between spanking a child and an child hitting a friend. Spanking is done out of love because you love your child you are teaching them that this behavior is not right. Hitting a friend is done out of anger. Your friend won't hand over the toy you hit them in hopes it will show them you not messing around. If a spanking is given to a child when the parent is angry about the color on the walls than it was not a spanking that would be considered hitting. A spanking when given(dished) out correctly the parent will be calm and can sit down with the child and tell them your about to get a spanking because I told you to not run in the street and you didn't listen, so tell me why are you getting a spanking? The only reason that you have them repeat is is so that you make sure they understand, but you can only do this with 3 yr. olds and up sometimes two year olds. and than you give the spankings at enough force to make the rear end red, but not leave any marks that last for more than an hour or so!

Answer 5

This question has been brought up several times.

The difference is with a spanking, the parent is DISCIPLINING a child, not hitting them out of anger. (No matter what you anti-spanking people say). Spankings are supposed to be administered in an effort to guide/correct the child's behavior. They are not supposed to be done out of anger. When a child hits someone else, it's safe to say that they're doing so out of anger.

You can judge all you want, I really don't care. I choose to spank my child. She doesn't get a spanking for every offense. Spankings are reserved as a last-resort and I never spank her when I'm angry. (Hitting out of anger is called abuse, not spanking, anti-spanking folks).

I'm raising my child to be a responsible person. That way, the odds of her being one of these 12 year old little girls on here asking "I'm only 12 and I think I'm pregnant!! What do I do??" are very low.

Parents worried about bruising their child's ego and ruining their "friendship" with their children are part of the problem with our country.

Not the answer you're looking for huh? I know, in a few days you'll choose a best answer from someone who strokes your ego- "Oh, yes, all the parents who spank their children are Bible-thumping freaks!"

EDIT- Geez, you've already started the finger-pointing. So predictable. And once again, another coward with email and IM blocked.

Do you honestly think people are on here seeking your approval or your advice??

Yep, I have no problem admitting that people like you get on my nerves. I worry about raising my children, how about you worry about raising yours? I'm not the one on here looking for a fight. BTW- Just to put your small mind at ease, I have no interest in emailing you. I find it amusing how predictable it is that people like you always have their's blocked.

Answer 6

Exactly. It's very hypocritical.

Answer 7

shut up u have no idea what u are talking about. what do then say we should do. be all nice and let them do what every they want. i grow up around kids getting spankins and they are just fine. u have to tell them why they are getting the spankins. i think mosts people dont, they just do my sister does it with her daughter but doesnt tell her why. i can tell u dont have kids.

Answer 8

Because it is not the same thing regardless of if you feel it is sugar coated or not. I don't like to use corporal punishment (time outs work well for my children), but if you step out of the box you are in for a moment and think, then maybe you will understand that if it used correctly, it will not harm a child and can also teach a child not to hit. (and how to manage their own problems through other means.) If you are worried about a specific child, then call child services. They can be the judge of these situations, not you.

Answer 9

For the same reason that the government executes murderers (citizens) but still says that citizens can't kill people.  Comparing kids to killers may seem like a leap, but its done for the same reasons: doing something that will get the negative behavior to stop, while at the same time giving out that the offender "deserves."

By the way, you attacked someone for saying "u" but then you went on to use "lol" which is also slang of the same variety of "u."  You also used "trantrum" which is not in fact a word.  If you were trying to say "tantrum" you have no business attacking others on the basis of poor grammer use.  Yours is one of the most accusatory and hateful posts that I have ever seen on here, you should be ashamed of yourself!

Answer 10

I totally agree with Just My Opinion. I do spank as a last resort and if the offense of the behaviors is bad enough. otherwise I use time outs and lost privileges. If my child is going to go out and steal something or walk up to another kid and hit them just because, then yes I am going to spank.

YES I AM AND I DO BUT COMPARED TO HOW MUCH I HAVE NOT NEEDED TO SPANK MY CHILD I AM COMFORT ABLE WITH IT!!!

I MEAN GEE SHOULD I LET HIM GO AND MURDER SOME ONE AND GO TO THE COPS AND SAY DON'T PUNISH MY CHILD HE DID IT BUT DON'T PUNISH HIM.

Answer 11

I wasn't going to reply and maybe this should be a new question on it's own...  But, how is a man hitting his wife, to teach her a lesson any different from a parent hitting a child to teach her a lesson?  Because, many men who hit their wives believe it is necessary to teach her how to be a good wife.  Or, even, because it is his biblical imperative to do so: http://jewishatheist.blogspot.com/2007/0...

Is it the size or age of the person involved?  

How is one considered abuse and the other isn't?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_d...

Answer 12

Yes that is exactly what they are saying, I would call it hypocritical.