Why do people post pics of their baby and ask "Is my baby cute"?

Question

I'm feeling like a debate this morning! There was a question posted on here earlier asking "Is my baby cute"? The asker went on to say "Does she look younger or is it just me?" and bragged about how petite her daughter is.

This question really concerns me. First of all, why do people have to rely on "cyberstrangers" to reassure them that their children are cute? Isn't it enough for them to know that, and who cares what other people think? I think they maybe think their baby is really ugly and need reassurance.

What really scares me is how proud she was that her daughter is tiny. My daughter is 15 months and tiny also, but that is not something I like to brag about. She is only in the 20th percentile for her age, and I would much rather she be in the 50th!! That mother is setting her child up to fall into society's obsession of thinness and youthfulness and will likely end up being anorexic.

And last, she posted her daughters pic, and full name!

Answer 1

Yeah, I think I saw the same question.

I do (obviously) use my son's pic as an avatar, along with his name... But that's not his full name.  

I personally don't need the reassurance from anyone (much less 'cyberstrangers', lol) to tell me my son is cute.  

While it IS a wonderful thing to hear, I don't come straight out and ask the question.  If you feel like telling me that, then I love to hear it, but don't feel obligated to tell me that.

Did that make sense??? LOL

Answer 2

I think every mother believes that their baby or babys think they have the cutest baby/babys in the world.  Its a mother/father pride and joy.

Answer 3

I think people just like to show off their babies.  When people meet my child I always say, "Isn't he the cutest thing ever?"  I doubt anyone will say no, lol!  I do think that it's wrong to post a child's full name to random people.  Maybe she wasn't reallyl bragging about the baby being petite, she was just saying that she is.  I hope anyway.

Answer 4

I saw that one. I think she KNOWS her daughter is cute, but wants everyone else to know too. She's just bragging.

Answer 5

I dont know, I've seen alot of questions like that before, I personally dont need anyone else to tell me my childs cute, now dont think I dont eat it up when we go to the store and people tell me about how cute my son is, but I dont ask for people to say that, I know he's cute and thats all I need! And about the whole petite thing, that really isn't anything to brag about, my cousins child is very tiny also and she's deffinately not showing it off, I'm only concerned about my child being healthy, some people are only concerned about looks, that child will probably be one like you said that grows up to become obsessed with looks, labels, and what others think of them. But we can hope not. I think the mother meant well, we all like to show our kids off, but putting a pic with a full name on here is CRAZY! I mean not too long ago wasn't it just on the news where someone stalked a pregnant woman so she could have her baby! I mean we live with people like that, it's sad but in this day and time you can't trust anyone, that was a little dangerous to do that!

Answer 6

That's weird. I have 2 girls, and I am biased and think they are the most gorgeous kids ever. I htought all parents felt that way about there own kids. But, listen, that parent might haven hidden anxieties or fears about her child being small and she is looking for comfort and reassurance, which is sometimes easier to hear from stangers with an unbiased opinion than from your friends who are going to tell you what you want to hear.

Also, you don't know anything about the mom(or dad)maybe they had a bad childhood where their dad said they were too fat or too skinny or who knows.Comments like that can really mess a person up in adulthood.

Look at the kid, if the are cute, then tell them so, if not....then don't say anything at all~!

I think all kids are cute in there own special way, don't you?

Answer 7

Awhile back I had one of my daughters pics as my avatar and someone jumped all over me on here saying that I was stupid and I shouldn't be a mom because I had my daughters pic on my avatar!!!!!!!!!

Anyways, I didnt see the particular question youre talking about but I've seen them and they are almost as annoying as the "am i pregnant" questions! I dont need anyone telling me my babies are cute.. I know for a fact that they are the cutest babies in the world.. To ME at least because they are my babies!... I have posted their first and middle names but I'd NEVER post their last names!

Answer 8

I've posted pics of my son up on here(obviously as he's my avatar). However, I have never asked for compliments or reassurance of his "cuteness". I KNOW, without a doubt, that he's the most adorable baby I've seen.

Some parents like to brag on their kids. And why not? It's their right to. What I don't like, though, is the fact that you said she was bragging about how tiny her daughter is. That's the start of something not good. Also posting your child's FULL name could lead to some serious trouble because you never know who is viewing the pictures. I just hope she smartens up.

Answer 9

She thinks she is cute so she's bragging and she wants everyone to agree with her.  I never said my baby is so cute or asked if they were cute.  People always told me.  There is nothing wrong with a petite baby.  My daughter was so petite and now she is 5'2" and she is only 10.  I really don't think you can say that as a baby that she is setting her up to fall into society's obsession of thinness and youthfulness.  I doubt she will end up anorexic.  That is a little extreme.  I think a pic and full name is fine as long as she didn't put down where she lived.  If you don't like the questions that are posted then you don't have to answer them.

Answer 10

first off not being mean here,  lol

but yea i agree thats pretty dumb, i wouldt ask other people if they think my son is cute! i think he is and thats all that matters, but sometimes i look at him and think oh god hes turning into his dad lol!!

im bad at telling people there babys cute, sometimes when it isnt, yes there are some uglybabies out there, expecially newborns and yes my so was an ugly newborn i can say that now :)

but what i always wondered is do people know there babys ugly?  i mean i would know dont u thik you would?

my sis in law has the ugliest baby, well now shes growing out of it thank god! ad i think she knew of course im not gonna go up to her and say "omg ur kids sooooo ugly"!!!  lol what do yall thik?

Answer 11

The percentile thing only matters if your baby jumps up or down drastically. For example, when my little girl was born she was in the 25th percentile. This didn;t make her underweight just that 75 percent of babies born were heavier. SHe is now just over a yr old and still in 25th percentile. This too doesn't mean she's underweight or small for her age as such because this is the percentile she was born on so it's good that she's stayed on the same percentile. Does this make sense?

I would never post my babies pic cos there are too many wierdos and also like you say, i don't need validation that she's the cutest thing i have ever seen ;)