Why do people look down on you if your having a cheap wedding?

Question

For example,I'm having 50 guests and spending 3500 on the wedding.I bought all my stuff at Walmart,Target,and dollar stores.Why is it such a problem to some people to shop at these stores?Yes,we're a upper middle class couple,but why shop at a store thats gonna take more money from you when you can get something just as nice from these stores?

Answer 1

Don't tell anyone where you bought stuff and they can't complain. If it LOOKS like it came from the dollar store, that's a different problem

Answer 2

i don't see any problem with it, but i guess other people think that you don't care as much. well, im not sure. haha, we may never knoee. =P

Answer 3

Honestly I commend people that have to put the wedding together on a budget. It is harder than some people think to make those dollars stretch - especially when you even mention the word wedding things triple in price. I say good for you. You are spending your hard earned money wisely. Looking back there are so many things that I wish I would have just skipped or not worried about - in the end some things really did feel like a big waste of money.

Good luck with your wedding!!  

Answer 4

Don't worry about what others think, it's a human thing, if you spent too much they would criticize you for that too.

Answer 5

Cheap is one thing, tacky is another. Target and Walmart have great stuff, and even if it looks cheap it can be embellished to class it up a little. A lot of people hear the name of a discount department store and think it's going to look in expensive.

I agree with you--if you can get a great deal on something, why spend more? I bought a book called Bridal Bargains when I was planning my wedding and they had some great ideas to save money. One was to look through the yellow pages under "weddings" for your vendors, rather than bridal magazines. I found a couple who work out of their basement selling invitations and accessories. Because they didn't have to pay rent on expensive store front they charged 50-60% less for the same invitations that the stationary stores sold. I used the 50% off coupon that's in the paper every week for Michaels Craft Store and bought my favors as well as my tiara. I made my own veil for about $5 with material and a comb from a fabric store.

I have a friend who is an "artist" and looks down an anything mass produced. When she came to my house for first time she was admiring many of the things in my home, most of which came from Target.

Answer 6

I have no clue why people look down upon those who CHOOSE to spend less on their weddings. I'm known in my family as the cheapest person alive (inside family joke), and I still managed to pull off my wedding for less then $1,000. But the guests and in-laws ruined my wedding and honeymoon. I should have listened to my husband, and eloped.

Answer 7

Your wedding may be cheap, but your memories are priceless! Anyone who looks down on you are not your friends. Focus on your wedding day, not the small minded petty people. Best Wishes! :-)  

Answer 8

I don't think it is anyone's business how much you spend on your wedding.  If you are on a budget, who cares?  Nobody should look down on you, they don't know what kind of situation you are in, if there is even one.  In the grand sceme of things, and when everything is said and done, its the marriage that counts, not the wedding.  Do what you want, but things from wherever you want and don't worry about what anyone else thinks!

Answer 9

Only jerks and douchebags have the audacity to criticize a couple for having a wedding that is within the couple's financial means.  Ignore them -- they are not worth your brain damage. Congrats on your wedding -- I hope it turns out lovely. :0)

Answer 10

I would not look down on a wedding of this scale, are you sure the "friends" you have invited are really your friends. ?

What happened to the bride and bridegrooms happiness ? I thought that was more important.

Good luck with your wedding I am sure you will look beautiful so dont let anything get you down.

I have to wait till next June till I get married :(

Answer 11

Your wedding is your day and you should choose to do it however you want. Personally, I am a bargain hunter so we were able to have our wedding at a beautiful winery for a fraction of what most brides pay! (We booked really early before the prices went through the roof and we also preferred late Oct / early Nov when it's slow season). I skimped on center pieces, opting for 5 stems of calla lilies and a handful of bear grass, with red rose petals at the base of each vase. Each center piece cost no more than $10! I also found a lady who custom made our truffles for $1 and I made the favor boxes.

For a wedding of 100 people, we spent maybe $7000 on the entire reception, including wine, a full sit-down dinner, our cake (custom made by the winery and SO good!), and cocktail hour.

I was told by our guests that the reception was beautiful and when we told them our cost, no one believed us!

Answer 12

I think it is like being in high school where the rich kids were popular and if you had expensive things you were considered better. I believe if you spend your money wisely then you look better than these people who blow off their money on a wedding that lasts a few hours. I get sick when I hear people spending tens of thousands of dollars when they could get a house or something.  

Answer 13

If you are indeed an 'upper middle class' couple then you will have 'upper middle class' guests, who will undoubtedly know that they weren't worthy of you spending a little cash on them. It would be different if you didn't have any.

Answer 14

I had the most cheapest wedding possible (I got married in Vegas at the Wedding Chapel drive thru window) and I never had anyone belittle me because of my choice. Most people get a kick out of it.

Personally you shouldn't worry about what others think and do what you want. Those are the type of people you don't want to be friends with anyways.

Answer 15

It has to do with other people's feelings of self worth, not socio-economics. Some people think they're "better" by spending more money on unnecessary stuff.  They also think the world thinks they're better.  So when you two, an upper middle class couple, decide that you have nothing to prove by wasting money on useless things, those same people have to question themselves and they don't want to do that because they're already conditioned to think more money = more better!

All the best to you too. Congrats.

Take care!

Answer 16

Don't worry about what other people are saying. It's your wedding and your money, and you can spend it however you like.

Answer 17

It's nice to have a big wedding if you have the budget for it. Otherwise a small wedding could be even better because it could be more intimate and you get to spend more time with the guests than a big wedding.

I think a grand wedding is great but in the end, it's really about the marriage. Don't worry what other people will think. As long as you have a good time that's all that matters. A lot of marriages end up in divorces. I've seen grand weddings that end up in divorces. So really you could have a Vegas wedding but if it lasts until the end then that makes it even more memorable. That's more amazing to tell to your grandkids.

Answer 18

Because people are judgmental, and judging your wedding makes them feel better about themselves (it's immature but true).  It's like etiquette things.  People in everyday life don't follow common etiquette procedures, but as soon as they attend a wedding they become Miss. Freaking Manners and critique EVERYTHING everyone else is doing (that they are doing "more politely").

People suck.  Congrats to you and saving your money for something more important, (and less likely to be judged by others).

Answer 19

A wedding is a sacrament, not a show.  It's your wedding and YOU get to decide what it will be like.  Enjoy the day and ignore the negative comments.